Parents Vs Spouse(Husband/Wife)

@krkavsy (192)
India
December 23, 2009 9:44am CST
Parents are our present. Spouses are our future. Parents gave us birth, educated us and made us eligible for marriage. Spouses be with us till our last breath. They are the ones to look after us in times of crises. They take all our responsibilities. We can share all our joys and sorrows with them. Please share your opinion
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• United States
23 Dec 09
So true krkavsy! Parents give us so much in our developmental years. They prepare us for being in good, stable relationships. Parents mold us and shape us. They give us knowledge, power, and self-esteem. They build us up and appreciate us. They provide all our basic needs and give us love and respect. Spouses continue the journey with us. They take us from our parents and give us love, honor, and commitment. Spouses rejoice with us and take pleasure out of watching us grow into our adult forms. They are with us until the end and continue to care for us for eternity. I am so thankful for all my parents taught me, put me through, provided me with and created for me. I am also thankful to have a spouse who shares in my dreams, allows me to continue growing and provides me with a safe and loving home.
@drannhh (14676)
• United States
24 Dec 09
I do not quite understand the concept of parents making us eligible for marriage. We have a lot of different nationalities here in the US with many different customs, so it does vary, but for the most part there really aren't any eligibility requirements for marriage, just an age limit so that children cannot marry. We also have a pretty high divorce rate so not too many spouses are together until their last breath. Those who are very seldom pass away at the same time so one partner is ultimately left a widow or widower and that person still breathes and often marries again.
@krkavsy (192)
• India
24 Dec 09
Getting married is not a difficult thing but one should be responsible and that is a big thing. Once you get married you will have to look after the house as well as office affairs and that is very tidious. So understanding is the main thing and it is parents who give us the foundation before entering into the married life. The basic etiquette comes from the parents and that is inheritted to us. It is mothers who train us in the kitchen for cooking food, washing clothes and vessels stitching, ironing the clothes etc. They equip us so that we will not struggle after we go to our husband's place.
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@drannhh (14676)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Oh, I see that things are very different where you live. Here very few women go to their husband's place. I do not iron clothes! We have permanent press and the clothes dryer takes the wrinkles out. Husbands can open the door to the dryer and get their own clothes out. It is the same with all the other things that mothers used to teach their daughters. None of that applies any more. I think the labor saving devices we now have helped to change the dreams and expectations of women. Here is the west many women are much less reliant upon their husbands and parents than a generation or two ago. We have much more responsibility now, but with that also comes much more independence.
@krkavsy (192)
• India
19 Jun 10
You are very lucky that way
@vandana7 (38386)
• India
19 Jun 10
I think part of that divide comes because of the society! Parents are not going to last forever, so they have to accept that the spouse is virtually relieving them of their responsibilities. Vice versa, the spouse has to realize that parents would ensure that the relationship is grouted for the better. But outsiders tend to sympathize with one side at a time reinforcing the smaller differences, and making the relationship one of the tougher ones.
• China
23 Dec 09
I am a girl,in my view both of them are very important to me.In the future, I also will become a mother so I can deeply understand how great my parents are.My husband will accompany me in my rest life,and we will cultivate our child and support our old.Therefore,I hope all of us could lead a happy life.
@menolly22 (217)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I agree with you. I have the utmost respect for my parents. And I get along with them really well. So I never have to choose between my parents and my husband. But if I did, it would probably be my husband. He is the one that I chose to spend the rest of my life with. My parents knew they would have to give me up someday. I will have to give up my kids someday. I just pray that I have raised them to be outstanding men and fabulous husbands!