Depression

@hagirl (1295)
United States
December 25, 2009 8:28am CST
I had to go to the doctor while going through my divorce to my first husband.... The DR was asking me all these questions and diagnosed me with depression.... I did not realize I was depressed until it was explained.... Needless to say I was not depressed over the divorce but what I had suffered while being married and all the good years I had wasted on a abusive man.... It was explained because of some of my thoughts and feelings were do to what he called as a disease.....The torment it was doing on my body was enormous....Did anyone ever get diagnosed with Depression that did not quite did not understand that they were depressed.
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@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
26 Dec 09
I've had depression for many years. It took awhile for the doctor to find the right medication for me, but he finally put me on Zoloft which has worked wonders. It keeps my depression under control so that it isn't wreaking havoc in my life. Hopefully your doctor can find the right medication for you, too. Depression is probably the reason you put up with your husband for so long. It gives you feelings of not being good enough to deserve anything better.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
27 Dec 09
I tried to get out several times but he would pull me back in the house by the hair of the head. It was not nice.... I did get out a few times but it was always without my son and I went back because of him...He did always call me dumb and stupid.... After I left him I managed to find and marry a wonderful man, graduated college with a BA and now I am enrolled again for a 2nd degree Associates in Paralegal.... So I am doing fine.
26 Dec 09
Though you are depressed, imagine of all the good things that comes your way. never stick to a certain situation that will only make you suffer in the long run. Depression is not a good thing, so you better fight for it.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
27 Dec 09
I have had alot of good things after leaving my ex.... I am remarried to a wonderful man, graduated with a BA degree and started back to get my Associates in Paralegal..
@balabrahmam (1071)
• India
26 Dec 09
divorce - divorce and think about child
it is very sensitive matter so we also think once agin to proceed divorce so take care of the divorce and trying to understand the spouse and take care all the best
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
27 Dec 09
I got the divorce and I am now remarried to a wonderful man... He has been my rock through all these ailments I am sufferering.... If it was not for him I do not know where I would be at today.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
26 Dec 09
Oh my so happy that you have come out of that abusive situation because depressison is a health hazard.I hope now you will only grow from strength to strength and achieve all your potential.I have never been diagnosed with depression or know anyone who has but here we rarely go to a doctor when we are depresed
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
27 Dec 09
I did not know how Depression effected the body until I started getting treated for it.... It is important to get treated for any ailment you may have so they do not get worse and over take your body in other ways....
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
Depression is difficult really because when time your not about to deal with it can make you crazy.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
27 Dec 09
Your right... You have to grasp on to the cause of the depression and forgive it.... If you don't it will eat you up inside literally....
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
I am sorry to hear that very sad news from you. I know how it feels like to be abused by someone though I haven't experienced this situation personally. Being depressed is indeed a very serious matter that needs to be attended. It's good that you have finally decided to see a doctor. I am pretty sure that if you will just follow with the treatment regimen, you'll get over it soon. I just hope that the treatment will turn out to be successful.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
27 Dec 09
I am dealing with it better now.... I am remarried... If you don't know you have Depression you don't realize how it effects you and everyone around you until you get treatment for it.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Dec 09
hi hagirl Sounds really miserable. I have never been badly depressed but I think we all go through a bit of that when things go badly and its hard to find the right solutions to our problems. I have never been diagnosed with depression 'but know some people have really suffered with it. I have had to learn to cope with stress though as it shoots my blood glucose way up. so I imagine myself in a bubble that is magic and will not let any stress into it at all. thus it just rolls off my magic bubble.no stress no rise in blood sugar. no stress no depression either.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
27 Dec 09
I was so depressed with my ex I use to say I was in Debbie's World.... It was so peaceful when I would go into my past with my family... You see when I was with him I was not allowed to do anything with my mom,dad or sisters so I was not a happy camper.... He used to get mad at me and hit me cause I used to tell him that Debbie's World was better than real life.... I guess I did say some things to antagonize him but he deserved every harsh word i gave him over the years even if I had to pay the price for my opinion
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
Depression from any person goes in different forms. Some are really not aware that they have the depression syndrome because usually it is a matter of denial stage especially when the topic is focused more on loved one. Sometimes, we often think why some people do still love an abusive man. If you are not the one in that shoes, then you can easily say " it's foolishness to stay with an abusive man" but if you are in that situation , " you cannot be blame because you are married and sacrifices are needed to make for the relationship to go stronger" The question for that is, HOW can you prove that you are loved when you are abused? or how far can you still go with that kind of treatment? Wasting chances can be a form of depression. For regrets are still encountered. Out of many people suffering from depressions, only few claimed they are depressed because they do not want others to sympathize with them or maybe she has really a strong character to defense herself. People have many strategies to overcome depressions. It is a matter of accepting the awful truth and recovering from it by having a positive outlook in life.
• United States
25 Dec 09
I have been suffering from this for years. I am hoping 2010 will be a better year for me. I hope you get better soon as well. it is a terrible thing to live with.
@vandana7 (98830)
• India
26 Dec 09
Hope things will improve for you SharonJohnson. We pray for you. Yes, it is a terrible thing to live with. But it is also something we can get out of. It is self created, and therefore, it should be destroyed by us alone.
• India
26 Dec 09
no friend take it as a positive stress its called EU-STRESS.and you are not depressed you are tensed. don't worry in life sorrow and joy both take place.