Do you laugh when you get hurt by your lover?

@skalijnp (147)
India
December 25, 2009 9:19am CST
My dear friends it might sound like stupid. But I do so. I am laughing still because I have just come to know that the girl whom I am loving for last four years She does not love me. Since four year she was acting with me. When I came to know it I felt very hurt. But now I have decided that whenever I will see her any time any where I will give her a salutation with saying "Heads off to you" for your acting. As I could understand today that she was acting with me, I am laughing at myself.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
26 Dec 09
Are you sure she was acting the whole time? I can't imagine anyone investing 4 years of their life into pretending to love someone just for the heck of it. I'm sure she loved you and for whatever reasons you grew apart.
@skalijnp (147)
• India
31 Dec 09
For 4 years I also know that she also love me more than my life. But after her that behavior I totally exhausted. I can't judge anything properly. From the next day I saw her with another. Now you tell me, was my thought wrong?
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
31 Dec 09
You saw her with another man? And you are sure that they were together intimatly? If that is true, I'm so sorry I'm sure it hurts a lot. Still that doesn't mean that she was faking and acting the whole time. It could mean that at some point she stopped loving you and rather than be honest with you as she should have been she was stringing you along.
@jackie07 (40)
26 Dec 09
It hurts a lot, knowing that the person you love for 4 years is just acting loving you. How that happen? I think she love you also but not the way that you love her. If she's acting for that 4 years of relationship then you really have to bow for what she did. Your right Heads off but it kind of hard to do that. May I know her reason for doing that. Have she this to you that she just acting? Yeah that's all you can do is to laugh bout that.
26 Dec 09
I mean does she have the chance to tell everything to you?
@skalijnp (147)
• India
31 Dec 09
No my dear friend I will not give her a little chance to apology because after that I can control my tears. So, I want to be like that I am now. I don't know why I feel such.
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
We all respond to stressful situations differently.I guess you are still in the "delayed reaction" stage wherein your mind is still trying to process your emotions. This is the body's way of responding to a very difficult emotion, a defense mechanism. It will take time, but sooner or later, you will be feeling the aftermath of rejection. I was just wondering why the girl took four years to break it off. If it were me, If I don't like a guy, you don't to prolong the agony. You have to tell him right away. The most for me to determine if a guy is worth it is after two to three dates.
26 Dec 09
I tend to always say "ow" whenever she hurts me, even when it didn't actually hurt, it's just a natural reaction, but I usually laugh afterwards (unless I'm bleeding or something similar). But then she always gets really upset and apologises profusely no matter how much I tell her I'm fine, which makes me laugh even more, yet she still never believes I'm alright. And I've also noticed I tend to say "ow" whenever someone hits the door or when I drop my fork or things like that... I have no idea why, but it's always good for a laugh.
• India
26 Dec 09
Hi skalijnp, I know you don't like her now because she hurts you but first love is first love we never forget whole life i also like one person but i like him from 5 years and i never hurts him i really feel bad for you. now a days we are not really close to each other because some misunderstanding with us.but i really love him.you are a nice person and god may bless you some person say that god always right with us.
@syaryel (155)
• Malaysia
26 Dec 09
hai skalijnp, you know what, I also laugh when hurt by my lover..judging from her respond, I know its kind of weird..but honestly, its some sort of a defense mechanism which can ease the pain...so ladies, now you know eh? haha..
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
26 Dec 09
Hi, skalijnp. I am very sorry to hear that your lover has played you all of this time. That was very mean of her. If I was you, I would just move on and save your tears. I guess with you, you are laughing because you have felt stupid. But she will be soon laughed at, when she discovers that the man she threw away is no longer in love with her, but with someone else. That will be the joke. Now who is laughing at who?
@zjonier (39)
• China
26 Dec 09
I think maybe you still love her very much though she hurt you.Now you know she doesnt love you ,the best thing you can do is leave her. If I hurt by my honey,I ignore him first .When he think about it clearly,he maybe come back to me.Maybe sometimes it is misunderstanding.We need communication.
@DOLLYBABY (2536)
• United States
26 Dec 09
i wouldn't know what to do until am in the situation but many times i been taken for granted,but usually when i see that person around i tried my best to avoid and possible ignore them cause am filled with anger and that made me so furious.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
The same thing happened to my guy friend. He and his girlfriend are together for many years, I think more than two years. He was also deceived by his ex-girlfriend (now) that they are doing good together but actually she was cheating him for so long. I asked him how could you not know? Are you that dumb to be cheated like that? then he answered me he was blinded and the girl was really a good actress and manipulator.