the advantages being a teen mom

Philippines
December 29, 2009 1:29am CST
these days, there are several women who are becoming mothers before they reach eighteen. I'm one of these women and i can tell that there are several things that it can take. One is you freedom because you have responsibility at a very young age, another is that you will be confused of the things that a mother should do for their children. The advantage is that you will understand everything that your mother is doing, how she raise you like that, or like this. The most important thing is that you will learn to be responsible enough for your child as your mother did and of course you will have a great inspiration in your life and struggles.
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@kehl10 (83)
• United States
2 Jan 10
Hiii Mariusa....Well im 15 years old and i have beautifull baby girl...and i think ur right im very young that makes alot of things harder then i thought,before i use to think having a baby was like the easiest thing ever but now that i have one is not easy i really dont regret having my baby girl i think is the most inportant thing that ever happend to me....life has showed me so many stuff that now i think twice before making a decisison now im more machure than before now i dont only think about my self but about my baby too........Only some people understand what im goin triugh the ones that are goin trough the same thing too but ur never alone theres some one thats always goin to give you a hand...!!!!!!!!!!!!! sincerily:Sonia herrera:]
@SJShaw (4)
• United States
31 Dec 09
Hello mariusa, I have read your post as well as others. First I would like to start off by saying I was pregnant with my oldest son at the age of 14, I gave birth at 15 and was married by the age of 16. Many people say you miss out on so much but when you really look at it the things that you miss out on are not what makes you who you are. No I did not go to prom but I got to hear my sons first words and there is no greater gift than one that a child brings. I am not at all condoning teenage pregnancy but I am a firm believer that what's done is done and all you can do is be the best mommy you can be! I am now 27 and I just had my second child. My oldest has straight A's, is active in sports, and has the greatest personality a mother could ask for. I would not change one thing! When you struggle just remember you are making a difference!
@Amigone (44)
• United States
30 Dec 09
There are no advantages to being a teen mom. It's good that you have taken some of the disadvantages and turned them into postives for yourself but overall, having a baby in your teens is always going to be a struggle. You're going to miss out on things, you're are forced to grow up quickly. When you look back on that I'm sure you will be happy with the person you became for your child but i am also sure you wouldn't wish it on them. All the things that you are listing can just as easly be obtained when a person is mature and ready to be a parent. Parenthood is a choice. No one has to be a parent. You can chose to wait or you can chose not to. That is up to the person. I am not getting on anyone for thier choices, everyone must lead thier own life. You have made yours as I have made mine. However, I am saying that it is folly to try and turn something that is very disadvantages into an advantage. But you have to make the best of your situation. Whatever that is. Best of luck to you.
• China
30 Dec 09
i think the only advantage of being a teen mom that's you do not suffer more when born the baby.as we know the older the mother is .the harder to born a baby. but you may have no own time to pursue your own goals and dreams .you only concertrate everything with your baby.
@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
29 Dec 09
It must be hard being a teenage mother. I suppose there might be some advantages but whenever I think of a teenage mother the first things that always pop up are always the disadvantages. The first, of course, is losing your freedom because you are now responsible for another human being. It's great that some can handle this but I've known some girls who were not ready to be a mother. They had kids when they were 14 or 15 and they were not prepared for motherhood. I actually knew a few who didn't even bother to take care of their own kids. They would pawn the child off on their parents and continue doing whatever it is people that age do. Another disadvantage I can think of is whether or not the person can support the child. It's nice if the father or the parents are there to offer emotional as well as financial support but that's not always the case. How will those girls be able to raise and support their baby?
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Hi mariusa, welcome to mylot! Well, I think becoming a teen mom has more disadvantages than advantages to be honest. Still, if the mother is mature enough to take on the responsibility and struggle to overcome the obsticles then I think that it can work out just fine. I think a strong family support system is very important. I have actually seen some girls turn their lives right around. They've taken the responsibility and finished their education and turned out to be very good moms. It sounds like you are one of those girls. Best of luck to both you and your baby!
@Hazelrose (2185)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
Hi mariusa,Welcome to mylot! There were lots of advantages and disadvantages too.Being a mom at the age of 19, I've learned so many things about married life and taking care of my children .Mother hood is not easy and i work hard for it.Although,i did not finished my studies,i can say that i'm fortunate enough,because me and my husband raised our children as what they are now. My family are my inspiration,to struggle and to work hard for their success.Any way, we were just like brothers and sisters.Have a nice day!