how do we connect with our little babies?

@iona84 (18)
Romania
December 29, 2009 2:08pm CST
Hi, I'm a young mother and wife. I have 25 years old, am married for 2 years and we have a beautifull baby boy of almost 11 months. When my baby was a new born I was wandering all the time what can I do to connect with my baby, what can I do in order for him to recognise me, how can I play with him being so small and fragile?! Now that he has grown a little bit, he started to recognise me, play more and sleep less but I'm still not sure what to do in order to connect with him...if I'm doing the right thing or enough...some advise from "qualified" moms will be great!!!
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4 responses
• United States
30 Dec 09
Its so exciting to be a new mom. I just had my first baby and I love the time I spend with my daughter. I have done alot of reading on interacting with babies and I try so many things to connect and stimulate. The most important thing you can do with your baby is play, in any way you both like. If your baby is smiling, then your doing good. Some things I have recently started are really good bath time, and baby yoga. For the bath time, I actually get in the tub every night in my bathing suit with my daughter. This is very time consuming, but its worth it right now. The baby yoga is also great, as it promotes health, as well as great eye communication between us. If your interested there are dvd's available, as we dont all have time to go to the gym!
@iona84 (18)
• Romania
30 Dec 09
I wish I could go in with my baby in bath but firstly - I stay with my mother in law and she doesn't agree with that and I think that it's too early for thatt. My husband will do that when my baby will be able to stay on his feet ;). About yoga baby...I've never heard of it but I'm realy interested in that...for me also...maybe you can tell me a link or a name where to look for it. Thank you for your answer and good luck!
• United States
30 Dec 09
Hi! The dvd that I use is called Mom and Baby Fitness, by Parenting magazine. I bought it from Target for only $12.99. It is a great yoga and pilates exercise. I must warn you though, it can be very hard at first, I am using muscles that I swear I have never used before, but its great for my body and great for me and baby time. Good luck!
@angelsmummy (1700)
29 Dec 09
I have 2 children one is 4 months and the other is 18 months so I think I may be the answer you are looking for... Hopefully. Well your baby will let you know if he is enjoying what you are doing or not. My youngest loves rough play, but you can only be so rough with her because of her age, she gets frustrated if she sees other children getting thrown around. My oldest is the opposite she loves gentle play. With my youngest we sing row, row, row your boat and do actions and she really enjoys that. With my oldest we play with her prams and paint and all sorts of things like that. Try different things, if he doesnt like it he will make sure you know about it! Just try not to worry about whether you are doing it right or wrong what matters is that you are being the best mum you can be! I really do hope this helps, if you need any advise add me as a friend and PM me when needed.
@iona84 (18)
• Romania
30 Dec 09
Your advice realy helps especially because my son is similar with your 4 months one! He is impulsive and gets realy angry if he doesn't like something or is not allowed to do something. I try to keep a balance between letting him do whatever he likes and trying to keep him away from those actions which could harm him. Thank you for the good advice and friend request!
30 Dec 09
Yes well I am happy to help! If I can help someone with parenting then it means I am doing a good job with my 2! Its amazing how quick babies know what they do and dont like!
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
30 Dec 09
You have been intimately connected with your child ever since the day he was conceived. He listens to the songs you sing, and the words you say, he listens and the words are in his thoughts. He recognized your smile, long before he could smile in return. He is actually much more connected with you, than you are with him. This is because your thoughts are varied, and all about a busy life. His are on his being, but focused on Mom, and what she's doing and where she is. Your child is only now learning to respond and show his recognition, but he has known you, and been connected intimately ever since day one.
@iona84 (18)
• Romania
30 Dec 09
Very nice you wrote and I believe you but I just didn't feel it till he was 9 months old. He then started to look for me and that was only when he was tired or hungry...I'm not complaining about it, I want him to be sociable but I just feel envious sometimes!
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
Talking to your baby all the time and giving him your gentle touch always is the best way to connect.