Did you ever want to get married so bad?

I'm now 51 years. When I was 27 I did have that feeling. I just felt that I was ready for marriage life, I finished my master's degree, and I started working, and most of my friends are happily married, so I thought it's wise to settle down now. I did, and I divorced 7 years later. But that feeling came again when I passed 35. Luckily I didn't give in, because I thought maybe it's just one of those seasons that we have to pass ( In Indonesia, people calls it the second puberty..LOL). Now I've decided I'm happy being single.

I for myself do not want to get married just because left by the train. I have many unfinished plans for myself and career. It is my choice to do this for me and family. I really do not rush myself for I know that If I am destined to meet the partner for my life then time can wait for us.

I did have a yearning to get married for a couple of years. But after all the experiences I've been through, in a relationship, now certainly not. It doesn't excite me anymore. I find all this nothing but just a trick of the mind, and we all get caught up in it. There could be excitement in getting married, having a nice family etc. But it's not an everlasting happiness. Marriage can never bring everlasting happiness and security, if we don't learn to be happy with ourselves first. That's the first step, which many of us don't achieve. I guess it's better to be single and be happy and independent, travel around, live in different places and visit different countries. Would be a great experience that way, than stay committed, and fight and argue everyday, betray each other... Marriage is a nightmare for me at this point of time, and I can't believe I was yearning to get married.

hello laydee, good question. luckily, am still a bit young, going for twenty six very very very soon i think. i know my brothers had already gone tie the knot thing but some how i don't feel getting married, besides the feeling of being a bit lonely when ever i see people with kids and spouses alike. some how, i feel more happy being single since i need and want to live my life first and get things to complete myself before i can share it with some one.

I am 33,female,single. I planned to get married when i was around that age, 28-30, but it failed.then last year, i planned the same thing,but i dated the wrong guy who didn`t tell me the truth about his previous marriage..Sometimes i feel in a hurry,especially when i see that almost all of my friends are already married with kids. Then, isee different reality that some of them decided to go divorce..Then, don`t feel in that rush..I want to get married after i find someone who lives me and i,love him too,he can understand me and take me as i am, and can be reponsible and ready to have commitment. Now, i enjoy being single, but still,searching for the best.

Maybe it's because I'm 27 that I still don't feel any hurry for getting married, but I doubt I will ever feel it. Marriage is something that shouldn't be taken lightly, and I don't think that being in love equals to have to get married, but being in love+needing the law benefits that marriage provides is. Otherwise I don't think it's worth it.

When I was young I hated living with my parents. I still at 26 could never go back and live with them. I wanted out of that house so bad. My boyfriend who was living with us moved into his dads house with me to get out of my parents house. After a few months his dad wanted us out so he could rent out the house. So my parents let us move into a house they owned but no one was living in. I was so intent on getting married but then I got afraid thinking maybe I was doing the wrong thing. My mother and my sister told me if I didnt marry this guy that no one would ever put up with me. So since I was so terrified of being alone as it was I was way to afraid hearing that to back out of things. I got married to him and I have been miserable for 6 years. It was a complete mistake to marry him. We are nothing alike. We have no common interests and we cant agree on anything. It causes a lot of fights. We have a 2 year old son and a 5 year old daughter and I'm calling it quits with this loveless marriage.

there is a certain age when we feel that it is time to do and accomplish something. we just feel it. for example, the thought of getting married starts when we feel we are ready for it, even if we have or have no partner at hand in the moment. for ladies, the period of making such decision is shorter than guys for obvious reasons. because of the exposure to culture and peers, we evaluate ourselves according to what we know and feel. getting married is one decision and action that comes at a certain age. if it passes, that feeling will ease down. then there are no more guys that pass our standards for a potential partner.

I used to talk about it when I was a kid playing house. As I got older it didnt seem important. I had my daughter so young and he turned out to be so terrible that I was thankful I didnt marry him. Its only since I have met Alejandro 5 years ago that marriage became important. I cant imagine being away from him. I am engaged now and cant wait until the day comes that we are married. Even though we live as we are married I cant wait until the day comes that I can be legally his wife. That will be my finest moment. dl

Hi Laydee, I am 25 years old, and i got married last month. So i might not be answer your question about when the age come to 28, but i have serval female friend who is about 28,29, 30, 32. Just like you said, they all saying that when they are 28 to 29, they want to get married so bad because everyone around them are getting married, living happily, and some of them going to have babies soon. When when they get into 30th, they just feel that they don't need a man anymore, they can take good care of themselves.

no! well i am just 19. I am in no hurry to get married. I am free not much responsibilities...its good. well at least thats wat i feel now.

well I am male and I did not want to get married just sort of happened. plus with three kids later. we do have our ups and downs but I guess we get through it. I remember when I was young I wanted a kid so badly, what did I know about having a kid. I was age 15 at the time, thinking that I had all the answers in the world. I am 26 now. I had my first child at 19. but now I release it is not as easy as most of us think it is. you may not worry about as much since you have had the time to be alone and you getting comfortable. you should try to find someone who can relate to you and can share the same things you like.