So how many new wives are we supposed to accept in our family?

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I have an uncle, my father's brother, who is not a very nice person. He was never a very good uncle but he was always expecting us, me and my sister, to love him and dedicate our time to him when he wanted. That was rarely and mostly to go run to the store to buy him something, or to keep company to his daughter or to babysit on his son for free. I never liked him a lot but I was respectful because he is my father's brother This year my uncle, who is 58 years old, had left his second wife and moved in with his lover. He started drinking heavily too. He visited us several times and he was drunk each time, smelled like alcohol terribly and he expected us to receive him as he was the best uncle in the world, and what was the worst he kept staring at my breasts, I felt terrible, he is my uncle for Good Sake! I don't have any feelings (not romantic ones but the ones we have for our family, platonic love) towards him, I don't consider him to be member of our family as I saw him maybe twice a year whole my life. I consider him a stranger who never put any effort to be good uncle to his brother's daughters. So now when he left his second wife he came to our house to introduce a new love of his life. I said hello, introduced myself to the woman and went back to my room. My mother, my father and my sister sat with him and his lady in the living room. They offered him coffee and same snacks but didn't offer him any alcohol because my mother can't stand him drunk and he was drunk already. A few days after that visit my father went to spend some time with him and when he came home he said that his brother said he would never come to visit us again because we weren't good hosts and that we didn't receive his wife in the proper way. I was astonished. I don't know what was he expecting a big family dinner in his new lover's honour? I think that he should consider himself lucky we don't avoid him when we meet him on the street. He though we weren't behaving properly, although everyone said the evening was pleasant. He was the one to complain!!! I mean, where was he when I was little? He wasn't much of an uncle so how dares he to expect me to treat him like one? The visit before that one he kept staring in my breast, how can he expect I felt for him nothing else but disgust? He was drunk, he smelled terribly because he drinks whiskey and whiskey smells like hell. He can consider himself lucky we even dedicated our time to him. All his life he had a bunch of money and he never had time for us, now when he is in financial troubles now he calls my Dad all the time. And about his wife...I know that the poor woman has no blame...although I don't think that a normal woman would take under her wing a man who was divorced twice before and was an addicted alcoholic...anyway, how many wives do we have to great in our family. As I said I don't consider him as part of the family and I haven't considered family his first two wives, specially the second one because she was the most hideous person I've ever met, always superior and such a hypocrite. [b]What do you think? Am I a bad person for not loving my uncle? Am I a bad person for showing him my lack of affection towards him? Are you in good relations with your uncle? Do you have one? Are we supposed to love our family and forgive them everything just because they are family? If we are supposed to love our family just because they are our family aren't we supposed to expect the same in return?[/b]