When People Insult You , Then Tell You To "LIGHTEN UP" ........

India
January 6, 2010 11:15pm CST
Hi friends , I can't stand people like this... don't you hate it when people insult you , and then when you tell them you don't appreciate that remark ... they tell you to "Lighten Up" or "You should learn how to take a joke" or even better ... "Don't be so negative ! " Basically , these are cop outs or platitudes , people use and live by ... and try to make the person they insulted out to be the jerk ( when they are the jerk themselves ) this makes them unaccountable for their actions , and thus rationalize their behaviour . Anyone know or have met people that do this ?
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@syankee525 (6296)
• United States
7 Jan 10
oh lord yes.. they like to run off with thier mouth saying the most hatful things to others, and as soon someone say something back to them they get upset and then its like why are you upset with me? they think they can do or say anything they want to people and the person shouldnt get upset at them. until they try it with me. then they really get mad at me because i will give it right back to them without getting mad. my thing is and tell them this, if you dont want me or anyone else something to you and then keep your big mouth shut. you treat others as you would other to treat you. old saying if you cant take the heat stay out of the kitchen. but sometime if you dont allow them to get to you then they will stop. sometime.
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@arym72 (49)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
I have a friend like that!..But I take the insults and shrug it off because the real thruth is I am confident with myself and she was just so jealous and bitter.
@DUnada (2)
7 Jan 10
Indeed This is when you bust out the extremely big words straight from a dictionary and fry their brain with your superior knowledge.
• Australia
7 Jan 10
hi friend,if the people are insulting me ,first i feel hurted ,then i used to think of the situation,either there must be a truth in it or it should me a lie...if its a truth ..make all ur angry in the positve manner ,if its lie and they dont understand you..just ignore it..simple
@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Jan 10
yeah and sometimes that's a way to downplay abusive behavior too. No, I don't like it much and yeah I know people like that.
@snowcat46 (2323)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Oh yes. It's a passive aggressive way to knock people down, without really admitting (to yourself as well as the other) that you're deliberately hurting them. But that's what it is. It is a calculated attack on you, but hidden behind the 'lighten up' or 'take a joke.' It isn't said as a joke, it's meant, but by using those words they refuse to be accountable for saying it. It's kind of a way of being mean, but making the other person wonder if they really meant it. They did. They just want you to not be sure of it. This person is NOT a friend.
• United States
7 Jan 10
I guess I should feel good not to know these people. I know it would have been a fight if I did. I don't play that mess with people who act like that. I try to be civil everywhere I am. But,these people would make me fight.
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi, I know this will sound a bit weird but I don't think anybody has the capability to insult me. Its our inflated ego that insults us. I know there are people who are like cactus, and that is because they are not happy themselves. One who is not satisfied with one's own life will always try to humiliate and insult others. Thats the basic rule here. But there is another thing, to be or not to be insulted is totally your choice. Like I said, we don't insult each other. My ego insults me, your ego insults you. So the most appropriate solution will be to build enough self confidence and to be satisfied for what you are and what you have and then be thankful to God for making you the way you are. Take care God bless you
@Genericbe (1379)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
I have met that kind of people. just accepted the fact that he has different style of expressions. I will rather not entertain negative thoughts. It will bring no good to a person. It will just lower your self esteem.