Ever tested how long your patience is?

Philippines
January 8, 2010 4:04am CST
watching over 4 little kids wherein one of them requires special needs is really tough! fighting over toys, crying, running around, watching them when they're sick and a looooottt of those scenarios that will really test your patience. and once im fed up, i will shock their world with a tremendous shout! but i still manage to smile at the end of the day upon recalling all those experiences. ever tested your long patience guys? when do you think you'll explode? happy mylotting
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@maximax8 (27389)
• United Kingdom
8 Jan 10
I developed my patience on my trip around the world when I was 20 years old. My first son was born when I was 22 years old. My second son was born when I was 34 years old and he is disabled. My daughter was born when I was 36 years old. My toddler son goes to a playgroup for special needs children. I handle my children in a gentle to firm way. They have love and attention from me. I like to watch Super Nanny and Nanny 911 to learn and develop very good parenting techniques. Nanny uses a warning and then a time out session. She likes to develop language. She always has lots of patience.
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• Philippines
9 Jan 10
oh that sounds good coz you have a better age gap on your kids. i first daughter was born when i was 31. i really plan on having 4kids but with my age during that time, cant seem to follow any family planning so i had my 2nd child after 2years, followed by the 3rd and 4th child respectively. i think i should watch that super nanny. thanks so much maximax8
@celticeagle (117268)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Jan 10
Four kids is just too many! I would have a meeting and tell the kids what is expected of them. Rules of the house, how they are expected to treat one another, etc. I would get some fun little toys, games,trinkets, etc. at a dollar store and have them for kids that go by the rules you have set down at the meeting. Shouting is scarey. And, as you have probably noticed- IT DOESN'T WORK!! If they have incentive to be good then you only have to remind them. I would explode if I didn't have something like this in place. I have no long patience. I either have to leave or blow a gasket.
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
oh celticeagle toys even make things worst. i even tried giving them identical toys so one wont fight over the other but as i said, it even make things worst. there ages are 7, 5, 4 and 3. i just dont know if having a meeting will work. but i'll try it. i like the incentive thing. takes so much for sharing. happy mylotting
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@celticeagle (117268)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Jan 10
Well, if sharing is an issue then that would have to be discussed and adhered to or they don't get a 'prize' for going by the rules. And I would put some thought into the gifts and each one that gets one would have to share it. Sharing is very important. Or, if they can be good and share they would all get an added bigger gift added to their toy make-up. BUT ONLY IF THEY SHARE IT! And it would be a bigger ticket item. Something to give them insentive to be good and go by the rules. And it might be a good idea to put very basic rules on a list and hang it some where so you can go to it often. Or if they all share and are good they get to go somewhere special. Anything that makes them mind and go by the rules. Works with my grandson!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
11 Jan 10
There are definitely days that will test my patience. The days that are like this are typically the long days with my nieces. Once a week I end up with two three-year-olds and one one-year-old for about nine hours and those are the longest days for me. The kids will fight and just constantly nag me and at times they are not able to play nice together. Sometimes, I do end up screaming at the children, but like you I always do find something to smile about at the end of the day.
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
Actually, patience is the trait which I need to develop. I have a very short tolerance on almost every issue.
@enieweiz (98)
9 Jan 10
when i tested my patience it wasn't about children because i still don't have one and i don't think i would want soon since i'm still in college. it was tested during a relationship. it was pretty hard and heartbreaking because i was hoping that someday that guy would want me again and accept me for me not because of who he wants me to be. it was pretty awful to be staying patient with someone you know will never ever change. so, that's how my patience was tested.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
9 Jan 10
Hi, drakesuyat. Having three kids, I tend to explode everyday! My patience is tested daily. That is how I did at an daycare that I was working at. The Afternoon School aged kids were being very noisy and loud in the classroom. So, I kept telling them to be quiet. And they never would. I had to raise my voice once and when I did, the entire class froze! They was so shocked that I could get loud like that. I was tired of yelling at them. That is why I would never choose to work in a daycare center again. It is bad enough that I have to fuss at my own kids when I come home from work. This job is something when you have kids of your own! I have been there and done that!
@magara (31)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
When it comes to my family and friends my patience is well tested. There are times that they are forcing you to get mad and loose your temper. Sometimes I can't control that but once you think of they are your family and you love them so much everything will comes back to normal. You're blood pressure becomes normal, you're not shaking anymore and you can finally smile. I guess to be patient is to learn when to stop acting as one. Because how would someone know if s/he is annoying or s/he is doing something that's not right.