Confused.

I would take this one real slow....sounds like he did not take your relationship too seriously before and now would like to hook up now and then...or play but still is not serious. So unless 'just playing' is what you are looking for, I would not be quick to walk down that road again. Best wishes!

Well, I don't know you that well, but it seems like you are trying to read into his actions, things that may not be there. I can't answer this except to think, what would I do if I were you? Well, I would consider him gone. As in gone. I would assume his flirts mean nothing. After all, if he meant something by them, he wouldn't have ended the relationship. See, I think that sometimes girl try and read into things, stuff that isn't there. Guys are generally more direct and straight forward than many suggest. Back when I was going to my parents church, oh so many years ago, there was this girl there that I had been nice to. I'm nice to people because it's the right way to be, not because I have some hidden agenda. But this girl thought that there was some super secret message being sent, that I was attracted and interested in her. Then one time we went to an amusment part as a group, and she arranged for 'us' to be left alone. Six of us together riding rides, then suddenly 4 of them left and told us to have fun. Instantly it was just me and this girl alone. Being the amazingly quick guy that I am, still didn't catch on to what happened until the ride home that night. Sadly she figured out real quick that there was nothing between us, and never was. I hadn't intended to trick her into some grand scheme to break her heart. I had just been friendly to her, like anyone else. The same thing happened just two years ago, when I was working at a company and they hired on a girl. Nice girl, very pretty, but still no attraction, no interest, nothing like that. One day she asked to listen to my Ipod. My first thought was that she might steal it. Tells you where my mind was. But I let her borrow it anyway, and since I have a very peculiar taste in music, I asked if there was any songs she liked. She mentioned one song, and a few days later I saw the CD with the song, at the store. I bought it, and gave it to her as a little gift. Suddenly she thought I was 'Mr. Right', and was hounding me a date and all this stuff. I won't go into how that turned out, but the point is, she read into the action something that wasn't there. So what I would do, is simply accept what he has said and done to this point. He broke up with you. I would accept that, and assume everything else he does is just a guy being flirty. It doesn't mean anything else. When he matures enough to say specifically what he wants, or doesn't want, then I'll listen to him. Otherwise you are likely just creating your own heart break, like the two girls that read into my actions.

Well I think you need to ask yourself first and foremost whether you want to get back together with him? Do you like him still? Do you want to spend more time with him and be intimate with him? The important thing in all these questions is what YOU want. He maybe giving you mixed signals but it depends whether you are willing to get back with him or not. If you are, then respond similarly like flirt back etc. If you are not then treat him as you would a girlfriend. :)

I don't know what to say to u............ coz ur bf and my ex gf are acting more or less similar.............. though i initiated our relation and it went on smoothly for over a year until she wanted to end it........... and i didn't force anything and ended our relation............. that was 8 month ago............. suddenly she started contacting with me............... she is calling atleast twice a day ........... talking over 30min everytime........ she is giving me hints to restart our relations again............ yesterday she even asked me to meet her............ so we r in more or less similar region of life.... :) :)

it seems that he is not at serious, getting in relationship with you.. he just wants you as his time pass.. dont mind my words but this can be the truth.. you might be nothing but a time paas for him.. dont be with him again and forget him.. he is not at all serious about you.. hope you will understand me and will try to maintain distance from him.. good luck..!!

when you had broke up with him then whose fault in this . If his fault so dont move another time for him ..if urs so i would like to tell you go and live with him....

Dear jimeny, I just like to say that you got to play your cards the way it suits your life. It doesn't matter even if the whole world is turning left and you choose to turn right - seriously, it doesn't. As long as your final destination is clear and the clarity also extends towards how you want to maneuver your life - that will do. But the bottom line is that you must be extremely clear about your route you are going to undertake and be focus in your path. If you have already 'wasted' years, I think the least you could help yourself is to avoid adding more years to the 'wastage'. I don't think you want to end up realizing that the path you opt to take is but some short-lived passion and drop out of it halfway through your journey. This is your life my dear - only you know yourself best. Live your dreams and in turn, your dreams will inspire you to live. Take care and have a nice day.

I am sad to hear that your boyfriend forgots about the words he told you. Seems like he is not serious with you when dating. If i were you, i will not agree to be his girlfriend again. I am too scared to be hurt once more. Maybe both of you can keep a distance as a normal friend.

Hello, Sounds very simple, where is the scope of confusion here? It sounds like he never actually had a REAL relationship with you. Its you who was always serious and sincere about it. One mistake most of us make is that continue having relationships even after break up. That makes you more vulnerable day by day. A break up is not that easy. Its a slow and long process. A total detachment is possible only if you start to physically detach from him. I think, there should have been a sufficient time gap after the break up. We fail in relationships because we don't give a ruined relationship sufficient consideration. I think, as humans we have every right to make mistakes. But Learning from mistakes is always a much elevated achievement. God bless you

For me, i would say he is not serious with you anymore. Maybe all he wants is friendship.He flirts with you,well u know guys , they love to make fun of girls.Don't let him make fun of you. Im sure you are a pretty lady and theres lots of guys who will appreciate your beauty. Play by the ear (^_^) ...

According to me, that is, from my point of view, you may sustain your communication way like that. I can say nothing wrong or problematic in that. But on top of that, you have to show him that you are living a different life now, apart from him as your ex lover. I didn't say that you have make a distance on him, but the thing is, if he loved you, even if you broke up (i must admit that this might happen sometime), he would never treat you like that. I also take the possibility that he still in a way to be connected with you, but i think that is not the way, especially when you say that he didn't remember much about you. I know that he was part of your life, but i think that there maybe some other better way to behave. Well, that's just my opinion though, i hope you can solve it.

Dear jimeny: I sank into familiar this kind of vague feeling to be honest. What you said that he did not really remember much about you, but you still remembered all about his stuff, at this point, you should not have tortured yourself unnecessarily. Love is a feeling of moments, it will definitely alter and decrease over time and moods. Have you seen a book about how to deal with love and coordinate with your better half named "Men are from Mars, Wonmen are form Venus"? If you are eager to discover the replies between yours problems, please make a reference to the book. Here is the most important thing comes from my own experience, which keep your attention on your family(After this lifetime, you will not see each other anymore)and your own career(It is completely your own responsibilities and decions, whether to eat shark fin or rice noodle ). We are not able to change others' thought, and we are not going to bare them mistakes either! Just enjoy what you want to live and wait the man who really make you understand that he love you~~ Good Lucy and Take Care!