Trust issues

January 14, 2010 10:12am CST
Who here's got em? Who here doesn't? Be honest. I have em, and I have reasons for having them! I try to be more trusting of people, but it is hard! I am a cynical person, and no matter how positive I try to be, there's always this niggling little voice in the back of my head that tells me to be realistic. For instance, a girl I have recently started seeing lives with her ex girlfriend and it doesn;t help that she lives 90 miles away! She has explained the situation to me, and I trust her, but part of me is always going to wonder..... Who here has difficulty trusting? What would you think if you were in my shoes?
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@angela018 (143)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
hello!! well i just want to shre my experience to you.. at first, my friend get easily get my trust.. it one day, my friend back bites at me. so it is really painful o accpe the fact. and it happen to broke my trust. from that day, i never trusted anybody easily, that i feel that they will betray me again.. so for me.. u need to know more about that person to earn your trust
23 Jan 10
Maybe youre right.
• United States
14 Jan 10
I dont think i have trust issues just with every day people but in relationships i do have huge trust issues. If you have been hurt really bad in the past its not so easy to just forget and trust again. I know this is hurting my current relationship but theres just not much i can do about it. I have tried to forget but it just creeps back up. When my partner tells me how he feels i think to myself..is he just telling me this so i will feel better and he dont really mean it. Its a tough thing to live with maybe someday it will get easier.
23 Jan 10
Maybe
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
14 Jan 10
It takes me a while to get to trust someone. I have to know them for sometime before I even begin to become less guarded. Even then, its kind of hard. We want to think the best of people. However, deep down, there is always those hints of doubt. I do not want to be foolish and misplace my trust. It could come back to bite me in the end. There are all sorts of people out there that don't deserve my trust and there are some that do. At least that's the way I look at things.
23 Jan 10
That's fair enough.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
14 Jan 10
Do all these niggling little voices go to school somewhere to learn their trade? I try hard to trust, believing the old adage, "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me". But that little voice always explains that if I don't let #1 happen, then I never have to worry about #2. Tere's a certain logic there too, that's what the problem is.
14 Jan 10
There is, it's just confusing.
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
14 Jan 10
I have HUGE trust issues and have for years but of course with reason...Reasons going back to my childhood and home life growing up actually...LUCKILY for me I have ppl in my life who understand that I am the way I am and WHY I am this way so that of course makes it easier not only for me but the ppl in my life.. As far as your situation goes I would simply talk to your gf about it and let her know that you are concerned but also let her know WHY you have your concerns ya know....Of course only fill in as much as you are comfortable but make sure its enough for her to understand AND be prepared to talk deeper about it should she want to ya know..
14 Jan 10
That's very good advice, thank you.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
I really do not have one but when I am alone and my friends keep telling all these stories of them this and that, it makes me wonder. Thus, there are times that I wonder if it will happen to me so there are just times that I may have just a little trust issue.
• United States
15 Jan 10
I have them Big time,I try not to but,it is hard not to. I have been abused and cheated on in the past. This year I am doing great as I have forgiven my ex. I have gone out with him last night as well. I hope and pray to get over this soon. it is a terrible thing to have.