I just found out I have anxiety... now what do I do?

United States
January 14, 2010 6:44pm CST
I just started counseling a week ago and after the first day of me sharing things she said it sounds like I have a lot of anxiety. Which makes a lot of sense... but now I just want to work through it. In so many ways it controls my life.. especially when it comes to my boyfriend. When I am not with him... I think too much.. which leads to me worrying.. which leads to anxiety. I mean.. I've been with him for 4 years.. we are totally happy together, hes my best friend. But when I'm not with him.. I start to fear that hes cheating.. or that hes annoyed with me, or that he doesn't really love me.. sometimes I even have fears he likes my little sister (who is 14, we are both 20). I know these are all irrational, I know. The last week or so I've spent most of my time with my boyfriend. So today I figured he wanted some time to himself. I totally get it, I do. But now I feel like I'm close to losing him.. but I know Im not. But I feel like it. Is there anyone else who has anxiety?.. If so were you ever able to control it?.. Can anyone give me advice? I don't want to tell my boyfriend about this because.. I do it all the time.. and I need him not to worry about me. I just need to deal with this on my own because I don't want to push him away.
3 responses
@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
so its your boyfriend who is giving you anxiety? take the cure.
• United States
15 Jan 10
No, no, no its not my boyfriend that gives me the anxiety. He is jsut the most affected by it. And I am looking for ways to stop it. It becomes so overwhelming.. having all these irrational fears. When Im with him he is absolutely wonderful. And gives me no reasons to doubt. Its when I'm not with him.. therefore.. its my own issues and now his.
@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
you just need to keep busy, what are the things you like doing, any hobbies, work or school
@PastorP (1174)
• United States
15 Jan 10
Hi phoenix1344. I used to have anxiety too, so much so I almost killed myself just over 40 years ago. However, on January 25, 1970, I surrendered to Christ. He is my True Friend. Humans will often fail. For anxiety, listen to what the Word of God says: Joh 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. Joh 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. 1 Peter 5:6-7 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. Php 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Isa 26:3 Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.
@pakonis (79)
• Bulgaria
15 Jan 10
hello , my girlfrend have same anxiety , for me, but from my opinion give him little fresh air to breath , it is nothing to be on two places in same time , just look for something that will be interesting to you and start making things simple and only what you like to do