love dilemma
@sayantan12345 (312)
India
January 15, 2010 9:50am CST
guys i am in a lot of confusion.i had a gf when i was in class 8.but when she changed school we lost contact and i moved on.recently i got a new gf.and also i have started contacting my old gf.she said she loved me and will never love another guy.i feel bad.my new gf also loves me.but i dont know what to do.my friends say that my old gf loves me and is waiting for me to propose to her.i have not told her about my new gf.she thinks i will propose to her.i am in such a dilemma.my new gf also thinks i love her.i am confused which girl should i love.please help me out guys.
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@hapsicordable1 (475)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
Oh gosh sayantan...that's indeed a great dilemma...torn between two lovers? I know it is very hard to decide on this kind of situation. But the most important thing you should know in your heart is "who do you really love the most?" Because in the end I believe you'll still be choosing in order to stop the agony of loving two persons. I know that you can love two persons at the same time but take note that the intensity of the love can never be the same...you'll realize that you love the other more than the other. Please contemplate on your feelings...you need to know deep within you who you really want to spend time with...good luck sayantan and happy mylotting.
@sayantan12345 (312)
• India
15 Jan 10
i really cant chose.that's my problem.my old gf didn't have any bf except for me and she is saying she will never have another bf except me.my new gf loves me a lot.i cant break anyone's heart and at the same time i cannot love both of them.its against my principles.love is a tricky thing.i can understand it now
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
15 Jan 10
You guys are young - the old girlfriend will indeed meet another man/boy at some point in time... don't let her guilt you into a relationshp. If she wasn't saying all these things... would you still be contemplating this? Or would it have just been nice to say "hi... how are you?"
@hapsicordable1 (475)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
You should be fair sayantan, fair to both the girls and fair to yourself. If you let this go on then you'll just end up loosing them all. Believe me, I have been there and it is a difficult thing. Hope someday you'll be able to decide for real. Good luck.
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
15 Jan 10
Well - I don't know how old you are, but I'm guessing you're young.
You're being deceitful to both girls that you are seeing and that isn't fair to either of them. Only you can decide what to do but you better do it fast before the sh!t hits the fan.
You should not have contacted your old girlfriend in a romantic way if you're seeing someone else. That is completely disrespectful. And the fact that you haven't announced your present girlfriend to the old one is disrepectful to the present one too.
No one can tell you which girl to love... but honestly, I think I'd break it off with the new one until YOU figure out what you want to do. In the end, this is only going to hurt the women if you keep your game playing up.
@sayantan12345 (312)
• India
16 Jan 10
well shell i am not playing any game.i contacted my old girlfriend not because i wanted to but it suddenly happened over orkut.i am not seeing my old gf currently but we talk over the phone.i will try to determine which one is the best for me.its really more complicated than you think.by the way no hard feelings shell
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
16 Jan 10
I'm sure it is more complicated then I think - but just because you have yourself in a complicated mess, doesn't mean that you need to make up your dam mind... and do it fast before either of these two women find out what "heartbreak b/c of cheating scum" feels like.
Whether you've seen your old girlfriend in person or just keep talking to her on the phone... you're doing so in a aloving way that, but the sounds of it, would offend your girlfriend - and THAT my friend, is why I call you a game player.
You can't juggle the both of them and see how lnog they let you get away with it... you'll end up with no girlfriend if you keep taht up.
Oh, and you still didn't mention how old you were.
Life is FULL of choices with complications... its just what happens, and the older you get the more complicated the situations get. But it doesn't mean tht we just sit back and let our problems figure it out for themselves. Making proper decisions is part of adulthood (tho not everyone embraces that part). =)
@Gladi472 (82)
• Romania
15 Jan 10
You should think at what you love about each of them.Choose the one you feel more secure with, the one that makes you feel important ,the one who can put a smile on your face, the one who understands you, your jokes, your feelings and yout habbits.
Choose the one thats best for you.
@sayantan12345 (312)
• India
15 Jan 10
ok....that would be both i guess .i cant chose one of them cause it will break the others heart.its complicated than i can imagine
@abhiabhiabhiabhi (531)
• India
15 Jan 10
look..........to me old is gold.u sud tell ur new gf dat u had an old one and she wants to come back o ur lyf.tell her dat she waited for me for such a long tym,u sud go back to dat girl....
@hexeduser22 (7253)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
My advice would be is to follow your heart... You entered into a new relationship right, so ask yourself why? I was once caught in this situation. You know what I did? I chose my present girlfriend because I know for a fact that I love her. I was also confused like you but in the past I was always the one who tends to leave in the relationship now I've made up for my mistakes and told myself I would never leave someone I love ever again. I'm happy with what I've chosen without a trace of guilt. I also let my present know about my ex girlfriend for her to understand and not be jealous. It's better to be honest than to keep something from your beloved
