It makes me felt unhappy

China
January 25, 2010 8:07pm CST
I went back home with my boyfriend ,and now ,he is busying helping his home busniess,we nearly have no time to contact with each other . What is up ,what should I do.
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8 responses
@rezax123 (395)
• Norway
26 Jan 10
try to help him when he is busy. love is not only spend some good time with each other. u must care for ur beloved. give some helping hand. that way u can reach him quickly. share his pain of work. that will make him feel better and ur relationship will reach the next level.
• China
26 Jan 10
Thank you , I think I will be well soon.May you have a good time.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
I don't really know your circumstance, but I am assuming that you already know that he has got a lot of obligations with his family's business. I do know the feeling because my partner is a certified workaholic and he can't stop and just take time because he feels that he has got to do a lot (and indeed he has). So, there are times when I could handle him being overly busy, but there are times when I really feel the pain and would complain to him. The complaints may not be rational at times, but it's a signal for him to realize that he has obligations to me too as his partner and he does yield. Perhaps you need to remind him of his responsibility to you as his partner as well. On the other hand, I do realize that most of the times when a person is busy and the partner isn't, it creates a conflict. You, who are idle will always look or yearn for the time that you could be with him and him as someone very busy can't cope up with the demands of life and you as well. So perhaps you should find ways to make your time productive instead of watching all his moves. He would sure appreciate it when you are not always waiting for him to give his attention to you.
• China
26 Jan 10
Thanks for responsing so many.I know that is his responsibility to help his family's business.And I try my best to help him ,but there is nothing I can do ,I just his girlfriend,I am not his wife.Now what I can do is to make myself felt good ,and not to care what he is doing why he hasn't contacted with me for such a long time . Now ,I am busying reading my book and my homework,I think I will be well in a short time . Thank you.
@fsll518 (304)
• China
26 Jan 10
Maybe you should go to help him or his buz.... if you have time. That can be helpful to build stronger relationship. The worst thing to do is complaining to him after or during his work. If you show enough understanding and love to him, he would feel it and appreciate that. Take care and good luck!
• China
26 Jan 10
Thank you ,I haven't complain to him,I usually tell him that if you feel tired ,you can go to sleep intead of contacting with me.I just feel lonely and unhappy after he has fell insleep.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
love will find a way, dont be sad. Be happy that he is doing something worthwhile.
• China
26 Jan 10
Thank you for your response,I think I know what I can do.Thanks again ,may you have a good time.
@brymel25 (285)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
be supportive and take time to help him out. that can be a bonding moment for both of you. =)
• China
26 Jan 10
Yes,I think if I can help him ,he will be very happy .Thank you.
• China
26 Jan 10
you will feel happy that your BF is busy in his business.You just should tell him that you support him ,this is the love.
• China
26 Jan 10
Thanks for your response ,I will support to him as you say.May you have a good time here.
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
7 Feb 10
i would talk to your boyfriend about how you feel about him not spending more time with you. you shouldn't have to feel like this with the one you love. if he can make more time for you i think he really loves and cares about you. i would speak to him about your feelings. the best to you.
@IamSamm (74)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 10
Lixia try to be busy too without forgeting your loved one of course. Try do stuff you like whatever it is keep yourself busy. Trust me whining about your boyfriend bout not having enough time for you will only make thing worst. Some time like us woman, men also need space life's isn't always about love you know there's another important things to do but still be in love. Try to be supportive and ask him if there's something you can do, so basically you both can have time together without leaving behind his work. My boyfriend is a super busy men also, at first i felt unhappy but then i realize that he doing all that for our future and i also think who am i to stop someone's dream for happening. So i decided to be part of that dream and part of his ladder to succes by give him the support he needs. Trust me girl a busy, hard working men is waaaay better than a men who is lazy and unresponsibble. Patience is the key, it hurt and painful sometimes, but hey if you truelly loves him and he loves ya back, its worth all the pain :) smile girl everything gonna be alright