Have you ever been told by your parents that you were stupid when you were kid?

Uh YEP....all the time I was told I was dumb, never going to be as good as my brother or sister (their biological kids, I'm adopted)..that I would never amount to anything..I was always put down and made fun of..Thats on top of all the other nonsense I had to endure from them.....Hell to this day my so called mother enjoys belittling me and whatnot...Which is why I have as little contact with her as humanly possible..

this is a terrible thing to tell a child. and the thing is if you believe you are stupid you are likely to act that way, or at least have very little confidence - it can be a self-fulfilling prophecy to tell a child they are stupid, or not good at something.

Nope. Although my parents were never super-supportive, they had always believed in me, and told me I was intelligent. Yes, being called "stupid", especially by parents, can have a long-term damage on the emotions of the child.

I was blessed in the fact that my parents never thought that it was necessary to tell us that we were stupid. However, they did point out to us when we did stupid things, as all children do. They would always say that it was a stupid move, but they would never tell us that we were stupid. It worked out well for all of us too because they didn't damage our self-esteem by telling us that we were stupid when we were young.

For me I not told to my mother that I'm a stupid daughter the one they told only that I'm always crying and touch me not baby.

My parants had never said anything like that to me. I think to tell that to a kid is not wise.

I know it is very hurtful when parents say that to them... I used to get that word from my mom .... lolz... well, sometime I did something so stupid and she just split it out lolz... but it is depend on the parents too... we should be give more confident to kids

My mother used to tell me that I was stupid when I was a kid. There were times when she told this to me directly, and there were also times when she said it indirectly. But they all hurt. That's why I learned to resent her when I was growing up. But we are doing OK now. We're not close, but we still have a good relationship. At least she doesn't abuse me verbally anymore. Even though I had a bad experience with her, I still love her because no matter what happens, she would always be my mother. And even though she told me bad things, she is still a good person. I've seen her improve in the past years and I'm really glad.

Yes, it's hurtful and could really shatter you. And it would makes you feel that your parents don't love you. Most of them are like that. It's not right in any way. But now that I am all grown up, It became clear to me. Most words are not really meant to be true. Sometimes, when anger or frustration is out of control you say things that you don't expect to say. One thing that I've learn is that to try my best not to say things like that because of what I've felt before.

Nope, My father told me that I am the one who understands situations. He said that to me when all of us were scolded by our father. he said to me, "its OK and do not be serious about what happened, I know you understand the situation". Because of that I have a high self esteem always even at young age. It really help in my growing age.

Unfortunately, yes, I do get that "stupid" label from my parents when I was still a kid. Nothing is more embarrassing than to be called "stupid" in front of friends or relatives. Now, being a parent myself, previously I was guilty sometimes of calling my kid stupid too. Later on, I have actually pondered over this, and decided that anytime I feel like giving this label to my kid, I will substitute with something like "Son, you can do better than that." or something similar. By saying this, I am implying to him that he has the capability to do or be better. In this way, not only will I not be doing his self-esteem an iota of harm, but also spur him on to be his best. To all parents out there - you may want to adopt this strategy too.

I was raised by my grandparents and whenever I did something stupid, she called me a "simpleton". You are right that self-esteem is lowered. And I was sort of a dufus and thus everybody always told me how clumsy I was. But I still give my grandparents credit for believeing in me. My uncle is the esteem buster. He stayed with us at times and he was the one who really battered my self esteem. I could do no right by him. He was mean and dominated everything. As a kid I got a drum set for Christmas but he played on it all the time, I don't ever remember playing on it. He broke it. He was very good in electronics. In grade school I asked him to show me how to make a transistor radio for a school project. He wouldn't let me participate and built the radio for me. I once wrote two little movie manuscripts for a Hollywood agent and one was accepted, but we had to send some money. My uncle told my parents it was a scam (when I became an adult I found out that Leslie Goodwins was the top agent in the world.) When I went to college, computers were not the rage yet. I decided to drop out of college and go into computer repair school. My uncle told me that would take me nowhere so I didn't go. Now I am a persistent writer. My uncle told me I should give it up. I refused to listen and now my career is starting to take off. It takes time to build your self esteem up, but it can be done

In our community and religion, parents words can be a prayer too, and if it were repeated, then the words can be true. Say, the parents said "you are so stupid" for so many times, the kids may end up being stupid. As parents we should motivate our children, rather than downgrading them. My parents never say that to me so far, but rather, if we did something stupid, they will explain to us that it is not a good action, and let us think about it.