Would you pefer to adopt a child after finding out you can't have one?

I definitely would not want him to sleep with a baby maker in order to have a child. There are so many children out there who need loving homes, why not share your love with one of them? There's adoption, or I've considered looking into the foster care program if we can't have our own kids.

as for me i should imagine this thing happen around me.i have ask my husband this problem,if i am infertile,i would adopt a child or i permit that he slep with a baby maker,i would be willing to foster his child.from his speaking,he would like to adopt a child and not want to hurt my heart.because he love me deeply,he want to keep family safe,he doesnt want to do something that hurt me.so when i decide what i do,he agree with it.i think that love can let us easy compromise and adopt a child.

First of all, sorry for saying this but i have too...the idea of having your husband sleep with another woman to get her pregnant is RIDICULOUS...for many many reasons. And it could get him (and you) in trouble, for many reasons... Okay now... Have you thought about a surrogate? Or does that go along with not being able to afford the Intro-Vitro? But if you can't afford those, if your husband really wants a baby he HAS to become open to adoption. I just can't believe he would be against it--it could be such a rewarding experience. You would be SAVING a child that was homeless before you came along. That is amazing!!

hello amiga! its kinda tough for me, since i am in the situation of not having a child after being married for 6 years! woah! but what's just good on my situation is that my husband & i are giving strength to each other so that we will not going to lose hope. both of us wants to have our own baby of course, but since its not yet given, what we are just doing is to keep on hoping & praying that one day God will grant our wish... but back to the situation you have given, i think i can consider adopting a child as long as its okay to my husband, so we need to talk about it and must have one decision, drop the intro vitro since we don't have enough money to use for the procedure, and for the last option..hmmm its a no no for me. i can't take of a child of my husband from other woman... i think if my husband really loves me, he will understand my situation & my feelings as well, that he will not make anything that will hurt me just to satisfy his wants...

well i dont think a woman will hsve that much guts to say to her husband that you go and sllep with a baby maker who will bear a baby for you..if the husband does not want to adopt a child and zgain if the woman is imfertile then the situation will be same like that forever, you cant change reality and the reality is that she cant have a child,in yhat case thefamily and the wife should persue her husband to adopt a child,because at that moment that will be the best way out

i will adopt one if i dont have a child.

i don't have a child as well until now and i had been married for over 4 years with my hubby now... i am undergoing treatment at the moment and we do not want to give up... my hubby does not like the idea of adopting a child... so come worst to the worst, we just have to undergo IVF if all else fails... but i keep on praying to God and hopefully He will give us a child at His time... take care and have a nice day...

Sometimes stress can prevent a lady from getting pregnant. In that case I would go on a relaxing and romantic vacation with my husband. I would have some natural help in trying to get pregnant but I don't like medical help so I wouldn't have that. I would try to get my husband to say we could adopt a baby from overseas. I would ask a friend if my husband and I could baby sit their kids. Then hopefully he would see how lovely it would be to adopt. Last week I watched a program about ladies that have babies for couples that can't have children. They donate eggs and go through pregnancy in exchange for expenses. A lady in England got pregnant with a baby boy for a couple that wished to have a baby. They were overjoyed when the little boy was born and a few days later given to them. In the USA a lady has girl and boy twins that she gave to a British couple. I think I would prefer to adopt. I am divorced with three children so I am not in that situation. Good luck to any ladies that find it difficult to get pregnant.

hi there! yes i am open to idea if ever i can't have a child anymore ., i will surely adopt one cause i love having kids and i am so inlove with them ., i want to have someone that will give me more of happiness ., so i will definitely adopt one ., thanks for sharing and have a nice day ahead!

NOOOO!!!! not sleep with a baby maker!!! NOO!!! ^_^ I'd rather adopt a child... If it would be ok with my husband.. some men really do not want adoption, they want a child of their own..

i think this is where nephews and nieces come in. they are sure a joy to dote on without the aunts or uncles under pressure to rear them the way parents should. i guess in the situation you just mentioned the woman should just go with the husband's choice. the fact that one is considering her spouse's feelings is a sign anyway that she is willing to give in. so do so. heaven is watching and is sure to repay her for sacrificing what she wants for what her husband wants. life is still fair. events happen and do not happen for greater reasons.

If I couldn't have one biologically, I'm not sure I'd want to adopt a child. I know how being adopted feels, and I know that sooner or later, the child is going to want to know more about his or her real family. So unless a child is in a situation where he or she would be in serious danger from family members, I'd prefer that the child stay with the biological family. It's all good, though. I'd still be able to enjoy life without children. :) At least the heating and electricity bills would be relatively low.

i am sad to hear about your situation. maybe you can seek professional doctor for help and he can give you better solution and suggesttion. second option is try your best to save money or borrow money for INTRO-VITRO. to bear a baby always more important than giving away all your money. if you are going to adopt a child, do you think that you will love him like your own children? will you love him with your sincire heart? i do not think it is easy to love other's children like you own.

Hello i think one should go for adoption once they know they can't have kids of their own, a friend of mine adopted a boy and girl 15 years ago, a doctor friend helped them , now the kids are grown up Happy posting, cheers Professor

I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, and although it isn't directly attributed to infertility, it makes it a challenge for women who have it to bear children. It's basically a hormonal imbalance. Since I have had it, I have thought about the possibility of not bearing children. It scares me and breaks my heart. But I know I am not hopeless, and that I can get well and bear a child someday. We have discussed this though, me and my partner. We are open to adoption if the opportunity presents itself. :)

In this situation if i cann't talk my husband into adopting a child i would break up with him. It's bad for him to have a baby with a baby maker . Actually if i allow so things would mostly come out that i still have to get divorced with him because he might probably have affairs with the baby maker. Or the baby maker wouldn't let the child leave her in the end and she would be always appearing in our life. It's not an idea.

Well, I don't want kids, so I will try to speak hipotetically. If I were in a situation like that the highest ranking solution would be adoption. If what you want is to raise a kid, teach him or her how to do a good living, give love, etc, it shouldn't matter if it's biologically yours or not, as you will grow to love him or her as if you had given birth yourself to that kid . But of course, the decision has to be taken by both members of the couple...

Yes i would, if i cant have one, in fact i would still adopt one even if i have kids already. Intro vitro is very expensive isnt it, and its not guaranteed 100% sure.But yes if i have the money i would consider it first, and then when it fails, i would like to adopt instead. Having a baby is not a guarantee that you're going to have a perfect marriage, and when u cannot bear one, its gives you slimmer chances. But still it doesnt follow always that ur marriage is doomed when u cannot have a child.

Infact yes, adopting a child is quite common these days. But the fact is that there are many possibilities of having a child by undergoing medications and treatments such IVFetc. Henceforth, one neednot feel it a hinderance of not possessing a child when there are such facilities.

that would be fine for me. id like to adopt one if i wont bear a child. the 2 of you can always talk it out, understand the other person, or let him understand you. of course, if he truly loves you, he could understand you and the situation.but if i were you, ill never give up on praying. maybe there still a miracle. you'll never know! ;)