A lady has eight sons and want a daughter

@maximax8 (28570)
United Kingdom
February 5, 2010 1:08pm CST
A lady in the United Kingdom has been trying to have a baby daughter over the last twenty one years. She is currently trying to get pregnant with a baby girl. She worries that she might never have a daughter. She has eight sons. Another lady that lives in the United Kingdom went to Spain to get medical treatment to get a daughter. She was lucky because she gave birth to twin daughters. In the USA the medical treatment is legal so an American lady went through it there but she failed to get pregnant. What do you think? Should ladies be able to choose the gender of their baby?
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Feb 10
I don't have a problem with people selecting the gender. I do have an objection to people who find out the gender and then terminate the pregnancy because of it.
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
5 Feb 10
In pregnancy I find out my baby's gender for my own enjoyment. Then I can go shopping for his or her clothes. I can identify with my baby knowing the gender. I would not ever have an abortion. People that find out the gender and then abort their baby are being unfair.
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@vandana7 (68638)
• India
6 Feb 10
I agree dawnald. :) That is murder of a helpless child!
@clocks123 (1228)
• United States
6 Feb 10
if she wants a girl perhaps she can adopt one. i don't think ladies should be able to choose the gender of their babies. we start playing God and i don't agree with it.
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
6 Feb 10
Sometimes when a couple considers adoption, they have to take whatever the adoption agency can give them. Kathy.
@phoenix8606 (4978)
5 Feb 10
Hi! This woman must be very lucky with so many children in her home. Yes, I do think women should choose the gender of their babies, because it will be very nice if you have that kid that you want- i mean the most of the men want son and the women a daughter. But i think the best combination is boy and a girl, so that we will have the both gender and there will be also no jealousy between the kids for their toys and clothes!
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
5 Feb 10
Yes, the perfect combination is a boy and then a girl or a girl and then a boy. Boys like toys including cars, train sets and castles. Girls like toys like dolls, dolls houses and play kitchens. So the two children would have different sorts of clothes and types of toys. With eight boys I imagine there might be lots of jealousy. Christmas present buying for a large number of children would be expensive.
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@broboque (146)
• Malaysia
5 Feb 10
Well, religiously i believe its faith. One may have eight daughter instead, and wanted a son. I t normal for people to wanting something that they don't have, especially when it comes to children. I myself wanted a daughter for my first child and wish granted. But if i got a son, i would be happy.
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
5 Feb 10
It is so true that people wish to have what they haven't currently got. People say my sister has the perfect family. She has two sons and two daughters. Each time all she wanted was a healthy baby and the gender didn't matter. I am glad that you got your daughter as your first child. Maybe you will have a second child one day.
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@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
5 Feb 10
That actually reminds me of my friend in college. His parents are from Ethiopia and they always wanted a daughter. So they kept having kids. the first 3 were boys then they finally got a girl. then they wanted another daughter so they tried again. the next 3 were boys so they finally stopped. i'm still on the fence about all these medical treatments dealing with fetuses. just seemed like we're getting too picky when it comes to certain things. shouldn't we be just grateful when we do get pregnant with a healthy child?
@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
5 Feb 10
I liked hearing about your college friends parents. Interestingly they had three boys and then the girl they so very much wanted. It was funny that they had three more boys. The American lady had eight eggs removed and fertilized. She wanted a healthy girl. The boys and abnormal ones were discarded. I think that she could have given the others she didn't want to a another lady trying to get pregnant in a medically organized way. I have a disabled toddler son and he is delightful. He gave me a few scares a month before he was born. I am so happy that he survived two operations. He is now a happy little two year old boy. Next I am lucky because I got my healthy baby girl.
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@vandana7 (68638)
• India
6 Feb 10
When you say choose the baby, you imply that the woman be given the right to terminate pregnancy should the baby not be of the gender she desires? I think that is so wrong! I think we need to develop a little bit of broadmindedness here. If she is not able to get a female child, why cant she go and adopt one from Haiti, or other places where children might have become helpless! Eight sons! She should have considered adoption before third pregnancy!
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
6 Feb 10
Hi, Well Its bizarre. Here in our place people tend not to have a baby girl, Atleast this notion was very much prevelant back some time ago. I think to have a child of your choice of gender is not wrong, but if you have eight children to look after for, why to bother for something else. To me it sounds as if just to fulfill a wish of her heart the lady is ignoring her other children.
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@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
6 Feb 10
Personally I think you should just appreciate what God gives you. There are millions of couples in the world who so desperately want kids but can't have them, and these people are so picky and selfish that they want to find a medical way to ensure they have the proper gender? Whatever happened to "I'll be happy as long as it's healthy"? I'll admit that I had really hoped I had more girls. I only ended up with 1 girl, and 4 boys...but I wouldn't go so far as to medically ensure I had a girl. Some days I'm super thankful I only have 1 girl.
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
5 Feb 10
why didnt she just adopt a girl? my sister in law has adopted two little girls from China and they are very sweet little girls. going this route may have been somewhat easier than what she did.
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@3cardmonte (5098)
5 Feb 10
No, absolutely not! She should think herself the luckiest woman in the world that she has 8 healthy sons, and is whining because she would prefer a girl.
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@andu_95 (32)
• Romania
6 Feb 10
i don;t think so. I know somebody who really wanted a boy. She was pregnant 3 times and all 3 were girls. Fortunatelly, the 4th pregnancy was a boy. It depends on luck too.
• China
6 Feb 10
Wow!The woman has eight sons,she's so lucky! I don't think people should choose the genter of their babies!Unfortunately,in most part of China,especially in rural areas,people want to sons rather than daughters.They think their sons can continue the family line,so many girls are neglected at home.But this phenomenon has become less increasingly,now people aware that no matter their babies are boys or girls,ther're equally important!!
• China
6 Feb 10
I think maybe is acceptable.she want to have a baby girl so much.If she always have this thought but always not come true.maybe everyday has a bad temper.But in China is forbid.In china most people want to have a boy.
@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
6 Feb 10
You would think that after having eight boys, the first lady would think that's enough. My daddy was the oldest of nine children and that's a big family! That's also a lot of work! I think it's all right for the woman to wish but the final decision is up to God. She should be happy no matter what the gender of the child is. I've never heard of such a treatment but it seems to me like the woman would be trying to play God and that's wrong. Kathy.
@binagupta (628)
• India
6 Feb 10
i think the woman must be very lucky who have many child at there home , but i think the genter must be check down but in this world there is no difference in boys and girls
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
as for me, if i can choose the gender, why not. but no medical treatments involved. there are myths about getting a girl and a boy. they said that when your father is hurting his past ex-girlfriends, then they will have a girl. and their daughter will feel the pain like her father did to his exes. i don't know if this is true or not. so boys, be careful, your daughter will suffer from your past. anyway, it is just a myth.
• United States
5 Feb 10
If it is at all possible I see no reason to stop them. If it does not harm the fetus growing inside. I would not do it if i had the chance to. But,I would not stop another from doing it.
@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I don't feel parents should be able to choose the gender of their baby. It is wrong to play God, and in anyway get in Mother Nature's way. The lady should be happy that she already has eight sons, and give it a rest, too, because raising eight kids is too expensive and a strain on everyone in the house, kids especially. What if the kids already in this lady's house feel cheated by their mother giving affection to another child they probably cannot afford? There's only so much of mom and dad to go around, and it is irresponsible financially, too. Maybe the lady should just accept the fact she might not ever have a daughter, and be grateful for the kids she already does have under one roof! A child is a blessing in it's own right. If she could choose the gender of the child, who's to say what's next?
@skysuccess (8881)
• Singapore
5 Feb 10
maximax8, I am not against couples trying for a gender of their preference naturally and not with some genetic engineering technology. However, I am must disagree with the lady trying for a daughter after having 8 sons or a friend's acquaintance who tried for a son after 15 daughters. Fortunately, the latter did get their son on the 16th attempt, but I just cannot imagine going through the whole ordeal or let my wife subject to so many attempts. For me, I will definitely draw the line, even if it meant that I will not have a son to continue the family's heritage. I just feel that besides being mutual on the decision here, we need to be practical.