Why is it so hard to trust people?

February 5, 2010 1:49pm CST
Do you find it hard to trust? Why is it so hard to put our faith in someone? Is it because we're afraid of being let down? Afraid of getting hurt? Why can't we just trust someone and think no more on it? Is it because we have learned better? Or because we are innately cynical? or is it just because people are jerks?
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@HansonFan (1659)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I used to be very trusting. I was naive. Very naive. Then I went to college and had so many "friends" stab me in the back. Now it takes a while for me to trust anyone and I seem to get hurt easier than ever because I really think the people are trustworthy. Sometimes its just me being over emotional, but I think the most important thing I learned in college is not found in a textbook. Beware of who your friends are, they might just be your enemy in disguise.
5 Feb 10
Well said!
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I believe that trust is something that has to be earned, especially in this day and age when there are so many who will take advantage of a trusting person. You also tend to share personal information with the people you trust and that can come back to haunt you one day if you mistake a jerk for a friend.
5 Feb 10
oh I've done that before!
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
5 Feb 10
Some people have learned some rather harsh lessons in their life. Deep down, many of us would like to put our faith in others. However, we fear what it could lead to. There are good people out there. Yet, there are many dishonest people and one's that abuse the trusts of others. There are just many who do not want to get caught up in that game and thus there are many who tread rather carefully in life.
5 Feb 10
Treading carefully is a good idea!
• Canada
5 Feb 10
Hello 3cardmonte, Im tempted to say all of the above hehe. Ive learned over the years that when you put your trust in someone, eventually you might get hurt. I wont put my trust in anyone who's asking me to give them money blindly. So the answer is NO when it comes to money. But when it comes to friends, yeah I tend to trust what they say. If they lied to me, well they're the losers, I dont feel I am. Ive been deceived before from friends and it was sad when it happened but Ive moved on. I dont feel now that Ive lost a lot...they werent real friends, right? So I tend to trust until proven wrong and then I move on. There are so many more people out there, you lose one, you find 10 more.
5 Feb 10
Oh good lord no! You're right, they're the losers!
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
5 Feb 10
if you are like me, one bad experience jades you for others, so that is to say that when you get burnt by someone, it is harder to trust others. unfortunately, most of us have been burnt at one time or another!
5 Feb 10
That's very true, we live and learn.
• United States
5 Feb 10
I find it hard to trust people. I haven't met too many people that haven't hurt me in some way so for the most part, I don't trust people and would rather push them away as fast as I can. I don't like letting people get too close for fear that they'll just end up hurting me like everyone else has. Some people I trust right away and then they end up hurting me so that makes it a lot harder for me to trust other people for awhile.