Would you pick you love or your parents?

Indonesia
February 9, 2010 6:25am CST
This is a hard decision for me. I have to choose between my parents and my love. My parents don't agree with me continuing my life with this girl I've been with for years. It's hard for me to let her go because she is the most perfect woman I ever met. In the other hand, I have a strong relationship with my parents and I do not want to disappoint them. Help me mylotters to decide and tell me why!
9 responses
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
9 Feb 10
now if your parnets are just being pick one thing, but like i told my son who's wife pretty much show me she dont want him have anything to do with me and my wife or our daughter. you can always get another love or wife. but you cant replace your family
• Indonesia
9 Feb 10
You got a point there and I'll think about it. It's just that there's no world without her (I'm in love).
• United States
9 Feb 10
yeah its a hard thing. might want to sit and talk with your parnets as well and see why they dont like her, and have her try to meet them half way
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
9 Feb 10
Your relation with your parents is strong is to your advantage as you can communicate deeply to understand why they disapprove of your love. It might be your parents love you too much and so every girl will be unworthy for you. If that is the case, you can easily resolve by showing your parents that even when you love someone, the love you have for your parents will not change and cannot be replaced by the girl. The 2 love are in 2 separate compartments of your heart and do not conflict. Use your humour. Tug their sleeves/heart like a toddler hahaha. On the other hand, your love have to try harder to win your parents approval. All parents want the best for their children, so if your girl is like what you said, "most perfect woman", her goodness will sooner or later win over your parents' love. Don't ever show temper, put your parents down or argue heatedly with your parents on behalf of the girl, it is going to create an invisible barrier. That will cause much more difficulty for your love to succeed in winning over your parents. Always know it is YOU and YOUR REACTIONS that cause your parents to react with rejection or acceptance of the girl.
• Indonesia
9 Feb 10
Thank you very much. I learn many things from this. G'day.
• United States
9 Feb 10
Your parents should not be making you choose between them and the woman you love. They should be supportive of you and your decision as long as you are not committing a crime or doing something drastic.
• Indonesia
9 Feb 10
I knew that and I told them the same thing you said. They got pissed and said that their decision is not tolerable (especially mom).
• India
9 Feb 10
Ok friend your facing a problem you just try to put more effort to convince your parents and tell them properly. increase the communication with them i think u will not face the problem at all. So all the best!
• Indonesia
9 Feb 10
Thank you! I will try better and better until they are convinced that I made the right decision!
@Dezzaan (80)
• Sweden
11 Feb 10
your parents should support you, not forcing you to choose between them and the woman you love. That is wrong and I cant understand how they can do this to you! I really don't know what to say, but I think you need to discuss this with your parents telling them how you feel about this. Good luck!
• India
29 Apr 10
last time i also had the same question mine was lover or you friend... OK now to your topic.. i think i would choose my parents because they made u big, strong, feed u, Parents meants a lot to me..
• United States
9 Feb 10
If I was you I would invite my parents out to a restaurant and explain to them your feelings for your girlfriend. I would write out everything you would like to tell them so this way you don't leave anything out. Be honest with you parents and I believe it might take them awhile but they will come around to like your girlfriend or at least tolerate her because they know your feelings toward her.
@mikmoken (162)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
Hi NoSides, Obviously I pick my parents because I have love to my parents. If I loose my love I can wait to have a love ones. But If I lost my parents. I can't find another parents. thanks.
@rumshie (186)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
SINCE YOU have your strong relationship with your parents then pick them. their love for you would never change. but if you love that guy, why just dont talk it wiith your parents in a good way. maybe they'll understand you. :)