Have you ever written a looooooooong email, and deleted it?

when you said and wrote it without thinking or editing how truly good and great are as a person IS THE REAL PERSON IN YOU. maybe you're not just comfortable affirming yourself that's why there's discomfort to the point of calling yourself a LIAR hehehehehe! you are a god person...i know that...i can feel it. it's okay to displace our feelings at least we did not hurt anybody right? i am happy to know that there's something in common between you and me. Cheers to that friend!

No Pretty Woman, it is you who is good. Because you are good, you see good in everybody. :) I know me. :) At times, I react spontaneously, and then justify my actions. Well, that was in past, and professionally. :( But may be some bit creeped in personal life as well. :( I have come to a stage where I question any and every intention of mine, unable to trust myself, knowing how shrewd and nasty I have been in the past. :( But I am grateful to god for giving me good friends like you. :) Hope I become a better person in your company. :)

Hi msfrancisco, I just knew, we both are so alike in many aspects. :) I thought as much that you'd be one such person who must be doing something like that. In my case I start with north pole - that is the topic, and from there it goes east, and west, and south, and all over the place seeing good in me that doesnt exist. So when I read it again, I feel - oh god! when did I become such a liar. LOL. And then eventually get irritated at the stuff and delete it because the emotions that I felt at the start have been badly mutilated. LOL. But at the end of it, I do feel good, because somewhere, I recall some good about me as well I suppose. :)

hi vandana madam, thanks for the comment,i have also some quarels that is silly,but we never brake friendship,but i missed a good friend 20 years back itself due my miss beheviour,now he is in my place itself ,he is retired DSP,when ever he cross me on the roads,he is running away from me,but that too once in blue moon appearing on the roads,have a nice day

Hi yugasini, nice to know you have friends. But do you ever fight with them, the way I do? LOL. I dont think so. :) I dont think you have a single enemy in your life. :) Your nature is so simple that people wouldnt like to pick a fight with you. :)

That is so romantic! Wow, you should have kept those letters. You'd have enjoyed reading them, thinking how immature you were at that point of time. :) Hopefully, they contained nothing against your mother in law, and sister in law. he he. Kidding. :) Have a nice day. :)

ganesh I think you missed the whole point of the discussion, reread it,its more than some deleting error, read it as you should have done at first.

Yes, Hatley is right, you did miss the point - but never mind. If you deleted by mistake, it may be you wrote something that god didnt want the other person to know. :) Hope you managed to keep your friend. :) Have a nice day ganesh_bala. :)

Oh dear! I need help then. LOL. Kidding. Who told you it is a bad habit? :) I thought it is good! It helps in getting rid of all those complicated emotions that well up immediately following any altercation. :) I am not sure of course. It works like that for me most of the time. :)

Hi slbwyc, I agree with you that face to face is ideal. But the problem is I am impulsive, and I might react to something that the dear friend says in anger and things might just get worse if our egos get entangled. So I always wanted to explain my stand, which was misunderstood. But the other person may become unreasonable and it might become difficult orally. :) In any event writing brings out all past issues in which we were correct/good, and the friend was not/needed help. That is like rubbing salt on the wound. I agree it is not for sending. It is just to share those painful moments with somebody - and here nobody in particular, because we delete it. :) I dont know if it has any cathartic effect on you, but I feel it has for me. :) Thanks for responding. :) Have a nice day. :)

Here babyface, I always misunderstand you, ha ha. :) I cant help it deepak, as soon as I see that avatar, I smile, and the content gets read in another frame of mind. LOL. So your posts will never be read seriously enough. :( I do know that you are careful with your words, and you would hate hurting me of all people. Dont worry so much. :) Most people are not as fragile. :)

Exactly, we tend to bring out other issues as well, which are irrelevant, and which, if brought out might make it more complicated. I tend to portray myself in better light than I possibly am or was. Which can be pretty annoying at the other end, if they read it. In all, I find the main issue is bypassed and made insignificant with all such additions, which irritates me. Of course, I am irritated at myself. :) Yes, we'd mend our relationships faster if we dont send such mails. :) Nevertheless, I too feel better when I pour my woes out like that. :) Have a nice day, Hatley dear. :)

Hi megamatt, you did the right thing, and you are like me and msfrancisco, and Hatley. :) Welcome to the club. :) Actually we tend to bring up old issues - especially the ones in which we were right. That adds insult to the injury. The friend with whom we want to reconcile by offering explanations is hardly going to appreciate look how right I have been all along attitude. Reasonableness has to return before either of us can really communicate with each other. So sending such mails is not advisable at all, unless you want the relationship to end. :)

Hi anjohanna, I have lost a lot of data in past - when we used the DOS operating system. Delete *.*. LOL. Actually a few years' work with just a simple return.:) I was depressed for months together after that because I'd taken a lot of pains to do that much! Anyway, in so far as mails to friends are concerned, I tend to bring up old issues in which I was right, and which, if I send the mail, would annoy my friend no end. :) I think we should be giving time to each other to calm down, and then talk it over. Sending mail is no way. :) Especially since I end up portraying myself as holier than her/him. :)