Does the person you're with right now brings out the best of you? or worst? why?

@sublime03 (2339)
Philippines
February 12, 2010 9:49pm CST
I had time for myself yesterday and thought of this question. Now I am sitting here trying to think of the answer to this question. I have sought after into making a positive reaction to our relationship. I wanted to be a good influence to him and back then I really felt that I was. But now 6 years after, it made me think if I am still though. I doubt myself at times if I am because we have a little gap that I can say which is keeping me from feeling the same for each other. How about you? Do you still see yourself as a good infleunce that brings out the best of your partner? Does he still bring out the bestest best of you at every little thing?
13 responses
@kaylayoe (293)
• United States
13 Feb 10
He definetly brings out the best in me. I'll be sad one minute and the moment I see him I feel better. He makes me so happy. If I'm sad he'll do nearly anything to cheer me up and he does a great job at it! We make each other laugh and smile and have the best time we could even if were just sitting at home bored. We've been together for almost 3 years and we still have so much to talk about all the time and we love spending every minute of everyday together!
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
That is good to hear kaylayoe that you are happy with your significant other. Continue to enjoy each others company while you add more years together as a couple.
@scaflone8 (190)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Me and my current boyfriend just had our first monthsary yesterday. He is my inspiration and he is helping me a lot in school. Although our relationship is still young he he..Hopefully it will last for a long time
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Happy monthsary to you both! As others have mentioned just remember to have an open communication and make sure when something is wrong to talk about it within the same day. Every little thing matters and should be talked about to clear the air right before you sleep.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
YES. i am married with her for 7 years already and we have a four years old son that his photo appears as my avatar. she brought out the best in me and still looking for ward on every event that will happen. like this coming valentines day. we have our ups and downs but we figth the battles with holding each others hands. i married my best friend, my lover, my lady my private dancer. har har har
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Good for you se7enthbird! I think I just had a moment to myself thus thoughts that we're running thru my head that did not mean anything negative with my relationship. Anyways, it is good that you are still going strong. Indeed, even if there are ups and downs you can face each day together as a couple.
@laurenban (194)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
I think it was just a normal thing. The person you are with cannot be as alwasy as perfect as you think he/she is. There are times when things go rough and you think he brings out the worst of you, it is just because you let him do so. The bestest of the person comes out when there is another person or thing that summons it or needs it.. The thing is that communication is the best way to let the person know how you feel about the things he do. Better communication and understanding leads to better relationship and better relationship brings out the besttest you can ever be.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
You are correct about communication between couples. That I believe is the key to having a good relationship go along way.
@alen1982 (63)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
i think its both,especially as years go by you'll discover things about you partner that you don't like no body is perfect we all have our own flaws, the reality is that you have to know the best and also know the worst, life and love are not just about the goodtimes there are also badtimes
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
I agree that nobody is perfect but by God's grace we are fit together with someone out there who can bring the best out of us. There will always be good and bad times but what matters is how you get over them together and not as a separate entity.
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Yes. We went to the same college last year. He graduated then proceeded to law school while I went on to my last year in college. We had a little gap for a while. It was the adjustment period. But now, everything's back to normal again. We're both influencing each other the good way. When we have arguments, we iron it out right then and there so we don't really have long periods of misunderstandings. Therefore, we're happy. I guess, happiness is the key to your question :) and of course, learning how to give and take.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Give and take is something not everybody can go along with. Everybody goes thru so many different things but at the end of the road its how you appreciate each other and how you respect one another that matters the most.
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
16 Feb 10
The best in me, really...and I think it's mutual, because we've both really changed for the better, over the years. In trying to be what eachother's needed, to be the best lovers we can be for eachother, we become the best of ourselves...if that makes much sense.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
me, good, influence, partner - me, good, influence, him
Yes I am a good influence to him. I am the one leading him to whatever good things to do for our family. He always go with my plan even though we have a long gap in the age level. We cannot hold sometimes that in the relationship there is sweetness and sometimes bitterness to pass through. It's part of life in marriage that we should face the challenge whatever it is. For me the misunderstanding is the basis of our trust and confidence of our true love. I cannot see him often that he is not showy and expressing well his feelings but deep inside he is so realistic to me. Thats his uniqueness also .Happy Valentines to you sublime03! Good luck!
@guolan27 (21)
• United States
14 Feb 10
I see myself as a good influence that brings out the best in my boyfriend. He brings out the best in me too. He makes me want to be and has made me a better person. He's taught me very important things like the importance of honesty and how to respect the feelings of another person. I love him so much and don't know what I would do without him. He is my boyfriend, future husband, soulmate, best friend and more.
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
50-50 hahaha..
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Simple but true. I am still contemplating if it is even 50/50. For some it may be 80/20.
@champan (513)
• Argentina
14 Feb 10
In this moment. totally the WORST. Im really upset . Things are not this way usually. But this are moments really.Everything is going to get better soon. -i hope haha-
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
A little bit of both, actually. He brings out the best in me, I've never been so happy in my life, because he showed me how to love and to see the world in different perspectives. He also said that I changed him, in a good way, and we both influenced each other to be the best that we can. However, there are also some downs, life ain't perfect. He could also brings out my worst, the monster in me, especially when I get jealous easily and I can be too dependent on him, as if I can't function without him guiding me. But despite that, we try to work out our differences and weaknesses, and try to bring out the best of each other, rather than the worst.
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
I'm with my mom right now (lol) but she's not bringing the best out of me... or i'm just not letting her.. :((