Should a Discussion Always Be in the Form of Asking or Question?

@sexyposh (576)
Philippines
February 15, 2010 9:15pm CST
I envy most of my fellow MyLotters who has more than twenty (20) respondents. Honestly, I'm having a hard time of what topic to discuss, and once I think of one, most of respondents I get never even reach ten (10). Its just so frustrating... So I observe the trend.. What I found out is, the usual who gets plenty of respondents are discussion that are in the form of question. Like a querry. But I am so conscious with my postings, that might be against the rules of MyLot. *sigh* Anyway, how about you? When you post a discussion here in MyLot, should it be always in a form of question or asking?
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@erikmama (12934)
• United States
16 Feb 10
Well for starteers,I seem to have the same problem as you. When I think I have something good I dont get very many responses. But It is all good. Most of the time my discussions are in the form of a question, even if it is just asking what fdo you think about this or that.Sometimes not.' Don't get frustrated and ndont give up. Have fun doing what you are doing and thats all that really matters!!
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• United States
16 Feb 10
I agree with you don't get frustrated just keep plugging along because there will be a day when you are the one with major huge discussions and you will be the one everyone wonders how you do it!
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@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Maybe I was too conscious with my postings, that I don't post alot.. hehe.. And I lack confidence also with my writing that might be wrong in grammar and spelling, or might be misinterpret by others, which happens to me all the time..
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• United States
16 Feb 10
For bad spelling I use FireFox it has a built in spell checker. I too cant spell well so I use this to help me out a lot. I know my grammer is bad but I still post and make discussions because it helps no matter what.
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@sunyskies (126)
• United States
16 Feb 10
I think posting your discussions in the form of a question makes it easier for respondents to determine what their response should be. If you just say something like "I like cooking", it's harder for people to decide what to add. If you ask "what do you like to cook" you've given people an idea of what to say. I think it makes it easier, but it's not necessary.
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@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Well most of the time, I post my question at the end of the discussion... Maybe some don't fully read the context. That is why, many people just miss browsing my discussion. Well you have a point. Okey, next time I'll improve my way of discussing post..
@tawny_24 (351)
• United States
16 Feb 10
I understand what you are saying, I've had some astounding responses to some pretty trivial topics. And some of the discussions I've started got like two or three comments. I don't think it matters if you are asking a question or stating a point, it is the topic itself. I've gotten some really good advice from some of the friends I've made her on Mylot. That is part of it too I think, make friends with people who you find you have something in common with, or who you can converse with, or learn something from.
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Maybe that's my problem too, I don't invest much with my MyLot friends.. Thanks for your advice, I think I should often respond to my friends' discussion that they too will respond to my post.. I mean its easier to talk if you have a special relationship to, even in cyberspace. I am also conscious with my posting that may also offend other, which is not really my intention...
@RawBill1 (8542)
• Gold Coast, Australia
16 Feb 10
Most of my discussions have had less than ten responses too. As you become more active here and gain more friends, then you will get more people being notified of your discussions. Recent changes to MyLot will help with that too. I am getting more people responding to some discussions than others that I think are more interesting and I think it also depends on what time of the week I post them. I have noticed that it gets quieter in the amount of discussions that my friends are making around mid week and then it picks up again late in the weekend. I think it has to do with time zones too as I am quite a few hours ahead of a lot of my friends here. There are a lot of different factors that come into play and the discussion being in the form of a question will always help I feel, but it is not necessary for a popular discussion.
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
Yes, timezome may also play a role but MyLot is 24/7 on and every hour there are countries that are morning and countries that are late night. It means that every second there people out there who can participate in your discussion and yet didn't. That is why I am frustrated with my discussion, that I get so upset maybe people didn't get my point. I saw some discussion context same as mine, and they were able to reach more than 20 responses while I don't... bummer!
@RawBill1 (8542)
• Gold Coast, Australia
17 Feb 10
Yeah i know that there are always people on here 24 hours a day, but I was meaning more your friends list. It might depend on where they are coming from in the world as to how many responses you get at a time. I think the best thing to do is to just form bonds on here with more people then they will want to respond to our discussions and there will be more people to respond as well as your friend list grows.
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@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
Hmmmm.. I think I like the idea of gaining friends here in MyLot, and have them help you to have a worthwhile discussion. Thanks!
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Hi sexyposh! Since you like to receive a lot of responses, I have some tips for you which I have personally recommend since it was based on my experiences. Let's go first to your main topic, you are asking if a discussion subject or title should be in question form. The answer is no, it may not be in question form. But as you can see, most of the discussions here in myLot has a title in question form. Why? Is it because question form can attract more responders compared to non-question form such as statement form. It is because a question form tends to ask question and viewers will be entice to answer. One tip I can give is you should have to choose a general topic, something that everyone can relate with. I have had a topic which got more than 100 responses. It is a about a cellphone. Cellphone is very general topic nowadays, almost everyone has it's own. Avoid topics that are too technical or too specific because only few can relate to it. Another tip I can give you is to add more friends. The more the better so keep on adding friends. The more friends you have, the more chance that your discussion will be read, which also means the more chance to be responded. Another tip is to comment on the responses you got. By doing that, your discussion will be easily seen by viewers because every time a discussion was been responded or commented, that discussion will go on top, so many myLotters will see it and it will increase it's chance to be responded again. I hope those tips I have mentioned will help you to be able to receive a lot of responses on your next topics. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
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@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Really? I never thought that replying to my responses would invite more people to answer my discussion. It really is not my habit of replying, I'm too lazy sometimes.. lol! Now I know.. From this day on forward, I will now reply to people's responses.. Thanks for your tip, by the way..
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Yes, it is, coz replying to your responses or also called as commenting, will keep your discussion alive. Aside from that, you will also earn from it, from every comments you post. So you should really do a habit to as much as possible, comment on all the responses you got. You are very welcome. Thank you also for the BR! Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
Your welcome! I think commenting also to other people really develops bonds. If you frequently replying to certain person's discussion, then that person also response to your posts. Then the two of you become friends and will always response to your discussion..
@amybrezik (2123)
• United States
16 Feb 10
Questions are easy for responders because they can just answer the posted question. Although, I don't think all discussions hav to be i the form of a question. I have seen lots of intresing ones that are just someones thoughts or ideas.
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@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Maybe my topic is not really the interest of the majority.. lols! But still, I have many chances to make up to it and improve my compositions and topic. Really, I am surprise to see that alot have responded to this post, now I already get the trick. Or perhaps maybe, most of people here are experiencing the same thing too...
@Hatley (159442)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Feb 10
sextyposh A discussion has to give the readers something to discuss and asking our views on something that the poster tells about gives us a chance to give our impressions on the topic and maybe add some helpful hints or whatever. Ex, what do you think about this issue, or Would you have said this? or How did you solve this problem in you own life? I am sure there are other ways of making a discussion but it has to enlist the emotions and beliefs of your readers some way so they can respond to it.
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• United States
16 Feb 10
I too stuggle with topics because I will think of one then forget to make a discussion and then wonder what it was 2 hours later. I bet it was a good one too. Anyhow I think if its more on the fun side people talk more on it. Like the mylot is a S.C.A.M. one and the ABC's of mylot! I know both are by Diana and both had 10 or more pages. I think they are cute and people like them. She comes up with a lot of good ones also like EARN money on the DELETED posts one she did it too was 10 plus pages I believe. I wish my discussions went that high but one day they will and I will be the one someone is comparing themselves too!!! Your a role model Diana!!!
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@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
Really, she reach ten pages of response? Like, how did she does it? WOW! How I wish I can also wrote a discussion that will interest many mylotters and will respond to it...
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• United States
16 Feb 10
I dont really know whow she does it she is in alot of my discussions look her up its like Mysdiana something like that her avatar is a smiley face a mischievious one.
16 Feb 10
I am posting my discussion in the question form! I dont know why. Maybe it is just because I have read discussions on that form!
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@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
Yes, that's what I observed also here in MyLot when I was a newbie. But there are some discussions that can't be tackle in question form. Like one of my post "I am going to wear BirdCage Veil on My Wedding". I was trying to be infomative when I wrote that and still many respond to it.. Wouldn't it be odd if I wrote the discusion, "Will You Wear BirdCage Veil on Your Wedding?", then people will think, "...what was that all about?".
@rosekiss (30151)
• Eugene, Oregon
16 Feb 10
No, you don't have to start a discussion by asking a question. I don't when I start any discussions, and I haven't started that many. I, like you, have a hard time comingt up with a topic that others would be interested in responding to. It is frustrating, for sure, when I do think I have a good topic, but it isn't as I get very few responses. I certainly don't get as many as I thought I would, and some I actually get more than what I thought I would. I do my best to try to come up with a good topic, but since we are all different in here, I certainly won't be able to get everyone to respond, as they will only respond if they are interested in the topic. It is much easier for me to respond as I don't have to think of a topic to respond to, as it has already been thought of by someone else. It just doesn't take all that much thought process to post respones, like it does for starting discussions. Good luck to you and happy mylotting.
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• United States
16 Feb 10
We have to ask a question in every post that we make, otherwise it's not a discussion and it will be deleted. I have had that happen before with a really good discussion just because I forgot to ask a question. It happens to be one of the rules here. On the other hand most posts with many responses are the posts that ask quick and easy questions.
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@Gany15k (1674)
• India
16 Feb 10
This is a nice discussion.I'm also a starter don't know what is the interesting topic to start.I need to know how to get more responses.Can anyone help???????
@sexyposh (576)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
hi Gany15k! If your were able to read all my responses, most of them suggest to have your discussion in question form. Because of this, readers will began to be too eager to participate in your discussion. Plus, having too many friends here in MyLot also makes your discussions alive. Also, don't forget to reply on your friend's responses. But be sure that you're still following the rules of MyLot. Go ahead and try. Good Luck!
@Gany15k (1674)
• India
17 Feb 10
Ya ,thanks for your response.I will try to give my best
@artee13 (126)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
We have the same problem and all of my discussion are questions but I don't get that many respondent and I also envy my friends who has 20 or more respondent when they start a discussion. So far the most respondent I have is 9. I hope when I post my next discussion many will respond. A friend of mine told me that the title should be get because it is the "Attention Getter" and I think he is right that's why I'm thinking of a good title with my discussions.
• United States
16 Feb 10
I try to have my posts in the form of a question most of the time. If not most of the time I am asking for help with something. either way you should do you and enjoy it. Your going to do fine.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
16 Feb 10
I think it should be.. if a discussions are in form of asking or questions..and it's should be more elaborate then mostly people may understands this nicely and many people gave their best response.. and it is easier for those persons who have joined mylot recently and don't have much experience.. so it should be in form of asking or questions .. thanking you and keep mylotting always..