what was the hardest decision you had to make in your life?

United States
February 18, 2010 12:58pm CST
Most people in our everyday life scenario, don't realize the struggles other people go through. In this discussion I would like to talk to you about, possibly some of the hardest decision's you had to make in your life... It could be deciding whether to wear blue or red, or it can involve something personal that affected your lifestyle and way of life, either way feel free to post. As for me, the hardest decision I've had to make is deciding whether or not, I would ever be a great husband or father. Though this decision is still undetermined, I realized people recognize you by your works. This is always something I think about, especially since I never had that fatherly figure in my life and its hard to go on what i been taught by my mom, its not the same... Either way the decision, I suppose will be determined by how I act and the influences of my life. Thank you for reading and post away.
6 responses
• United States
19 Feb 10
I had to make some harsh decisions in my life, the first one was leave my country and emigrate to the United States. It was very hard because I had to leave my family, my friends, my environment to come to this country in order have freedom and a better life. Also another moment when I had to make a hard decision was when I was in college and I had to choose between my ex-fiance and my job. I received a very good job offer, and my fiance wouldn't want to follow me. So I had to go and leave him, obviously we were having problems before but it was still very hard for me to do it. Those days I loved him very much.
• United States
19 Feb 10
I can't say I've done any of those things. The job one is tough for a lot of people especially since the world revolves around money. Me personally I would of followed my heart and go with the person I loved, then again I don't know what situations you were living in. Always a constant struggle between Love and money. Good post.
• United States
19 Feb 10
Well I would also follow the person I love everywhere, but me and that guy were having problems in our relationship before, and tried to obligate me to stay, he could have follow me also, at the end he came also to the USA, his imposition was what made me think that he didn't deserve that sacrifice. Besides my job for me is more than earn money, it is my career, and it is part of the essence of who I am
@aWkiee (31)
• Norway
19 Feb 10
Hearing the woman i love tell me "im in love with someone else" and telling her that as long as she will be happy i will be happy too. Might not seem hard but it was at that time.
• United States
19 Feb 10
Man, that is very hard. Especially if you really loved her. The hardest part of it, is knowing you wont be there through the good or tough times....I can feel you pain.
• United States
18 Feb 10
For me the hardest thing I ever had to do was when my second daughter was born. She was 5 weeks early and became infected with both pneumonia and an unidentifiable infection. She was given a 50% chance of living when she was 6 hours old. After being resuscitated several times we where asked if we wanted a DNR (Do not resuscitate order) as there was a large chance of sever brain damage at this point. It took a lot but we decided to sign a DNR as we couldn't watch our tiny baby suffer through so much anymore and would rather her go to heaven then suffer. We where lucky in the fact that she did not need it to happen again. She was sick for a long time but is healthy now, ( with only a few minor issues from when she was born). It was by far the hardest thing we ever had to do but having seen some of the difficulties that children who have issues from this type situation I am glad I did. Not that I would love her any different but I would feel very guilty because we cannot afford the medical help and therapies she would have needed and we would have failed her in this respect.
• United States
18 Feb 10
Wow.... My deepest prayers for you. I'm sure that is an extremely difficult situation... I'm so happy she is alive and healthy now.
@smileonstar (4018)
• United States
18 Feb 10
HI, the only thing that just pop in my mind right now is when I let my 2 years daughter to stay with my parents while I was having a baby. I was crying and miss her a lot... but if I had her here with me then there will be more job for me and I can't get rest right after I have a baby. But now she is here with me and I will not let anyone go anymore
• United States
18 Feb 10
That definitely sounds tough. Hopefully now its working out for you. I definitely wish you the best life, for you and your children.
@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
For me the hardest decision that i already made is when i have to choose bout what kind of course i will be taking in college.I dont like engineering at all but i have no choice that time. So i have to give in now the decision that is very hard for me is that if i will choose to obey my parents or not , then i decided to just follow my parents advice even if its against my own will
• India
19 Feb 10
til date the hardest decision i have taken is choosing my career .My ambition from childhood is to become a doctor and i was trying to achieve that . when i was in my high school i suddenly lost my interest in becoming a doctor and decided to do a engineering degree . i wrote the exams and i got seat in both the colleges and i was very confused what to do . there i was in a situation to take a decision and i think thats the toughest ihave ever taken . i then decided to do engineeering and i am half way through in it .