When you neglect the bible or going to church, can you see a difference in you?

United States
February 20, 2010 10:57pm CST
I used to go to church 3 and 4 times per week. Let's see Wed. night, Sunday morning, Sunday evening, prayer meeting on Friday night for whomever. And anything going on that I could volunteer for on Saturday. Now I have not attended church regularly at all for a couple of years, and I can see my personality changing for the worst. I can see that I can't encourage people in hope quite like I did. I don't initiate conversations about God like I used to. Do you see your life changing when you back up some?
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@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
21 Feb 10
I have stopped going for personal reasons, but in general I feel that we are taught all that there is to be taught. There is nothing new being discovered about God or Heaven. There have been no sequels written to the bible; just different interpretations. Even the differences aren't mind boggling. There are three things that is taught in the bible. Love, forgiveness and, repentance. If we understand this and can remember it all through our life then why do we need to keep going to church? If it's the community of being around others that are of the same mind set then that's what makes you feel happy. If you need reminding of what the bible has to say then pick it up and read it for a refresher course. Not being able to encourage others to have hope in God is more of a sign of the lack of self confidence in yourself. Do you feel that because you do not belong to a church community that you could not back up what you have to say about God? You know it's just guilt that you are feeling, but once you realize that what you learned when you were going to church does not lessen because you don't go anymore, things will seem a lot better for you. Have I noticed a change in myself because I don't go to church anymore? No, can't say that I have. I still believe in what I was taught and that hasn't changed. Do I hold conversations with God. Yes, everyday I look in the faces of others. If God is a part of us then we are a part of God. Actually, my life has been better since I stopped going to church.
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• United States
22 Feb 10
I'd be very curious to know what your conversations are about.
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@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
22 Feb 10
The conversations that I have with God is when I look into the faces of others. I see the beauty, the intelligence, the sense of humor and I thank God for honoring me with allowing me to meet or know someone like that. I can also look into the face of those same people and see maybe heartache, weariness, hurt, and I ask God to help them on their paths of hardship. That's what I mean when I say that I talk to God.
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@freeboy90 (458)
• Italy
21 Feb 10
I'd say that going to church doesn't make you a good person as not going doesn't make you a bad one. I sometimes keep distance from some of them, beacause church people are the ones that can be very very mean. Some people make the bible and religion a lifestyle(ok with me, they are free to do whatever they want) but we've seen foundamentalists in the different religions have never been doing any good. I belive that IF God exists, he doesn't look how many times you go to church or pray, he looks into your heart and already knows if you are good or not. I am not a real beliver but not even an atheist, let's say I'm thinking about it, even if personally I found difficoult to belive in the God that the church talks about, it is way too human and mean at times. And let me tell you, atheist many times can be much better than religious people, I will just give you one example, atheists and people like me do good to other just beacause they think it's right and feel they want to do go, many, many religious do that to "earn" a place in heaven that's all. To answer direclty your question :You are not getting worse beacause you do not attend church, try to be good and you will be good :)
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• United States
22 Feb 10
I fail in my words and personality sometimes when I am not in an atmosphere of God's word. When you are with good devoted christians, you feel cared for, and if you're down, you will get prayed for by these good people, and you will recieve words of encourage, and it definitely causes a change in persons if they stay out of the word. We need to sacrifice alot of things in our lives sometimes, so that we can be there or do something for someone who really needs us. If you're not taught that many times people don't realize that. They will do something for someone when they have time or are not doing something else they'd rather do.l As for myself, I am not as good a person, if I am not in the bible and church.
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• Italy
22 Feb 10
Ok about helping the others, but you should not sacrifice too much for people otherwise all you get is to be misused by them, like I said if people do sacrifices to help others and forget about their needs/pleasures and don't care if they get misused it is just for the simple reason they do it to earn a place in heaven and that is not as spontaneous as it would be for someone that helps other people not to get anything back, but also without giving all of himself to the others.
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@eekikit (87)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
I can relate to that, lately I have not been doing enough meditation and I know that my life isn't how it used to be but I think it's just psychological, I know also the reasons why my life isn't how it used to be. Before, I decide first thing in Sunday morning that I'd go to church. Now I can't even notice it's sunday.
• United States
22 Feb 10
Eekikit, I am not putting as much thought into Sunday as I used to. I still will not do any work at home on Sunday. I still feel guilty cause I'm not in church, but I used to watch christian tv on Sunday or read the bible for quite a while, but I haven't been doing that either. And I like my personality less and less everyday.
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• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Heheheh, I know, I know the feeling bro. Well, what is the reason behind all these? Do you seriously believe that going back to the old you would help your current state? In my case, I don't think so. I believe that what I am today is a result of what I was before. Well, if your case is different, what is the reason why you can't go to church?
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
hello chystaltears, seems that you are really active in your church before yeah? but how come you stop attending church regularly? well on my part, i always attend our worship services twice a week and i also attend some bible studies in other days. whenever i am there, i find inner peace, that no matter how hard life may seems to be, whenever i am at church, i feel so relaxed & refreshed, i can cry my feelings out there and its like being home. where i was able to talk to Father...God. its such a different feeling whenever i am feeling Him in my heart and know that He's there listening & comforting me... but i must admit that there's once in my life when i don't attend our church worship regularly just because of my work and other earthy things...but you kno, to tell you honestly, i don't feel any good whenever i don't attend the worship services, i feel like my conscience is pinching me, i am just not comfortable specially during the time that i know that the service is already started...and i notice that during those days, i don't have much peace in me and i easily get worried on things around me... i think, attending worship services is something that we should not neglect, God is waiting for us in His house, and by attending the worship services and listening to the words of God, we were able to feed our soul... and from there we can find peace in our heart and we will be able to lead a better life... i am talking based on my own experiences and this is my belief & opinion.
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• United States
22 Feb 10
I know that you are right. I was extremely active and always wondered when people talked about the joy and miracles and how it helps to be close to God, how they could drift away. Well, that's one more thing that God allowed me to learn. OK, Linda, this is how it happens. I was going to a church that I dearly loved, a church God lead me to. I had never been a member of church before that one. I was 100% into it, and so very close to God that I could smell His aroma. I had wonderful experiences that no one can take from me. That church sold, because they couldn't keep up the payments. They didn't announce it to the majority of the church until the last night of services. Many were extremely upset that they kept it from us, altho, the pastor had told me a year earlier that they were trying to sell it and not to tell anyone. So I didn't. Well, they didn't start up a church in the mean time for a few months,and when they did, I had moved to another town where my daughter moved after marriage. I haven't been able to find anything like that church. I have to get in another church, but the devil fights me on it, or I just can't make myself get up and go. I am under Dr's care for major depression and anxiety. I'm fighting it, and I know God will have me win, of course. I told someone the other day, that I wished God would do these things in my time instead of His! LOL! Do me a big favor, and I know you will. Please pray for me, for I know I'm going thru this, therefore, I will be thru it someday. Thanks. I like you. Blessings.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
oh i see, so that's what happen. hmmm well i wish you goodluck my friend and i hope that God will lead you to His way. you know, what happen to your church before should call your attention that maybe that is not the right way that God want you to lead... you should seek Him in your heart and look for the church that Christ taught us. well anyway, are you still under doctor's care till date? i hope you get over all these and your life experiences will make you stronger. God is always there for us, He's just waiting for us to come to Him. and always remember that He will not send us things that He know we can get through with. sometimes, we also needs to reflect to our selves & to our life and learn to read the circumstances in our life, co sometimes, God send us some problems to warn us, to give us a wake up call, or to test our faith (just like what happens to job)... yeah sure, you will be part of my prayers , how i wish to share my faith with you but i guess this is not the right place to said it so... but i hope you could find the true church for you.
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• Philippines
22 Feb 10
i used to go to church too, as often as i could. and if i skipped going there for a week, i can see myself gets irritated easily. praying makes me feel relaxed and somehow stress free since the environment is quiet, i can easily meditate and makes me feel relieved and be good again.
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• United States
22 Feb 10
Exactly Yushen. That's what I've been trying to say about me. You said it very well. I'm glad you can see where I'm coming from. Be Blessed.
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• United States
21 Feb 10
I am free, I can make my own decisions, I can judge for myself, and I can be my own moral compass. I do not need a book or a preacher to tell me what is right and what is wrong. I can do that for myself. Use common sense and logic and that will take a person far in life.
• United States
21 Feb 10
I pray that there will come a day when you feel the need to find out about God, and that you will want to feed on it everyday.
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• United States
21 Feb 10
You are wasting your time praying for someone such as me. Don't waste your prayers.
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@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
21 Feb 10
I have to agree with you rogue, you've literally taken the words out of my mouth.
• United States
22 Feb 10
first just let me say that I am NOT Christian I would also like to say that anything I say here is NOT meant offensively to any Christians out there I HAVE read the bible and I HAVE gone to church I can see a difference in me after NOT going to church in awhile I become more relaxed, laid back when I havent been to church in awhile I find myself more open minded and accepting of others when I dont go to church I just went to church yesterday and I am finding myself today still a little stressed and angry because of things that were said during the sermon It blows my mind how people that are supposed to be loving Christians can be so narrow-minded "God" is not in a building "God" is in your heart and soul, where ever you are "God" is in everything around you all the time You can be with "God" without having to go to church try meditation!
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• United States
22 Feb 10
Yes, wonttakelong, God is in each person, and He is everywhere you go. And yes you can talk to God regardless of where you are, but some people feel like they need more and they get those needs fulfilled when they are with others who believe the same way they do.
• United States
23 Feb 10
IMO those that feel that they need more than what "God" has already given them have missed the point of their religion and need to re-examine their faith
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
I have noticed that as well. I really thought it was just me who can see the difference. I used to be so active with a previous church and since then I have been off the charts from who I was before. Well I just find it hard to do some things that was easy for me to do before. I guess being involved and around other fellow church goers helps me to maintain the attitude that I want for myself.
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• United States
22 Feb 10
That is so true sublime03. I used to argue that I didn't have to go to church to be a good person. Maybe so. But if you are fellowshipping with others who attend church regularly, you can maintain a positive attitude and feel better about yourself and help others to feel better about themselves.
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@Mady2791 (547)
• United States
22 Feb 10
Not in my case. I'm the same person in and out of the church. I don't need a priest/pastor etc to remind me to behave myself because I'm heading to the wrong road. My relationship with God has nothing to do with the church; in my eyes there are two different things. I think your relationship with God is the most honest/pure because you can't hide your stuff from him hehehe . He knows AAAAALL your dirty laundry and you can't hide the stinking smell from him...he knows it stinks bad
• United States
22 Feb 10
Did you know that if you are truly one of God's chosen ones, that He is in each of you, and the church is the church, because that is where the people with God in their hearts gather to praise and worship him like in the bible.
@Mady2791 (547)
• United States
22 Feb 10
Well,then I guess I have been chosen at times and others he has crossed me off the list.
• United States
2 Mar 10
No. That's not so, and I didn't intend you to take it that way. I'm just saying that some people have church (God in themselves) out of church, and others have a need to be together to receive what they need.
• United States
2 Mar 10
I notice a big difference when I go to church. The whole week just seems to be better and Im in a good mood. I havent been in a while I have no good excuse becides im lazy i guess. but I miss the environment and the way of living in a church environment. I pray that I will quit being so lazy and start thinking of my kids and raise them with the lord.
• United States
2 Mar 10
clntigger, I will pray now that you will be able to make yourself get back to church. Will you pray the same for me? ......I just did pray for you. Also, I know what you're saying. When I was going 3 or 4 times a week, I just didn't feel like it was enough. I wanted there to be another night for church, because I do made it through life with much more joy. Blessings to you and your loved ones.
• India
27 Feb 10
Yes. Surely it will change our regular habits. We should read the Holy Bible everyday and we should attend all the services. Then only we can live happily in our life.
• United States
2 Mar 10
We will have faith that we don't have to face our troubles alone, that God is with us to help us get thru. That way we won't feel hopeless and feel as tho we need to give up. What you said is so so true!