did it ever happen to you?????????????
By parthu28
@parthu28 (498)
India
February 25, 2010 11:54am CST
hey friends...
just around an year back my girlfriend made friends with my best friend..both of them became very good friends and eventually they started calling each other brother n sister...
now the sister started loving n caring for the brother a bit little more than what he was used to ...
he started feeling suffocated and started behaving rude with her.
when ever she did something or tried to say something , he started getting irritated and calling her names in front of me.
i felt very bad and asked her to stay away from him.she asked me to reason that, but i couldn't tell her or else she would have got hurt a lot...
but later at some stage she somehow came to know about it n did get very much hurt by the way he spoke...
now the situation is such that she still loves him a lot n gives a place to him of her dearest brother in her life,but still she isn't able to cope with that hurt.she likes and dislikes him at the same time because of which she is torturing herself.
i cant see her this way..
plz somebody tell me what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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5 responses
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
25 Feb 10
And the worst part of this whole story is that you are actually stuck in the middle of this. You can either tell her to leave him alone and break all bonds with him or you can stop beign friends with him. Either way, she will get hurt. It is not easy to give up such a bond. But it is better to do it, than to get hurt. Believe me, i have been there, done that and i have the broken heart to live with. She will have to accept this, at the end of the day. Good Luck. TATA.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
25 Feb 10
Yes, she has to break all bonds with him. You see her sad and hurt and he cannot stand beign treated that way. So, either she just leave him alone or you will have to see her like this everyday. Please remember, women, always care a lot more about their partners friends than what are good for them. And most of them don't like that at all.
@rebornishard (186)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 10
you are a man like, man must provide woman with warm, so ask her to talk, then hug her, tell her how much you love her, tell her to stay with you, and tell her you will always there for her
that is all i can help you out :)
sincerely reborn is hard
@parthu28 (498)
• India
25 Feb 10
I so desperately want to do that. But we are nearly 700 miles away from each other. She stays in a different state and i stay way too long. We meet rarely may be once or twice a year.
That friend of mine is here with me and is very close to me. they too speak over phone alone.
So I find it very hard to settle things up. I also felt like if they sit and speak to each other their heart, I would not be so much troubled. But as I said he stays here in my city with me and so there are no chances they meed either.
BUT THANKS A LOT. I LIKED UR SUGGESTION. I WISH I COULD DO THAT.
@rebornishard (186)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 10
ok do it as fast as you can, if you love her, keep her with you, make in her mind just you no other man :)
you can do it ! cheers up :D
sincerely reborn is hard
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
26 Feb 10
well it was good that used to get along. but its not cool your friend is being rude and calling your girl names in front of you. i would take that at all. but your friend needs to tell her that she to give him space, or you can.
but this is going to be a big issue for sure.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
That’s a tough situation to be in! Talk about meat in the sandwich! It is tough but you can stand up for your girlfriend with your best friend and explain to him that you don’t want to lose his friendship but you cannot sit back and watch him being rude to your girlfriend. Is there any way you can talk to him in order to resolve the problem?
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
25 Feb 10
Butt out! There is no reason you should be entangled in this at all. It is between them and they have to settle it. You are caught in the middle only because you choose to be. Tell each of them, you want to hear nothing bad about the other. If they have something to say, they should speak to each other and leave you out of the picture entirely.
Unless you are enthralled by the drama and what you deem as your self-importance in the scheme of things, let them settle the situation themselves.
@parthu28 (498)
• India
25 Feb 10
Well my friend .. I tried it out. Infact thats the first idea I got and believe me I got a lot more into trouble. Thats coz she started feeling I am trying to keep my self away in her personal matters and felt she is losing me. I tried explaining but she started feeling more n more guilty.
She feels I am keeping her away coz of her relationship with my friend. She thinks I am being hurt coz of her relationship and that she should leave that guy once n forever. And as I said she isnt able to.
Well she is a little too sensitive and myself am sensitive only in this relationship. In our relationship for the past 7 years we have been sharing every single bit and now trying to avoid a particular topic or a person that is common to us is getting harder.
