If he leave his partnetr because of you ,will he do the same to you?

@cloud31 (5811)
February 27, 2010 11:06am CST
A man or woman who fall in love with someone else in time that he/she is committed to someone can make a decision to leave the one whose currently committed to him/her and hold another love forsaken the others.Because he need to make decisions between you and the other. I am just curious if this person who fall in loved with you will not do the same as he did to the one he left behind.? Do you think time will come that he/she can find a better one and leave you behind same as he did before? Of course i am not saying that "person has the same fate" he/she felt inloved with you and saying you gonna be the last to him/her maybe its for real , maybe he/she found the real love in you and sacrifice his commitment to others.. What do you think about this? Welcome to share your views and opinion..Thank you and happy lotting!
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@jambi462 (4598)
• United States
27 Feb 10
I don't think it's fair to assume that they will do the same to you as they did to the one before you to get to you. Perhaps you were so good that he had to break it off with his previous girlfriend. Of course the possibility is still there but I think it's an unfair judgment that they will do it again just because they have done it before.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
Hello jambi Some people jumped into aconclusion that what he did the past he will do the same in the future..In my point of view if he is really inlove with you they will not the do the same as he did previously. I really appreciate your immediate respond. Thank you and happy lotting!
@jambi462 (4598)
• United States
27 Feb 10
No problem with the new mylot alerts system it's great to be able to see when all of my friends have posted discussions.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
Highly appreciate!
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
For me, not all times when someone leave their present partner for you, he will do the same in you as what he did in the past. Why? Because both of you will do everything to make the relationship works due to the afraid of being alone and ignored at the end.
@cloud31 (5811)
1 Mar 10
Well, i agree but most people jump into conclusion that "it will be a repeated occur" because in their mind it has been done once,there is a tendency to happen again.Just hope its not the way it should..Anyway,depends on individual how do they manage their relationship. Thank you for responding! Happy mylotting!
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
Everyone has a capacity to change in the name of love. Maybe some NO. It will depends on both of you.If I were the man and you are girl involve in this issue. For sure, I will never leave you whatever it takes,hehehehhehe
@cloud31 (5811)
5 Mar 10
Why I'm involved on this I"m just one who started the topic lol..Ok well feeling should not be put in words but in actions.Lol..
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
I think that things could really happen just the way it does. I think that person who was able to leave the one he used to love and be with someone else. Maybe it's Fate or just the order of things. You can never ever tell what's going to happen next.
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Feb 10
Yah absolutely its just we cannot hold things to happened.Fate or order of things we have to accept what will it bring to us.And when it happens,hold onto your experienced to decide for the step and next move to make. Thank you for responding..Happy my lotting!
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
That's a very good though! happy mylotting too!
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
In my opinion, it depends on the person choice, his thoughts and decisions. There are many possibilities why do they leave their partner for the sake of replacing them with another person. The possible main reasons are : 1.when this person have not fully decided that his present partner is enough for him to be satisfied. Meaning the security and his wants is not fulfilling for him. 2. when the person felt that his worth trusting meaning many doubts or things that happened causing pain to him or both of them. 3. when the partner usually have many serious fights or had not given him freedom and attention at all that he needed in a relationship. 4. when he feels that he cannot grow more as a person. The present of many hindrances that prevent them to act normally as partners. Usually on cases like family disapproval, peers or any influential person in one's life. 5. when he is more attracted to the other person that tend him to leave his present partner. 6. emotional attachment like love, attention and affection is lesser on the present partner and made him into this abrupt conclusion by changing partner ahead 7. When he is more of a playboy pr playgirl type of person. The assume on thoughts go more of the ego than the feeling of being totally human in nature. 8. When he had found the real love on the other person that lead him to this decision However, usually in most cases, this things do happen to partners who has weak status of relationship. Though there are also some strong relationships that happen to encounter this kind due to reasons such as temptation sake or any present obligations that cannot be resolved like pregnancies or fixed marriages. In effect, he may have choices but he cannot get away of the problems he have in the other person. This is a matter of of differentials in a relationship. Either he do or not the same things, it depends on his perspective in life. People thoughts are unique from each other. What the person has done for himself that may be good for him will be bad for other people. This is a matter of trial and error kind of relationship that is why this exists. I believe that as soon a person cannot find the real love. This will be always open for such possibilities to happen unless he found the real love because this is the only prevention for unwanted things to happen and cause damage in a relationship. If you love your partner well, before you take actions, you will reconsider first the feelings and how far it can affect the relationship.
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Feb 10
I agree with you ! Thank you for responding!
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
Totally agreed with you! A person only threads water and find another island if he cannot find or seek his needs from the other. Its just being human. But the fact is not because he did it to the other person he will do that again to the present one. Its not because he is like that but its because his needs are insatiable... He might thought he was in love but then again find himself in need of what the present cannot give... There's always reasons why he will leave.. Point is its not just because of habit...
@warvial (1154)
• Singapore
27 Feb 10
I always gave the same advice to my friends who feel for the people who are already committed in a relationship. I totally understand if one have had no choice but to leave his/her current partner for another because of some really bad reasons such as abusive bf/gf etc. But it would be better if they can first end their current relationship properly, take some time off to get over with him/her, and then commit to another relationship. Because one will never know if they will be taken as just a substitute of their previous partner's slot or simply just someone who they can grab hold of at that time.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
That's a nice advise from you,i think its the best way to do when partners who doesn't make a good match.Well we cannot predict what will happened next but when love is involved it seems everything is all right. Thank you warvial.Happy Lotting!
@warvial (1154)
• Singapore
28 Feb 10
Yes, that's right. Love is too unpredictable and thus, when things related to love, we just can't explain it through words. Hopefully people who choose to leave their partner for another won't see it as a habit or a life-saving boat action or it's their new partner and their relationship will suffer in the end. Cheers
@tcup345 (360)
• United States
1 Mar 10
I've seen this many times. If he is faithful to you or not, the trust needed in a relationship will not be there. There will always be doubt in your mind. Sometimes, he will not trust you, knowing what he's done to someone else. Not a good beginning to any relationship.
@cloud31 (5811)
1 Mar 10
Thank you for responding,sincerely appreciated! Happy myloting!
@Bhemzky (423)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
Well.. Maybe there is a possibility but no one will ever know what will happen unless they try it. We are not very much sure about the future. The only thing we can do is to make our very best to the relationship for us not to lose the one we love. It actually depends on how you deal with your partner and how you take care of the relationship. I would like to share an article I wrote about how to take care of relationships. I hope this will help others. -- http://socyberty.com/relationships/how-to-make-a-relationship-work-2/
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Feb 10
Absolutely! I agree with you..Thank you for responding!
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
We can not really generalized that this person is also going to have the same fate because these are two different things that we are talking about. Though one person is involved in both situations. It depends on the couple on how they can make their relationship work and on what they are willing to sacrifice for the sake of what they have as a couple. It will last if they will make it last but both of them must be willing enough to work our for it.
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Feb 10
Well, it make sense with both parties, in the case that he left one behind and hold on to another love depends how true the feelings they have is it for real?Or will it end up like the others,In this situation fear or doubt may occupy ones mind thinking about the past but if we look upon the situation its a sincerity that counts,we are holding our own fate and what is the best thing to do?Fate is not to follow but let it works with you, meaning you can change the direction of your fate if you know exactly the path to take and the step to follow. Thank you for responding and Happy lotting!
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
most probably dear....love is a decision not a feeling. if it is based on feelings then you would be changing partners everyday. loving someone is a decision we must make everyday, especially when you are married.
@cloud31 (5811)
28 Feb 10
Hello candyfairy Its really a puzzle how things works with this,i am so touch of your words, it make sense when marriage is involved,its true when base on feelings its easy to change partner once feelings is subsided..but since married is involved its a decision to love your partner everyday and not to based on feelings otherwise marriage won't last forever. Happy lotting!
@___SKY___ (542)
• Hong Kong
27 Feb 10
not really., LOve is one reason for this ,one person might commit himself unexpectedly and he left the others because he cannot find what he is looking for from her and he find out to a new love.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
Yah i agree with you..Thank you for responding!Happy lotting!
27 Feb 10
I think it depends on the reason why he left his last love for his new one. If the relationship was already rocky and he was unhappy, he was sub-consciously ready for a new partner. Or, for example, he may have married for the wrong reasons and the relationship hadn't worked out. It doesn't mean that his next relationship will end the same way. The two people could be soulmates. If, however, he has a wandering eye he may do the same thing again. Some men are more interested in the chase than the capture. Once he has caught you, he may start looking for someone to take your place.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
hi louise That's sounds nice and vivid about what people guess about this topic,its clear enough that two individual view things indifferently from others and staying with someone without the presence of LOVE and affection is not really a good choice for healthy relationship,if that will happened it just that its really a choice to leave than to stay.And i think that if he leave the past and stay in the future it might be more intimate than the previous one. Happy Lotting!
@lissaj (532)
• United States
27 Feb 10
I would not trust someone who left his/her partner to be with me. There may be reasons that this person is leaving but it should never be due to another person. A relationship is just that. A relationship. How do you know they won't do the same thing to you? Is it worth taking that chance? If I didn't want to be with someone, I would not be with them. But I would never let it be due to falling in love with someone else.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
I respect your view about this!thanks for sharing!
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
27 Feb 10
No one knows it is a Chance that is taken when this happens Most People always assume this will happen and yes it does happen but not all the time It depends how much Love and trust there is in the relationship
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
Thanks Gab,nice view about this topic,it might happen and it may not,so its depend on people concerned. Happy lotting!
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
27 Feb 10
The wheel is round !!!In life is good to know that roles can be reversed easily, can work the compensation law. Always, before you hurt someone, just to think that tomorrow you can be one wounded. Who cheated once, will wrong all the time.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
Yah, its true, no one can control life from turning and you may not know what happened next,,one day you will find things happened it was too late to realize that you've been unfair to others and now the lesson is turning back on u,, Happy lotting!
• United States
27 Feb 10
I don't think it will have the same outcome, maybe he is really inloved so he cannot do anything but to make it that way,i have gone to this and the last love i go with is perfect and and i don't think i will have to leave her and i really love her so i don't have guts of doing so.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
That's nice to know, well hope things will go well with you and your present one.. Happy lotting!
@anc457 (186)
• Thailand
27 Feb 10
Do unto others what you want others to do unto you, it is a golden rule. there maybe some exmptions to this rule, but slim. i'm a little worried, might happen to me. i just hope not. anyways if ever it will and i know time comes it will, i'll be ready by then.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
hi there How great is thy faithfulness,Lol, yah it make sense we just hope it will not be that way, a bit of confusion isn't it? Karma? Lol,anyway there's no such matter you believe and try to be in nice doing so. Happy Lotting! Thank you for responding!
27 Feb 10
ya some times its true but that doesn't mean that he will do it again.some times people make mistake may be he liked her because of physical beauty but after that they have problems with their realationship and then he met with someone whom he wanted forever so he leave old.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
Hello abhi it make sense actually one partner found a lot of differences between them and they cannot get so good when they were together.So other decided to quit and follow his heart without considering the past and how long they stay together,he found the others worthy to be loved and he go for it. Thank you for responding! happy lotting!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
27 Feb 10
I think so. He can leave you just as he left the other, or visa versa. I have never been in this situation, but i am sure it might come to this. TATA.
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Feb 10
Hello saph,nice to hear from you again.That was other's opinion,hope more words from others for better consideration. Thank you and God bless!
@nocturn98 (956)
• Venezuela
8 Mar 10
The person would probably do the same to you if he did it to someone else before. It seems like this kind of relationship didn't start off the right way. Karma will surely come back at the person/s involved.
@galileo2008 (1140)
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
Probably he will. He already did it once, there's a big chance that he will do it again. But it's hard to predict really, and it's not good to assume that the person will do the same thing to you. If he really loves you, then he probably won't leave you. But if he doesn't, then he will leave. I have a friend in high school. He cheated on one of my girl friends, eventually left her, and then he went out with the other girl. After 10 years of going out together, my friend again left the second girl because he was again in love with another girl. It's like a cycle that cannot be broken. But then again, who are we to judge, right? I can still say it really depends on the person.