would you change for your loved one?

United States
February 27, 2010 6:08pm CST
My g/f asked me to stop being so serious and loosen up some. should people change for the people they care about or not?
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11 responses
@jstrx_24 (40)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
you girlfriend is right. you should loosen up since you are a stiff. the question you asked was a little vague. when you say change, you change for the better. we all know we can't change the old ways/character that we have since those are that reflect us, and we can't change overnight. however, we can change the little things like our sense of humor. dude, your girlfriend just wants to be with a person who can enjoy her time with. lighten up. your girl doesn't like the monotony of your relationship. change to make your relationship flourish. got dat?
• United States
28 Feb 10
I stress with work, bills, etc. so its harder to loosen and have fun when I have worry about everything.
@phoenix8606 (4942)
28 Feb 10
Hi! maybe we should, but not totally just a little bit :) And if the beloved one loves us really very much, then she/he will not ask from us to get change and will love us the way we are
@bin22l (160)
• Guwahati, India
28 Feb 10
It depends on how much you love and care,If you love and someone very very much and life without that loved one is meaningless , then certainly you will change.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
28 Feb 10
If my partner thinks it would make my life easier or better, he might SUGGEST, it. But i won't change for the benefit of others. Accept me as i am and what i am. TATA.
@trebliw0 (147)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
if it's for the best then go for it, but normally you should be the one to decide if you really wanna change for the better.
• United States
28 Feb 10
It really depends on what you are changing. As far changing who you are no you shouldn't. If she wants you to change who you a are then the relationship will never work. If she wants you to change little things to tweak the relationship a bit, then give it a try.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
28 Feb 10
There are minor things that someone can try to change about themselves for their partner and loosening up a bit is one of them. Asking you to stop being serious EVER would be too much to ask because your seriousness is part of your personality.
@doormouse (4599)
28 Feb 10
it depends on the situation,if they've changed since you've been with them and you want them to be the way they used to be,then i think it's ok to ask them to change,but if they've always been that way,and you've just decided that you don't like it anymore,then no you shouldn't ask,,my other half would probably like me to change,but i won't,i like me the way i am,and i won't change for anyone
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
If its for the good on the relationship sure I will change for my love one's sake especially if its for my own good & for my partner to make him happy. I will voluntarily change for him.
@Mike4me (567)
• Philippines
28 Feb 10
That depends, if it's for the best then I am very willing to change for him. And sometimes you just do some stuff that your partner wants you to do, like to make them happy every now and then. I am always open to new things.
• India
28 Feb 10
i think u neednt to be changed 4 smone......but if tht person is loved one.....thn u mst hve to be understanding....not necessary to change ur self...u can change sm of ur bad habbits acc. to him....if tht person dont like...but only bas one........bcz u r u...no one else can be like u so if tht person love u he will u as u r.....not to changed one......so be understanding even to be chnged....