Do you scream and yell when you have an argument?

Hi there. I don't like to hear someone yelling cause i easily get affected and my temper rises and everything follows. My entire day will be ruined. That's one of the reasons why i don't like having a boss. Anyway, are you in a field that exposed to everyday stress? Maybe that makes your boss a dragon. When he's walking in the hallway or approaching everyone disappear and pretending that they are busy.

I'm retired now and I don't have to listen to the yelling. I'm much less stressed and much more calm. I understand it still goes on where I use to work, and if I had to go back, I seriously doubt I'd be able to handle it now. I'm not sure how I handled it when I was there. I'll be retired now five years this coming February and not dealing with the yelling and stress has been wonderful.

I guess most of us had a terrible fight with our siblings, it's part of growing up. But with your boss? I don't think its reasonable to fight in work place. How will their employees respect them if they them selves don't respect each other. No more privacy. I'm sure they're always the hot topic in the office. Aren't they a shame of their acts?

Oh! I don't yell at my partner. She prefer me to speak out than being quiet as if i don't listen. My partner hates it when i do nothing when there's an issue that needs to settle. I zip my mouth, isolate my self and cool down and when i come back as if nothings happened. But, when she's the one involve i ignore her until my system cool's down, and it took me weeks. Anyway, how's your temper now? Thanks for your advice though.

Oh my! A short tempered man. Aren't you scared of him when he is mad and a possibility that he'll go physical? How long you've been together? So, when he shouted at you you just ignore him, surely its killing him. I think when you hug him in the morning after that terrible argument theirs a little regret why he did that to you.

Oh! Don't you regret it after? I mean you throw your things that you've work so hard just to have it? Do you pick the things you throw? Do you throw things within your reach no matter how expensive and important that stuff to you? Never throw a mirror cause its bad luck.

Yes, there's a greater possibilities that it will end up physical. How do you manage this situation, when things are intense you are also tempted to defend your self? We can't avoid that our temper meet, right? When you talked to him does he listen to you? Did he accept your explanation? Cause there are instances that they don't even if your reasons are rational.

Hey! I'm not married but I'm in a 7 year relationship. I haven't yell at my partner and I'm still hoping it won't happen cause she's sensitive. I don't want her to be hurt as well. I can relate on what you stated, "..make the other person look bad" Yes, i do this and i regret is afterward. I want my partner feel the same pain though i know she don't deserve it. I hate my self when i see her crying and in pain due to my actions.

Yes. I agree with you. screaming and shouting with each other doesn't solve the problem, it will only worsen it. At least one of you have control over it. So how about your partner? Does he have a short temper? Have you tried being screamed by him?

hahaha yeah! It is definitely embarrassing especially when you are not used to that situation. Glad you both do know how to control it cause it is so hard to control one self in times like that. Especially when you are being insulted and thrown out words that are not pleasing.

Hmmm... me and your boyfriend are the same. I'm not the type of person who wants an argument. When me and my girl argue i just shut my mouth when i know my reasons are not valid and etc. I don't feel like talking because for me it will only worsen the situation(very opposite to my girl. She wants to settle everything before the day end). My partner wants me to say whats on my mind and voice out everything but i prefer to be quiet all the time. So, issues are often unresolved. Do you know what happened to us for being like that? We end up having heart problems at very young age... by not telling our heart aches.

So how to you handle your temper? So, when everything is calm do you explain your side? Why did you say getting hurt because being stubborn? Do your beloved ones ended up in wrong decisions that lead her into trouble? Does she throw hings on you when she's mad?

Well, let your in-laws heard your husband voice but never yours because it may put a bad impression towards you. Remember that in-laws are always on their daughter/son's side no matter how valid your reasons are. Raising each others voice is no help. It will only worsen the situation. Good thing you have control over it. At least one of you can manage scenario. Hey, why don't you teach your husband a sign language?

Really? Aren't you scared on what people can say about you? And after that intense argument when you're calm don't you feel like sorry for you self? Feel embarrassed? So how does your partner handle it? You really really have to think a million times before you do such thing. Don't over power your mind with your emotions. In your case you have to use your brain, not your heart. So, being like that often lead to break ups??

Well, yes! Some people have the nerve doing it. We can't really tell unless we are in their situation. But think it depends on how we handle the situation and how our parents brought us up?

Hello, Choy. I don't know if it really runs in the blood. What i am sure of is that it may affect you and adopt it due to your environment. You where able to absorb it and act like like that. Once i was so patient when i comes to argument. I never raised my voice to anyone nor my girlfriend but when we move out to our place and transferred to a new place i become impatient, easily get irritated and short temper person. Why? Because my environment is noisy and we are unlucky to have neighbors who has no breed. Me, my mom and my brother changed a lot. I think this are the factors that influenced us. Now, I'm having a hard time to be me. To be a cool person as before.