At a Loss feel like I'm loosing my best friend what would you do?

I agree with the saying that time heals all wounds too! And I think that once she and her friend have taken their break and let time help them get over their hurt and anger then it may get easier! I also believe that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand too and if she proves to her friend that she can be trusted again then in time too the forgiveness will come! I hope that made sense!

I agree to a certain extent with both comments.......I feel that way right now elsmarie that I've already lost her....I'm sure that my friend was understanding of my grief tho..... But in saying that I feel that I've already tried so hard to show my friend that she can trust me again but if the forgivness isn't there there is no way to turn....I've aplogized for my mistake and how horrible I feel and I know it should of been handled face to face....But even with that being used as examples it also was a part of the circle I start with how sorry I am we clarify then it was used as an example then boom back at it again I know that it was clarified it would not be used again so that isn't the issue just trying to figure out what more I can do....Have invited her over for coffee when she needed out of the house she wasn't ready yet....I've tried calling there she talked to me 2 times but wasn't ready yet so if she isn't ready what else can I do to show her?

it's so hard to look for ways on how they can resolve their problem but i guess they're the ones who can bring back their friendship since they know each other well.

That is something that I've been trying to do is watch what I say to others that I talk to but it's mostly not saying that my friend is saying this this and that but I also know through second hand that words can also be twisted to what was orginally said I say my part in it as well to try and figure out how or what I can do differently to help show how my mistake has been very horrible and how badly I feel....I have mentioned to my friend in question it hurt me a little and that I know it wasn't said on purpose but through hurt feelings and a big fight alot was being missed on both sides....It's not that I want to give up on trying to get my friendship back and work things out I just feel with the forgivness not being there that the chance to try is not there as hurt feelings are still very vivid on both sides if I'm making any sense.....Yes every person and situation may be different but I also felt with using examples of those situations I was trying to help with why it's not there for me.....As the term had been used in another situation.....I'm human and make mistakes and have said I'm sorry for it which I am but I also feel that forgivness is a part of accepting that aplogy I know it's not always easy to give and she is struggling with that it's just hard for me....I feel that I try so hard to work it out and it turns around in circles....Or I'm denfending myself....Also I feel that everytime I say how horrible I feel and how sorry I am then it starts all over again after clarification on both sides....I feel if I try I'm hurting her if I don't I'm hurting her I don't know which road to take as I don't know where to begin and understand anymore then she does why the forgivness isn't there.....I'm trying to protect my heart for whatever happens cuz I feel in alot of ways I've already lost her.....But in others I feel there is a strong chance I'm just hurting and confused....

Hmmmmmm! I don't really know what to say or suggest then! I agree and understand that people can twist and turn things that is why whenever I get into a disagreement with someone I won't talk to others about it until I have clamed down enough that I know I won't accidently embelish, exaggurate, or end up saying something out of hurt or anger that I may regret later. All I was really saying is just be careful incase something like that happens. I'm sure if your friendship is meant to be it will be and the forgiveness will come in time and if it's not meant to be then I guess it won't! Maybe because you and your friend are taking a break right now (reasonably so) finding forgiveness for her is being put on hold. If your not communicating at all then how is she supposed to be able to forgive? In my opinion trust and forgiveness go hand in hand and if you prove to her she can trust you again I'm sure the forgiveness will in time too! Hope that made sense! Just a thought and opinion! Good Luck!

Yes it made sense I also feel tho she could also reach out to me and help me with what is that she would like to see me do....It's not that I don't want to start I'm just hurting right now!

Thanks for your response Hatley......I just felt that when a phrase was used and it wasn't intential at all....The part that is hard for me right now is the distance we have had since our fight....I look at her baby as a blessing and healing experience for me and hope to get the opportunity to meet her precious baby one day......Even tho it is hard for me I much rather heal with the love and support with friends then not be around at all....I just have learnt to come to her and talk to her face if I'm having one of those times and days as I know I will get through it....Happy Mylotting...