Mom's Jewelry

@dawnald (84146)
Shingle Springs, California
March 3, 2010 11:51am CST
So last night in the shower I took my wedding ring off. Didn't put it back on this morning. Too tight among other things. So I was looking for a ring to put on and I saw the old cigar band that was in with my mom's jewelry. And it reminded me of a story... It was President's day, 2004, when my dad came by and told me I needed to go to the hospital with him. My mom had fallen, tripped, lost her balance, whatever (I never did get the exact story) and broken her left hip and arm. In one of those stories that illustrates just what's wrong with medical coverage in this country, she was stuck there waiting for another hospital to have an available bed, because her insurance didn't have a contract with the orthopedic group in that hospital. The next day she was transferred, had a pin put into the hip and was later moved to a halfway facility. She gave up smoking, got on anti-depressants, and, shortly before her 70th birthday, she went home. We had a very small gathering, Dad, the four of us and our families, and her best friend Jeannine. Somewhere in there, mom told me that she wanted me to come by and go through her jewelry with her. So I went over the following week and pulled everything out and she told me about each piece (if it had a history). I took it all with me with instructions that it was to be given "mostly all to the grand-kids". There was this old box with a costume jewelry broach in it. Mom told me she didn't know the history, just that it was very, very old. In addition, there was her great-aunt Virginia's broach, her great-aunt Nina's amethyst necklace, her great-aunt Maude's pearls and a crystal necklace that her grandmother gave to her mom as a wedding present. She even gave me her engagement ring. The only thing she kept was her wedding ring. A month after her birthday, I got a call from my dad. Mom had passed away in the doctor's office. Ironically, she had first gone to the Orthopod and gotten released to get up and start walking. Then she went to her own doctor as she was having problems with weakness and some other things. Dad rolled her wheelchair into the waiting room, but she had given him orders that if she fell asleep, not to wake her up. So when the nurse came in to check on her, she was already gone. We don't really know if it was heart failure due to all the years of smoking or if, more likely, it was a blood clot due to being bedridden for 2 months. Anyway, dad wanted to be alone that evening, so I stayed home and went through the jewelry again. I don't know why, but when I pulled out the box with the broach, I shook it. To my surprise, it rattled. When I looked under the lining, there were a couple of what appeared to be tie tacks and a cigar band wedding ring. The ring has "PAT 1848" engraved on the inside. If those are initials, could be this belonged to somebody on the Thomas side of the family, but I really don't know. So today I am wearing a piece of family history that is a mystery!
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
3 Mar 10
I love finding things like that. I always try to tract them, but as I get older there are less and less people I can get information from. So I like to make up a story for the item, I write it down and share with grandkids, of course I make sure they know it's just a fun story, not fact.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Mar 10
Mom was the oldest, none of her sibs have any idea, so guess unless I can find another branch of the Thomas family or a Thomas genealogy, I don't have much to go on.
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
3 Mar 10
Thomas is a common name, have fun. We are genealogists if you want help pm me.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Mar 10
Yeah, too common and I don't even know if there are any descendants on that side other than my mom's siblings... K one of these years when I get round to it. :-)
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3 Mar 10
Hi dawnald, It is amazing when you think of your parents rings and things what history there is to them, I have somer of my mother's rings, her wedding ring and engagement rings which she give to me before she passed as she knew that one on my sisters would take, also have her ruby bracelet and ring, the rest of the jewllery have been taken by my brother and sisters. Tamara
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Mar 10
We did eventually divide it up between the grandchildren, although my sister and I kept a few things too.
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• United States
3 Mar 10
Oh' the headache! I was just thinking of records that could be searched, but what town and where to begin? Maybe tracing back through the family tree and paying close attention to initials. I would first have to learn how and where to access the correct records, special permissions and the cost for the information that should be free. There is a reason people are getting extremely wealthy off of the poor and middle class.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Mar 10
Well I have names far back as my great-great-grandparents on that side. Maybe a trip to Salt Lake City one of these days might help me clear things up. Or not. :-)
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• United States
3 Mar 10
I saw the conversation with Savypat, that is great, that you probably also have that knowledge and you know when I have a mystery like that, I like to solve it. Cool Peace, I'm off and running... Good luck, Sincerely, Gary
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Mar 10
later
• Australia
3 Mar 10
A lovely story Dawn, and fond memories of an obviously close relationship.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Mar 10
snif must go rescue some of those pieces out of the safe and look them over again (I have the ones for the kids squirreled away until they're older)...
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@BarBaraPrz (21376)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Mar 10
Nice story.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Mar 10
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• United States
5 Mar 10
i am so sorry about your mother i know that it is very hard but i am really glad that you our wearing the things that you mother left you i also hope and i pray that everytime you look at it or touch it you think of your mother as being right there with you want a wonderful gift she left to you enjoy.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Mar 10
She didn't even know about this ring, and too bad I can't tell her about it. But I do think of her...
• United States
5 Mar 10
she knows she is standing right there with you our spiritual world walk among us you know and i bet that sometimes you feel her there with you
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Mar 10
• India
4 Mar 10
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• India
4 Mar 10
sorry it was another discussion posting and by mistake I posted here so I am really very sorry.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Mar 10
No problem, you're not the first person it's happened to...
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Mar 10
hi dawn that was a lovely story about the jewelry sorry about your mom 'though. I was thinking of coincidences and jewelery.years back when my hubby was alive, we were making a garden behind our house, and were diggin up the soil. I found a youngster's gold ring,on the inside was Luv Ya Mom to MjC. well I kept that ring on top a book case in our living room and one day a girl scout troop came bye selling cookies. I was a push over, and was making out a check. I asked the girl for her name as she had sold me a lot of stuff. She said Mary Joe Connell, you know we used to live in this house? I handed her the check then had an idea, when did you live here? She looked about 14, She said about four years ago, I was a brownie scout then. I asked her did your mom or someone give you a ring for some occasion? she giggled oh yes, and I lost it. mom was really upset too. I picked up the ring and handed it to her, I told her,I found this in our back yard, I had b een digging up the dirt for a flower bed. She asked was it by that great big tree. I nodded nd she told me she used to climb it all the time until she fell one day and broke her arm. shelooked at the ring and said , thats it, I loved it but I lost it. I gave it to her, telling her she might need to have it resized as she was bigger now.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Mar 10
That's great! It's so seldom that people lose things like that and actually get them back!
@marguicha (106185)
• Chile
5 Mar 10
Hi girls, You both gave me the pleasure of two beautiful family tales. I think we should cherish those stories and tell them to our children. Hugs for both of you!
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
5 Mar 10
Thanks for sharing such a touching personal story. Sometimes we need to hold on to things such as these to hold onto the precious memories that they are to us. Your mom left you such wonderful history and memories to share with others and for yourself. May the mystery of this piece of family history soon not be a mystery for you!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Mar 10
I hope so too1
@GardenGerty (105415)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Hi, Dawn, what a very neat story. Even if I had some family jewelry, it would be too small for my big old fat hands. My sister has 98% of the family jewelry of sorts, plus some she bought at a pawn shop. I have some things that are costume jewelry. I can not begrudge her, she believes she was never loved, and a bunch of other cr*p that gets told differently every day.I, on the other hand, know I was loved and that Mom and Dad both loved us all.Who needs jewelry?
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Mar 10
Ah well I admit I love bright, sparkly things, but as for mom's jewelry, the meaning is in where they came from and who they belonged to, and not what they're worth (which mostly isn't much lol).
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
4 Mar 10
How fascinating to have a piece that is so old and with a name engraved in it. I would love to know its history! I know it is probably very difficult to find out where the ring came from; I would be so curious! My mother in law left me some jewellery when she passed away, nothing that old but things she had owned for a few years. I went around quizzing her family to find out the history behind each piece. It is nice to know the background when I am wearing them.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Mar 10
Yep it is...
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Hi dawn~ I'm sorry to hear about what happened to your Mom. That is really sad. At least you have somethings to remember her by and her family. I think that the "mystery ring" sounds really interesting! Too bad that you don't know the really story behind it! But, either way it is still nice that you have it and are wearing it! My Mom has gone through her jewelery and her hiding places and her papers a million times already with me! Every time I go to visit her in Florida we do it all over again because she keeps changing the "hiding places"! I wouldn't mind, but she does have a safe! She has things hidden in clothes, under sinks, and it will be hell for me to throw anything out because I would have to check every piece of clothing (and she is a clothes horse)! She just turned 80 on February 20th, God Bless Her! I think she is going to outlive me!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Mar 10
Oh my goodness, I don't suppose you can persuade her to consolidate?
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
2 Apr 10
Well, that is always a proud one to wear our dear moms. I always feel she is with me and when i miss her. I feel wearing it i gives a beauty and joy . Well i do wear my moms bracelet and its my favorite one!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Apr 10
yeah me too...