Racist Friends and Family Members

Some people are like "Do you like chips? Do all people like chips? Should all people like chips? Do you like pop-corn? Do all people like pop-corn? Should all people like pop-corn?". I mean people treat others like subject not like alive creatures with feeling, desires, needs - just some people can't go so deep in their thinking to realize the core of the things. It should be like that but some believe they have the right to act like this and they are deaf to the truth

I'm the type of person that I believe that everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and feelings concerning other religions, races, lifestyles and cultures...however, I don't believe that you should go around attacking them. I'll use Mormons for an example (several family members are Mormon)...I don't agree with their teachings and the religion isn't for me but I don't call them names or attack their religion...they believe their way and I believe mine. As for how to handle your mom or other family member, it really sounds like your mom has some additional issues other than just not liking certain races. You might be farther ahead to limit your contact with her or at least avoid discussing your friends with her. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]

Your mother is a bit extreme. I do not like other religions, but I do not mind people of different colors or ethnic groups as I feel some of them may also be Christians. You cannot change your color or whether your ancestor came from Norway or from the Sudan. You also cannot marry someone just to prove that you are not a racist. Marry for love and if you have simularities such as both love gardening, both love country music, and both are of the same religion, but not to show your mother that you are not a racist. I like variety. I do not want everyone else to be the same color. It is too boring. What I do not like is the assumption that only blacks or dark colored people can be devout Christians while us white people are hypocritical hedonists. I also do not like the idea of people getting promoted because according to ecologists, we all came out of Africa and they are our natural masters. So there are two reasons to becoming racists, the colored man and woman who said "yes suh" and was lazy as portrayed by the white southern media or the black man and woman who were considered more morally right based not on their work, but on their color and who also get the best jobs because they did need to hold up to the standards others were held up to. I think you should ask your mother and find out why she feels that way. I suspect it is the first one that she assumes blacks are not that smart and are lazy. That might be easy to overcome. The second reason is a little bit harder as it sort of gives you a choice either become more racists or become more guilty of your ethnic background and that is very hard to overcome.

That is the same case here, I see so many places where racism is prevalent and even the family i can see that there is a hint of it. But i guess we will have to live with it as it will never fade out completely and there will always be people who follow racism. They have their own thought process and even in such days they are not willing to change it

i think most older people are like this, but as far as me i am not like this at all towards anyone. we have a rule in and outside my house there will be no racest talking at all, due to friends who live close to us. to hate people for color or any other things just because they are differnt then me is sad. we didnt raise our kids to be that way. i grew up in pretty all black area and went to school with mostly black. i know friends who belive in different things as me and they all know i dont want to hear about it at all. i dont color if you are black, whatever, i am not going to hate you, as along you are respectful to me and i will show you the same, i dont push what i belive on others either. my daughter was jumped by a group of black guys, and she still havent hate black people. we have black in our family. my cousin was married to a black man and my second cousins are mix, and my neice is married to a black guy with kids too. but its sad people are still like this in our world. its 2010 we all can be whatever we want too just need to work at it.

Yes I do have racists in my family and to be honest I don't have a relationship with them. My one sister is married to a cop and he is white and says a lot of racists things about other races. It got to the point when they came over for the holidays my mother had to tell them no cop talk allowed. That is the form he used to go on and on about other races. The same with friends if I was friends with someone and they made it clear to me they were racist I could no longer be friends with that person. You know when God created us I don't recall Him asking me what race did I want to be. He chose for me to be white. That doesn't give me the right to act like I am above every other race and if you are not white there is something wrong with you. It is what is inside of you that counts not the color of your skin. When I hear someone making a racist comment I do say something I don't keep quiet and let them know I am not a racist like that. It is sad when it is a family member and in the case of my sister she is teaching her kids the same things. I just pray that when they get older they will meet Godly people and learn we all bleed the same. God is in all of us and He loves us all the same no matter what race we are. He doesn't have a problem with race so why should we?

I never have considered myself racist. I think this is against the bible, myself. I love everybody no matter what color their skin is, what religion they are (although I know there's only one religion), or what culture they are from. I had to go to school with black people and I've had to work them, too. My parents weren't against people of other races but they thought they ought to stay in their place. In other words, they thought it wasn't right to mix. That was just the way they were taught, though. Kathy.