There's a guy in my school, I want him to be my boyfriend but he don't know me.

Philippines
March 9, 2010 3:18am CST
There's a guy in my school I like so much and I think about him all the time. I think I'm crazy about him and I AM SO SURE I want him to be my boyfriend. But the thing is, he doesn't know me. And I don't even know his name. haha. Well, I always see him inside the university campus so that's how I noticed him. So what I do? First, he has to know me. But how? Approaching him and telling him I want him is kind of awkward. I'm sure he'll like me too once he know that I like him. But how would he know? And what are the right words to say? I would appreciate all your responses. thanks. :)
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18 responses
@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
9 Mar 10
Dear autumndreamer, you are so cute and innocent. It is not you but your tender age that is making you do all this....10 years after you will sit and laugh about all these thing. Anyway.....I just want to tell you that, you should never make a boyfriend whom you love.......but someone who loves you.....if you will follow this motto you will be happy in life otherwise breaking of heart in love is very painful and worst punishment that one has to go through.....some heart breaks are so painful that after that you just forget to smile....so my dear sweet girl.....don't make the mistakes which we made 20 years before.....try to understand the meaning of love, get more matured and then fall into love....these puppy loves have no importance in life........have a great day.
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
thanks for the response! I truly appreciate it. And thanks for the concern. :) After reading your response, I felt like I'm immature. Haha. And I may agree that 10 years after, I'll just be laughing about it, I know it. =D but why should I not make a boyfriend whom I love/like? And why does it have to be someone who loves me? if i will love a boy who loves me, it doesn't mean he will love me for the rest of my life right? I think I've already experienced my worst heartbreak so I won't let it happen again. Don't worry. :) You are really sweet, you are like a sister. Thanks for your concern. Have a nice day. :)
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
9 Mar 10
You mean at this age you have already had you worst heartbreak....lol, no wonder this age is called Jet Age....., we were so slow and stupid at this age.... OK dear I think you are intelligent and you will make right decision...so I wish you lot of good luck and lot of hugs to my little sister.take care.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 10
my worst heartbreak was when I was 15. I'm so weak. I cried and cried for a long time until the pain is gone. haha. but now I've learned. :) yeah, jet age! haha. thanks. you take care too.
@saanjh (784)
• India
9 Mar 10
I think you should go and try to him your friend give your introduction and started with casual meat ting and after that invite him for a coffee and then you can tell your feeling.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 10
i think inviting him for a coffee already reveals my feeling. haha. because you won't invite a guy if you don't want something from him or like him right? how will I invite him? :O
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@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
9 Mar 10
I think I can give you a good solution, Miss... Well... First you have to catch his eye or his attention... Make him notice you.. That is the first step and it isn't very tough either... :) The next thing is to talk to him... I am sure once he likes you, he will do his best to start a conversations with you, but if he doesn't have the courage (forgive boys for this weakness), then you can get in touch with him through someone who knows both of you- A Common Friend!!!! The best, surest, safest way to start a conversation... :) Once you start a conversation, other things alongwith romance, will follow... ;) I hope my advice will work... Good Luck!!! Happy myLotting!
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• Philippines
10 Mar 10
we don't have a common friend. but i liked your advice. yeah, I'll make him notice me. :)
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
10 Mar 10
Okay... No Common friend.. Then it adds a little more work to the first step... And that is to get acquainted with any girl that he knows... Strengthen friendship with her, at this stage only... Good Luck.. And hey, let us know how it goes... ;) Happy myLotting...
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@sunkernjs (219)
• Philippines
12 Mar 10
It seems that you possess the qualities of a girl that is awesome to the eyes of everyone. In short, you are Goddess-like. Okay, in your case you don't have to worry of awkward things like telling him that you like him. Well, first of all its normal and there is no problem because no doubt you are pretty. However my only advice is that your attitude must fit your outside appearance. If you are pretty outside you must be the same INSIDE. God Bless and Good luck! Be sure to post a new discussion miss. I would love to hear from you. :)
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• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Goddess-like? that's too much! :D Really, you think it's not awkward if I tell him I like him? Thanks thanks. Btw, I'm still thinking of what to do and what's the best response in this discussion, but on Monday I wish I can see him again and I think I have to tell him as soon as possible because the vacation is going to start in the end of March so I have to grab the opportunity! It's only twice a week that I get to see him. :))
@harips (106)
• India
10 Mar 10
hi,.. this is very interesting topic..ok the first thing you should do is to make friendship with him.you can start by telling someone in his batch/class that he looks like micheal jackson.that should provide a chance that they will tell him abt you.another easy way is when both of you were in same place/area ask him for some help(most goys always like to help gals). best of luck to you ...and as far he has no strong relarionships you will sucess pardon for my poor english... okk i am in a situation just opposite to that of you...i like a gal in my campus and i really want to be in company with her..im am not very good in starting communication so..any suggestions...looking forward to ur comments
• Philippines
11 Mar 10
hi! thanks for your response! About your situation, I can relate to you. Well, if I were a boy, that would be less embarrassing since boys are always the one who should make the first move right? If you have a common friend, let that common friend introduce you to that girl, and then start hanging out with them after that. But if you don't know any of her friends, well, we're exactly in the same situation. I'm thinking hard for picking the best response here. And that's what I would do. Maybe ask someone to ask for her full name then search it on networking sites. Then add her as a friend, and you start sending her messages and introduce yourself that way. That's just my suggestions. Good luck to you. :))
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
10 Mar 10
Oh is it a university crush? What about hanging around his area on the campus? Taking the same lessons or stay in the same recreation area that he is in. If you know that he is in a particular group of your interest try to join as well. It would be a good idea to mingle with him in the company of other friends. You can study his character if you get on well with him or not. Good luck! Happy fishing!
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• Philippines
11 Mar 10
yeah, that's what I'm doing. It sometimes makes me feel like I'm stalking him but it's a good idea. Thanks so much! :))
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
10 Mar 10
Hi..I would give you an idea. Just go to him and ask, hi Jim, how are you. He would say he is not Jim. Then you tell him oh sorry, you looked like my cousin and intro yourself. And also ask him some address, way or regarding the course he is doing, tell him you want to know the details for your friend. Keep in touch by asking questions and you can let him know your true love! All the best!!
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• Philippines
10 Mar 10
thanks for response! :)
• China
10 Mar 10
LOL,maybe you should know the place he always go,then you go to that place too.so you can have chance to have a chat with him.for example you can go to the restaurant he usually go to have lunch?or you can learn the sports he like,so you can have chance to know each other,then you can have more chance to know him too.wish you success!
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• Philippines
10 Mar 10
hmm. good answer. I actually did that. It looks like I'm stalking him. haha. thanks for response. :))
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
9 Mar 10
Its easy, but takes a bit of research. First you need to find out who he hangs with. Ask everyone you know who he is and whats his name, then find out who his friends are by watching and asking around. There are multiple ways you can do this. Just be patient and persistent. Then when you find someone he knows, who knows him, make friends with this person and then ask your new friend to tell this guy that you have a crush on him. Once he knows who you are,and if he approves of you, he will get in touch.
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• Philippines
10 Mar 10
thanks so much for your advice. :)
@machivado (529)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 10
Introduction is a must and your first vital step. I remembered I was in your position (I'm a boy though). I made my introduction to her with a sincere smile and then she replied. After that, God knows what I said back then. I only remember that I have made my introduction.
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
what did you said?!! and what happened? did she like you back or what? what should I say? =D
@eubilisa (212)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
I smiled when I read your post but on the other side I was thinking also how could you like someone to be your boyfriend but you don't know him and surely you don't exist in him because you don't know each other. Wow, it's really complicated but as a piece of advice if you really like a person and you want that person to be part of your life then make an effort to know him like why don't you ask somebody to do a job for you like asking the name of a person as in the full name and then try to look for his facebook or friendster account that way at least you could have a chance to know him. Honestly, that's totally complicated but if you want to pursue him then do it now.
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
thanks thanks. that's helpful. i'm crazy, right? haha! i really want him. :)
@junrapmian (2170)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
That's really with us girls, we can't do the first move if we want someone. Maybe, you may try looking for a friend of his that you personally know and ask that person to introduce you to that guy, in a way which is not obvious that you are falling to that guy. And please wait till you know him and find out what he really is, before you tell me that you want him to be your boyfriend. What you see in the outside most of the times differ from the real him. Get to know him first and wait if he likes you before announcing to the world that you like him. He could taken already.
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
We don't have common friends. I just see him around the school so that's really hard. Yes, you're right I should know him first, but I can see he's a good guy because I always see him and I watch him when he's with his friends (I'm not a stalker!) but yeah, I have to know him more first. :)
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 10
what a pity.maybe some of us had ever get experienced like that. my suggestion is you had to introduce your self slow and slow but sure. and after he is comfort with you time by time, you can tell the truth, tell your feeling to him.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 10
thanks for your response. i apreciate it. :)
@amko1of1 (69)
• United States
9 Mar 10
guys are simple, I am one so I should know, assuming he doesnt have a girl already and isnt one of those guys who doesnt like to date, it is simple. Dont make it to be awkward try to keep it simple, but comment on something he is wearing or something he is involved in. A simple compliment can be a great icebreaker, something like, "Hey I'm taking that class next semester, can you recommend a teacher?" or "Hey i really like that shirt, what brand is it?" Best part is you will instantly know if he thinks you are attractive by his use of body language, if he likes you he will be more interested in sharing and will be more smiley :) If he isnt he will try to leave as fast as possible and will make you feel awkward. If you feel that he is into you after the first contact then introduce yourself, maybe by saying something like, "oh sorry my name is ____, whats yours?" From then on its pretty simple, just if you see him walking around campus you can talk to him without it being awkward because you have introduced yourself and he should know who you are. From there take it slow and find out things you both like doing and invite him to go with you to one of those things. Good Luck and remember keep it simple, and its only awkward if you make it awkward!
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• Philippines
9 Mar 10
thanks so much! I like what you said. you made it hard for me to pick the best response. if only i could choose more than one best response. Have a good day! :)
@Boyetski (989)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
Hi. If you really think that he deserves to be your boyfriend then don't think. If an opportunity reveals itself, GRAB it. You will have no other way to get to know him if you just look at him from a FAR. It's no wether your a girl, it depends on how much you want to know someone. If others talk about you negatively because you made the first move, think about this, you will not be the one suffering if you listen to sceptiscm. You wouldn't know for sure that you will be happy with him unless you try. And most of all, those people that will speak negatively of your actions are not the ones who will benefit from it. It's you.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 10
Wow, that inspired me. Thanks a lot. It's embarrassing but I'm going to do it. Thanks. :)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 10
Do you have any friends who know him? Maybe you could ask that friend to ask him out and you can join in the fun!
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• Philippines
9 Mar 10
sadly, we don't have common friends. that's why it's more difficult for me to get close to him. :(
• Bangladesh
9 Apr 10
Hey missy, You're in a very tender age to make unintentional slips. This isn't the perfect time for you to develop such relations. Wait for at least 10 years and you'll realize the mistakes of immature age.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
26 Mar 10
you better try to meet with him. do not show your liking to him. important you introduce yourself first. and let all go natural. if your soul mate will be with him. if not you do not have to push yourself. because love can not be forced.