Do you give others advice you yourself should be following?
@beutfulmama6701 (1718)
United States
March 12, 2010 6:30pm CST
I have heard people say in the past practice what you preach. And i have mentioned that to a few people myself. The thing is i often find myself giving people advice and when giving it to them i am only saying it because i believe 100% that it is the way to go. But when or if i find myself in a similar situation and they indeed return the advice i think that they are wrong. I dont feel that the advice they return to me to be the way i should go. Im not sure if this means at the time i am not sure of myself and the advice that i give others or if maybe in my particular situation it doesnt fit..
Because of this i made a vow to myself that i will no longer give advice to anyone on any situation unless i have been in that particular situation that way there i can give them the advice as to wether it worked for me or give them different advice if it did not..
Do you pratice what you preach?
15 responses
@beutfulmama6701 (1718)
• United States
14 Mar 10
that is my favorite motto to my 8 year old daughter, she is always saying well you did it or you said it. and shes always asking me questions about everything. and i say to her i will be 100% truthful and answer all these questions WHEN i think you are ready to mautrly handle the truth! LOL
@jagdeepmanchanda (156)
• India
13 Mar 10
Dear friend,beutfulmama,rare are the people like you who take astep forward,firstly affirming its practacility,otherwise there is a black hole in what we say and what we do!mostly everyone is a bravedo in giving advices!you are great if you practise what you preach!
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
I sometimes do not do what I share to others. But I have to admit I do it most of the time. I want to stick to what I believe in instead of just saying it to others and not exercising it myself. But for the most part, I usually do what I share to others because that is how I am.
@machivado (528)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 10
Not that I want to brag about it, but I do practice what I preach but not all the time of course...I don't really like to make statements as clear as black and white, I just watch and listen so my advice can be a bit vague, but I guess that's up to them how they interpret it.
@idlemind (13)
• Bahrain
13 Mar 10
I think it is not always possible to practice what we preach. When we dispense advise, we do it as an impartial observer but when it comes to self we have our own emotions clouding our rationality and we come up with justifications as to why our own advise for others is not suitable for our situation. What is important is to be honest, sincere in intent when dispensing advice and should be relevant under the circumstances even though we may not particularly follow them in our own life. Every situation is not the same and whether the person follows our advise or not is his/ her own choice.
@yuvirat (21)
• India
13 Mar 10
many a times in life we do realize ourselves when we look into someone as our own reflection so that is the time when we realize wats the right thing to do...
it had been a lot...
our soul is powerful enough for caring for others ..but is to weak to stand by itself..n this is the reason that why we sometimes advice others...n then realize that it was the same thing for ourselves to do..
@jugsjugs (12967)
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13 Mar 10
I think that if a friend wants advice then i would tell them what i think would be the better idea,but there are alot of people out there that you can try to help them yet they are not doing anything that helps trhem.I think there are people out there that give bad advice aswell.I would tell the petrson what i would do if i were in their situation,but i do also say that is what i would do but at the end of the day you can only advice trhe person.I do practice what i preach.
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
I have to admit that sometimes I don't practice what I preach. I guess we just cannot help it sometimes. Usually we always reason out that the circumstances are slightly different, etc. But let's face it, it does not make things more different. But I do try to always stick to my own advice when it comes to me.
@nancyk72 (20)
• Canada
13 Mar 10
I sometimes do practice what I preach. Sometimes I don't. But when I give the advice to a particular person when they ask me what I would do usually I give it knowing that it could be a solution to their problem because I know that it works if you apply the advice. But I have to say that some times I don't apply the same advice to my situation even if I know that it would be a good solution. Maybe because there are other options or just because I didn't think of it at the moment.
@melloncollie (661)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
That is a good question. It really is very hard to practice what we preach. The same way that it's not always easy to see where we've gone wrong... because most of the time we are in self-denial. But for other people, we can always easily notice what's wrong, hence the easier it is to make a presumption, judgment or an advice.
I have given numerous advice to friends and relatives already, but whenever I get to be the one who experience that same dilemma -- I get lost.
@frissph (130)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
it's really easy to give appropriate advice when you're outside of the whole experience. I mostly practice what I preach though sometimes i wish I were in there place so i could fix the problem for them. Though sometimes, I catch myself in the middle of giving advice then have a realization that it could also apply to me yet I'm not doing it so those times it gets harder but I manage to empathize with them more.
@AmberDinoFace (12)
• United States
13 Mar 10
I happen to not practice what I preach. Somethings, yes I do but when it comes to advice I give people, nope. Even if the advice I give to others works for them and they tell me to do it, I won't. I refuse. It's not that I don't want to listen to them or I don't think it will work, my mind just refuses to take it. Yeah, I know that doesn't really make sense but eh, oh wells. I tried, that's all that counts. :P
