have you EXAMINED yourself LATELY? what have you found?
March 12, 2010 10:45pm CST
an unexamined life is not worth living, Socrates once said. why do we behave this way? why do we act this way? why am i not like my father/mother? why am i different? have you ask yourselves these questions lately? what answers have you found? i am a hot tempered ever since i know myself. lately, i've been trying means to understand why i am like this. i struggled through this. the more i understand the cause of this, the more i discover that i am indeed an angry person just like my mother. you see, it has a cause because i want to help myself get out of this, i am joining this session that teaches me to make my anger work for me instead of against me. i am hoping though once this is finished that i may be able to manipulate my temper well. i hope that i can sustain what about?
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13 Mar 10
I hope that you learn how to control your temper. What triggers you to be angry? Are you having a lot of stress? Perhaps financial stress? Perhaps too much housework? Do you have help to accomplish your daily tasks? Can you have some kind of short holiday so that your mind relaxes and wonders off from daily stress? Can you tackle what is triggering you off?
17 Sep 10
hello ronald, learning to control without looking into the real cause of the problem is fruitless. i know, i am under stressful situations most of the time from work, home, demands from boss... all rolled into my life. holidays... are impossible here in our place. only when it is entirely needed. we take holidays with work :-) unlike in other countries that holiday in an essential part of their life. but to us, we don't pose for a holidays, we work even in special days. i know the triggers... just dont have enough force and courage to uproot it.. it take a while you know... :-) take care...
13 Mar 10
Hi, yes i examine myself now and then. As you said people around us like our parents has a lot to do with how we behave. Even though our behavior is influenced by so many external factors, the good news is we ourselves can influence and mold our own behavior in a positive way. This only takes knowing how our mind works and applying few principles to produce positive results. Our mind works in mental pictures and it has also verbal portion. So we can simply picture ourselves behaving in a certain way that we like in combination with positive affirmations and influence our own subconscious mind. If we are persistent enough in applying these principles, there is no a single behavior we can not change including temper. I hope the session you are taking will also help. Good luck.
17 Sep 10
hello, thanks for the response... acquiring something new is easy when we visualize it and that is even most effective in a learning situations. i agree with you. probably it takes time and effort and a lot of willingness :-). thanks for the tip. thanks for the response. God bless...
13 Mar 10
I am irritable and hot headed at home because I can feel the pressure all on me. At work I could be a very jolly person. I think the place that you go to gives you the mood and how people treat you. Just be patient and try to control it am so controlling myself. hekehk
17 Sep 10
hi... i can relate with you, i can be a different person when i am at work. really, home sometimes can put some pressure on your shoulders and causes some stress. i must admit, i play different role these days (a mother and a father, an employee, a business woman, a teacher/tutor, a finance/budget officer at home). the sense of balance i think is very important. whatever my life's situation right now, i am enthusiastic about it because it keeps me alive :-) God Bless..
14 Mar 10
Hello, it's a good thing that you actually take your time to cross examine everything in your life about yourself, I do the same a lot, and I can see that many people are not like that - some people just don't take time to realize and see what's wrong with them and do something about it. We're all human beings full of mistakes and short comings but the point is, when improvement is sought for, that's something to be appreciated and admired about a person. Anyway I used to be hot-headed myself. So I tried to pinpoint and figure out what's wrong with me and what causes it. I read a lot of books (I mean a host of it) and I don't really remember how the process went anymore, but slowly in time, things got changed for the better. I think I remember avoiding all the things that only make me angry. But now they don't affect me anymore. Of course I still get mad from time to time but the way I did as before.
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14 Mar 10
Hi, alexysabelle! I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum - self-critical and, therefore, easily hurt. I blame myself for others' misdeeds, rather than the doer. Self-examination is a constant thing, and I've come a long way in beating the depression and learning that it's not my fault that others are jerks. I've gone from chronically depressed to chronically happy! We can, indeed, control and change our attitudes if we are self-reflective and act upon what we discover about ourselves.