Do you always share your problems/pain???

March 13, 2010 7:07am CST
Hell0 my Mylot friends! I know we all have some tough moments in our life- quarrel with friends, broken relationship, problems with the family. But do you share all this things with some one close to you friend, family member, beloved one or you just keep it in you, and suffering in silence???
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
13 Mar 10
Sometimes i will share, but not always. It is my problems so most of them i just keep to myself. And try to figure it out myself. TATA.
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13 Mar 10
hi saphrina! yes, I also act as you the most of the time, because I am not that type of person who shares everything with the others, because I just think,they will not understand me. but sometimes, when I feel that i just can stand it anymore, I share it with my friends or with my family!
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
13 Mar 10
As we are so alike, next time i am sharing with you. TATA.
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13 Mar 10
Well, I would be happy if I could help you :) then I will wait for you to share something with me TATA
@hofferp (4739)
• United States
14 Mar 10
I share my problems/pain with friends and family. I don't generally suffer in silence.
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14 Mar 10
hell0! good for you, that you feel free to share with the family and friends, because the most of the time, i just keep it inside- i think that they will not understand me and will reject me, which will make me suffer more!
@hofferp (4739)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Try it some time with one of your best friends; you might be pleasantly surprised.
@primeaque86 (8112)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Don't cry out loud as the song says, perhaps there is a type of person who does not want to share his/her problem phoenix to anybody---family members or close friends. Specially if that type of pain may result to their suffering also. One of our friends here told me that the best person we can run and ask help in times of our seemingly unbearable problems and pains are our Mothers. Our Mothers have tender heart---compassionate. They would understand us and invite us on their arms and let us feel the heat and love on their hearts. Many times in my life I regretted for being hesitant to approach my mother! I would rather go always to my friends, but I didn't mean it's bad---but I must run to my Mom first! She has the right to know my sorrow because she love me unconditionally! But now I am away from my mother, so I think I would always run here. I don't want to suffer in silence, it could just made the pain prolong inside me and may even destroy me completely! I am a person who loves advice and helps....
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13 Mar 10
hi! well, i am exactly that type of person, who prefers to keep everything deep inside, because I really don't like to share this things. well, i don't know if the mothers are the best listeners, because I have never shared my problems/pain with her, maybe because I thought she can't help me or would not understand me. yes, sharing problems here is really a good decision and even I think that I could do that
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
That's what make us come here again and again....
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@mkmsam531 (269)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
No, not all the time. It depends on the kind of problem i have. I tend to keep tough problems inside especially if i don't have a solution at hand and it is so painful to talk about. If i share a problem, it usually is just a part of the problem not the detailed version.
16 Mar 10
hello! yep, to me it also depends on that how tough the problem is and what kind of problem it is exactly. I also prefer to keep it for me and I share my problems and pains only when I feel a big need to share it with someone!
• Germany
15 Mar 10
I share my problems,frustrations, anger(from outside environment) small or big with my husband. He listens and give me comfort and encouragement and i like that. But when i get into a problem which i know he will disapprove of, i keep it to myself and solve it alone. :-)
16 Mar 10
hell0! well, it is really nice that there is someone in your life who can always listen to you and your problems, unfortunately i don't have a partner and maybe that's why i feel shy to share my problems with someone else!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Mar 10
I come here. :-)
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15 Mar 10
hell0 dawnald! yep, the site is a wonderful place to share your problems and as I see there are many people who think just like you and me
@neildc (17252)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Mar 10
not everything can be shared to a friend. even in marriage life, not every thing can be shared to your spouse. there are certain things, secrets that it is better to keep in yourself and not tell her. but what i have now, that i can share most of my problems is, myLot. where i can talk about anything and i know there is at least one, that listens.
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15 Mar 10
hell0! yes, I agree with you- not everything can be shared with someone, even if this someone is your partner in life, because some things are either hard to share and to solve or they are just to personal and people feel ashamed to share them with someone, no matter how bad they suffer from it! yep, we can really share many of our problems here, and every time we get at least one good answer, one good resolve of our problem
@scja16 (323)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
I usually dont share problem with other people and my reason were, I am not sure whether I will get a respond that I am expecting from that person or maybe i am just ashamed to share it. I know sharing one's problem is a way of releasing the pain inside and lessen it if possible. But if by chance there will be an opportunity that I can share problem that will be my wife. Especially when if its about family and financial problem. Suggestion to other people,(just a suggestion and hope it may help you) Better share your problems but make sure that you are sharing it to the one you trust most.God bless
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15 Mar 10
Hi! yes, i also don't share my problems the most of the time, just because I feel the same way- i am scared that they will not understand me or maybe even will laugh to me, and that's why I prefer to keep it inside. I know that it may be wrong but I am just that kind of person, i think that I will never change. but sometimes as I've told to the others we must share the biggest problems and pains with someone, just to feel better, because we can really go insane :)
• China
14 Mar 10
it is hard to hind tough moments just in my mind.i must say it loudly.it can let me feel free.my feeling will be good.
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14 Mar 10
hell0 and welcome to mylot! yes, sometimes we must really feel free to share the problems/pain with somebody, but I am not that kind of person. I am too shy to say it that loudly so that all can hear me. i just keep it inside, and wait till i forget it completely!
• China
14 Mar 10
Well, i'm more like a suffer in silence type. When i'm happy with something, i can't wait to share it; but when it comes to pain, i prefer to have it to myself and don't want others to worry about me as gloom is said to be infectious. Sounds like i'm a selfless person, right? Haha~
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14 Mar 10
hell0! yes, me too! i also prefer to stay in silence and don't share it with anybody. well, the happiness is something different, something on the other side of the edge, and we all like to share it with the others. but the pain and the problems are something else- something that makes us feel bad and think that we are not that good as the others are. but sometimes we must just let it out to feel better!
@Hatley (164389)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Mar 10
hi phoenix I usually share my problems and my pains with my best friend Nelda and she does the same with me. we are both elderly and both diabetics and we even have birthdays in the same month. so no I do not suffer in silence, also Kathy my roommate is privy to my pain in my hip as sometimes I let out a few ouchies as I try to walk without really screaming that hurts.lol lol lol.
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14 Mar 10
hi hatley! well, you are lucky to have a friend who can listen to you all the time. well, i guess my best friends will also listen to me, but I am not sure they will understand me, that's why I am afraid to share my problems with them. but sometimes I do it, when the pain is too much! do you think that you are so close with Nelda, because you have so many common things between you?
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
Sometimes yes, sometimes no, it depends. Sometimes I do tell easily especially if the person I am telling my problems/pain, I do have my trusts already with her/him that he/she will keep whatever I have told him/her. Sometimes, there were things also that you just prefer it to keep it yourself. Sometimes, it's just also nice to tell it all to make the burden you have inside lighter.
14 Mar 10
hi! yes, sometimes I also share my problems with people I trust to, but the most of the time I just keep it inside! but sometimes it is really necessary to share the problems/pains with someone!
@bestylish (923)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
I usually keep it inside. Sometimes I share it to other people such as my closest friends.
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14 Mar 10
hell0! I also prefer to keep it inside and don't share it with anyone! but as you say, sometimes we must share this pain, because you know- if we keep it inside every time, then we will go insane!
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
Sometimes i share when i really need advices but most of the times i rather keep it to myself since sometimes telling makes it more more the situation worst when their are conflicting ideas. Most of the times I am better of being alone and resolve all those conflict by myself since i am a quiet problem solver, very silent, yet quick and determined.
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14 Mar 10
hell0! yes, I am in the same situation- i also share it when I feel it is really important or just too much to keep it just for me. but the most of the time I don't tell it to anybody. i rarely try to solve the problems that have hurt me, I just reject and forget them and never come back !
• India
14 Mar 10
Hii phoenix, I will share with my friends, sometimes they r the relief for my pain.. but sometimes they r the reason for that pain. mostly i ll try to hide, but they ll found by my face expression.. if i had a painful moment means i ll cry, this s better that sharing and maintaining silence.. Wat abt u.. u ll share or not ? ?
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14 Mar 10
hi there! yep, sometimes friends and family too are the reason for the pain in our hearts and when that happens we feel really bad and need to share with someone. well, i also don't like to share and keep it all just for me, but sometimes when the pain gets too much I just feel the need to share it with someone I trust to!
@Gany15k (1674)
• India
13 Mar 10
True to say..I just shared most both happy and sad moments to friends and family members(only to my age members).I enjoyed that a lot.Some will make fun , some share my thoughts , share my sorrows.All going well.My best friend will always keep telling to me that don't share everything please keep something personal.But I didn't listen to him...I told what wrong in sharing with friends.He told somethings can't explain and that what i can say,its your wish to tell or not.But I never minded that..After a certain incident everything changed.I can't explain that incident.And then I recognized what my friend said is right.You don't know how I got hurt because of my own mistake.I'm not blaming anyone.It is my own mistake that I shared everything.And then I stopped telling anything whether it is happy or sad.I stopped.I kept inside me.Many are there to share.But its hard to find the true ones.I said to my friend that I understand my mistake now.Its been a long time since I shared everything.Can I share to you, said to my friend.He told no need.Don't even tell to me.Wait and there will be a time coming for you.And that time I will ask everything.I really liked that.He cares me.Thanks to God for giving me as a good friend.There are lot of friends in my life who cares.If God gifted me then that would be my caring friends and my parents...All the pains are inside me...It is hurting a lot.I don't know when the day will come as my friend said for me to recover.Hope it comes soon...
14 Mar 10
hell0! well, it is really nice that you feel free to share all your problems and pains with the people you love and trust to, and there is really nothing wrong. maybe your friend just thinks like me, that sometimes people can't help us. but I am really glad to know that you have your own opinion about that and don't keep anything sad in you, and let it all go out
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
13 Mar 10
Not usually i not like cry and share my problems, only if I need some explaining, but i try as I can pass on the burden that a port of others, which certainly have their problems , and most know something, people can get listen, but they like judge people ,like gossip, and comment on your situation, usually behind you,i do not trust people, maybe in a few, but i never say everything.I usually suffer in silence .
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14 Mar 10
hell0 icesmile! yep, i also don't like to share it, but not because I try to solve them by my self, i just don't think that someone can help me. and you are also right about that, that people can laugh on you or try to judge you, like they are something more, something better than you and always try to hurt you more than you are!
• China
13 Mar 10
Usually i don't like to share my pain with some one else. But sometime i do. But not with all the friend. Only with my best friend. Sometime i really want to share as after share my problem i feel batter. So it's totally depend on the situation.
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14 Mar 10
hell0! yes, I also don't like to share it with the others because I am scared that they will not understand me, and will laugh to me or just will reject me. that's why i prefer to keep it all just for me. yep, when it gets too much, i also share it with my family or best friends, because sometimes we just have to do it or we go crazy!
@coffeegurl (1470)
• United States
13 Mar 10
I usually do talk about my problems..sometimes I can get people on the phone, othertimes, they don't answer. I feel pretty isolated, as I have a very small family. I also have no shildren and have never been married. So, I worry about when I get older what will happen to me. will i be all alone?
14 Mar 10
Hi! well, i have never tried to talk about my problems through the phone, maybe because I thought it is not for the phone, but I also don't like to talk a lot about that, just because I prefer to keep it for myself and don't share it it with anybody! don't worry! I am sure that you will meet the right person soon and you will have someone to share with!
• Singapore
13 Mar 10
I always choose between things i should share and things that i shouldn't share before i say anything!Because i think there are some problems,secrets that better keep in silence than tell anyone!So I do share some secrets to people who i trust but keep for mysefl some of those secrets that i don't tell anyone!
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13 Mar 10
Hi! yes, but for me the most of the problems are secrets that I prefer not to say, just because I am scared that no one will understand me and they will laugh me! that's why i share them only when it is already too much and I can't stand on it!