Online friends, how do they fare?
By bystander
@bystander (2292)
Philippines
March 18, 2010 1:17am CST
There are online friends and real, warm friends -- the ones you actually interact with, face to face. And there are also online friends, where you also share a lot of things without inhibitions. Which of these two types of friends you value more? Why?
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7 responses
@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
well nothing compares the real friends! my experience with online friends - they are just seasonal. today they are here and two weekd from now they're gone.. the friendship do not last at all. its like, if you are there, then okay we are friends, if you are not there, then who cares. i think its just that.
real friends are readily can be relied upon, they are true, you see them, you know they're background. and the safety cannot be compromised.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
well, that's true. sometimes, we prefer the real, the ones we can touch, talk to, even borrow load from... thanks for the response, ysabel.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Mar 10
of course, it's the real offline friends. we can see them face to face and we can feel the real excitement in life. with online friends, i can still feel the excitement when we chat, or discuss some quality topics on boards.
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@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
yes, neildc. proper attitude of distance -- nearness or being on hand when needed -- provides what we call the real essence of friendship. thanks for the response.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
ha... ha... ha... that one good way of really putting across your message and making a choice. thanks for the response, ambiepan...
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
of course i would value the real warm friends more cuz i know for sure that they re not lying to me where online friends still appears anonymous to me regardless of what they say about themselves.
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@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
thanks for the response, frontvisions. your observations is quite correct. online friends can manipulate their images, even the things they say to you. besides, at the rate scammers are populating the internet, there's no knowing if an online friend is sincere or plainly playing up.
@cloud31 (5809)
•
18 Mar 10
Well I prefer warm friends-- there are lots of different people online we don't know who are real and not,for me a friend who could just warm and easy to go with is just fine..There's nothing to worry about anything,nothing to reveal but having them as friends once online.If gets more valuable then that would be another consideration.
Happy myLotting!
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
that's correct, cloud. unless of course you have already established personal contact before and just using the internet as a platform to continue the friendship, which had probably been affected by continental or any other form of distance. thanks for the response, my friend.
• United States
18 Mar 10
I value my online friends more for one thing I don't have to see them or hear about them making a stupid decision. You can usually get down to a deeper level conversations because they don't have some one to impress or something they think is funny to say to you to make everyone else laugh, or just an inside joke. I guess it might be different for me when everyone at my high school grows up.
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@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
thank you for your response, idylanfromkansas. those are certainly some of the good things about an online friend. you can open up without inhibitions and raise the level of discussion without apprehensions, which you normally get as a side comment from a friend you are facing eyeball-to-eyeball.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Mar 10
I don't have friends nearby that I see often. Actually most of my real life friends have turned into online friends too. But anyway some of my online friends have been very supportive at a hard time in my life. I value them equally. Just because I haven't met some of them in person doesn't mean they haven't been there for me. They're just as real as the ones I've actually met in person.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
indeed, some online friends can be real friends too -- honest, sincere, even helping their online friends, even if only by giving good advise... thanks for the response, dawnald.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
you are absolutely correct, my dear friend. i am sorry, i just saw this comment now... and it was posted more than four weeks ago... so sorry...
