Is it right or is it wrong?

Philippines
March 18, 2010 9:52pm CST
I was once in a relationship that ended badly. At first i was in love (i thought so) but as the relationship goes, I believe that it isn't love that I felt but rather infatuation. Since I don't want to make it worse by giving her more moments which will cause greater pain in the end, I decided to end the relationship. I have 2 options at that time. 1.) continue the relationship (it may work for us but if it didn't, it will hurt her more). 2.) End the relationship (but what if we could work it out?). I chose option number 2. So, it right or wrong to chose that option?
10 responses
@Rhazelle (356)
• Canada
21 Mar 10
That was the right decision. If you don't think you love her, end the relationship. If you get to know her more afterwards and find out that you do love her, you can always get back with her in the end. But if you kept going with it, then yes, it might've worked out, but if it didn't it would cause you both greater pain in the end. Not worth it.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
there is nothing wrong with what you did. if you realized that you dont love him thats the right thing to do instead of sticking on that relationship without a feelings for her. it would be more painful to her if you choose option number one. what if, if you found the real one that makes your heart beat faster.
@jugsjugs (12967)
19 Mar 10
If you wanted to end the relationship and then thought about it and wished you had not ended it then i think there would be no turning the clock back,so i think that you have done the right thing as this way at least it has a chance to work.All i can say is not to rush into anything unless you are totally sure of what you want.
@LadyBoss (253)
• United States
20 Mar 10
I think you could still continue to be in a realtionship. Does she love you ? Maybe you guys have some talking to do.
@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
I guess so,to be honest it is too early to decide for the relationship. because I know you are the one who court the girl but now you are the one who will give up. It may be good for the future but how about her feelings. (Sorry for be so honest) But if you are just doing this for her own good then that is good. I hope that she is okay with it and hope that you both talk it over personally so that she will understand everything and the reason why. Do not worry God knows what is best for you. You can never tell, who knows the next coming year... You both will meet again and will fall in love in the second time around like what happen to me in real life. Good luck to your relationship and God bless.
@bdn317 (25)
• India
19 Mar 10
dear friend, i still think you should have given some more time, discussed about it with your partner and also try to know and let know what actually is the problem that was leading to the breakup. your decision may be right or may be wrong. only time will tell. If i had to comment on it, i would say, it was wrong on your part to take a decision all by yourself. You should have given some time and try to see if things could have been worked out. Am not telling you that your decision is wrong. But what am trying to say is, you should not take any decisions in haste. -BDN
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
it seems that you are not sure of your feelings. but since you have decided to pick that choice, you must stand with it. it will be unfair on her part if you will still continue with the relationship, when at the back of your mind, there are already doubts and you're not too sure with the feelings.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
I think you made the right decision. You did the right thing by breaking up with your partner, though I think she'll have a hard time understand things. Just give her the time she needs to sort things out. It would be normal if she'd hate you after the break up, that's expected. Or if she wasn't hurt at all by your decision, she might just take it lightly and move on. I just hope you won't be regretting this later on. You got to have made up your mind.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
19 Mar 10
Isn't it true love what we are all after??? If it isn't true love, it should end and as soon as possible.If it is true love, you might think you are leaving but you won't go far.Time will tell.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
I think being in a relationship, it is taking risks. You don't know if it will work or not. Maybe you did not even give a chance for the relationship to work that's why it ended. I'm not sure though.