Love Hurts...But why we are always coming back for Love?

Philippines
March 21, 2010 7:41am CST
Love always hurts, isn't it? You may think it's the happiest chapter of your life---but there is no such a seemingly fairy tale ending? Here, I am alone again. Missing someone... Thinking the consequences with the distance now... And with the emerging new love... Like suckers... [b]And with the present love... [/b] Trying to weigh things. Which is more practical, and which is not! Which of the two would end like a fairy tale... Everybody wish for it I guess... Love hurts, Love confuses, But why we are coming back for it? Prime
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31 responses
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
love can always heal and hurt,and so my friends say that loving without being hurt is not loving at all,they say that being hurt is part of loving someone,the most common pain is in being jealous right?i mean you love that person so much that you hate it seeing them with someone even though you know that you're the one they love,maybe they say that loving without being hurt is not loving at all is because if it's just good things that happen to your relationships then what lesson will you learn?how can you get stronger if it's always happiness?you have to feel some pain too,i think it's to gain trust,it can make you love that person more,to grasp to him/her,i think we search for love because it is a part of happiness i mean you can't say that you're happy in doing some things if you don't love it right?loving can be painful and depressing but if you look on the brighter part there was happiness you were happy even if it was just a while,consider yourself to be lucky to be with the ones you truly love don't be pessimistic if you two ever have to be apart think about those happy times you shared together,open your heart and mind to understand fully the things that happened in your experience with love..somehow even if it's just a little it still made you happy :)
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• Philippines
21 Mar 10
You are right my friend... Oh thank you very much for the nice sharing... in love there is always happiness and trials... that's what makes us strong... I guess all this things happened to me is a sort of test... And I would not surrender then... God bless my friend... I would always remember your words...
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
thanks ^^ God bless you too
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Love Hurts...But why we are always coming back for Love? Simply..becoz. our hearts can still feel LOVE... NOT UNLESS.... HEART GET TIRED OF LOVING.... which i think is impossible!!! love and be loved is one of the sweetest thing...
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Hello jaiho, I love it... so as long as we breath and our hearts beat... then we never get tire of loving...
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
oh yes dear...i hate the feeling when i am hurtin' But still,i keep loving and loving again..hahaha
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
hahaha, life is unfair isn't it???? At least our heart was still kicking, I hope the scars would vanish or it would be looking so ugly!!!!
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Despite of having a lot of break up and heart aches. No matter how many times we have been deceived or put down, there is a place in our hearts that knows "We are destined to be someone special" Love takes risks... It takes a lot of patience and understanding.... That is why no matter how hurtful we had encountered we always see love as something,really special.
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
That is what I am thinking for now yresh, that we are destine for someone special... no matter what are the circumstances, we have to seek for that... no matter how hard...
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Yep2x.. Am a hopeless romantic. You won't find it, it finds you!
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Saphrina is right, it would knock at your door, do you believe it too, aren't you?
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
It is never easy to make such a decision. To stay with a current love or to leave for another. That is part of life. Testing everyone and those who make it have the pleasure of the fairytale. But hurting others in the process, is very painfull. All things considered, you have to be sure before givng up, that what you already have. TATA.
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Hi, there you are again... so the sugar was gone already??? I got you dear... this is a part of our life, nothing is constant, and the only constant is change... And in the process it is so painful... but the pain worth it for the real love, isn't it???
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
That is something only time will tell. Unfortunately BB broke my crystal ball. So on this one i need to consider my answer very carefully. But one thing i can tell you, someone will get hurt in the prosess. Give it time, be patient and destiny will eventually knock on your door. TATA.
• India
21 Mar 10
Love is like oxygen You get too much you get too high, Not enough and you will sure die.
@Ramsesxlll (1436)
• Finland
21 Mar 10
We all need love, that's just how we are made. I haven't got any experience on this yet, because I have just got some minor crushes, but nothing more serious... For women the thing called "love" is more important than for most men. Some men care just about the physical side (I am not like this, for my defense).
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
And I am not like that for my defense too. I am really serious in terms of relationship that's why I am so much affected. My partner had just gone for work... I just miss her so much... plus I feel something again with another one... very hard to think about...
• Finland
21 Mar 10
For some "love" is just someone from who to get comfort and a safety. This is mostly only needed by women who are uncertain about themselves... I wish I would have a partner too... But I'll see what's gonna happen in the next few months :D
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
I wish for your happiness Ram... find the right one...
@yugasini (12816)
• Anantapur, India
21 Mar 10
hi primeaque, love and career is the main things in the life,without love and without career,you may not fulfill your wishes,every body must have a love and must have a career,if fail in career and love,do not frightened it is written in the fate,you have bare your fate,so do not worry,have a nice day
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Your idea is great yuga...
@yugasini (12816)
• Anantapur, India
22 Mar 10
hi primeaque, thanks for the comment,have a nice day
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
• United States
21 Mar 10
Many don't come back for more. I have my first true love . he is E everything I ever wanted . If he leaves , I wont look for another. I will done with love. But at least I had it once.If you are strong enough to try again , I think that is great. You still feel that your perfect love , I mean there is a person who is you perfect match , is still out there!
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Thank you sarah, of course, I won't lose hope... the chance is there... I will try to be strong enough now...
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• United States
21 Mar 10
I didn't go looking for my Love. But I my heart was open. he came and we fell for each other. Keep your heart open and go out and do what you like to do and she will be there. In other words if you like reading , go to the bookstore and look around , these women are already into what you like so you already have something in common. Good Luck. She is out there. I Know it.
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
that's great sarah, but how if she is miles away now? How if the one for me is really hard to find?
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
22 Mar 10
Hi prime..good topic you have here. Love does hurt, but we are always coming back for love, yes.. that's because I think love is a natural feeling to have. Even the heaviest rock of hearts must have love some people in their lifetime. Love is a natural feeling to have and to feel and it's also to be shared. To get hurt in love, well.. it's perhaps part and parcel of life. And some people even say that to be hurt in love is better than not experiencing it at all.
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Hiya Zed, Good zed... to be hurt in love is better not than to experience it all... just like saying it's better late than never... I could not term this brake up, because this is not---but I can say this is our parting time. It's really very hard to miss someone... that who used to be beside you all the time! Attachment hurts, yes it is. I was so attached, now it hurts me so much... and being confused too for some emerging feeling I don't know if real or what... Thank you zed.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
23 Mar 10
I feel like you too, before. I would be delusional and all that..but one fine day, I think to myself..why am I thinking about someone whom doesn't appreciate me at all, so there and then, I decide to make myself happy and not care about all these negativity. As long as I have myself, my close ones surrounding me, I'll be fine. Even if one day I will to be alone, I'd spend time traveling, I think... that will be better than anything.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
23 Mar 10
Sorry, were* to be alone..
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Well, I always come back for love because it's so happy to be in love! No matter what the ending might be, it is so happy to be in love. I just love the feeling. I've read somewhere in a book, "Love like you've never been hurt before." And I think that's right. No matter how many breakups in the past, it's still good to love.
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
it's better to be hurt than loose that chance to love and beloved... great autumn...
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
Exactly! That's my point! :)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Thanks again and God bless you autumn...
• Brazil
21 Mar 10
Because love is like a roller coaster... Have the high point and the low point. Sometimes it's in the top of our feelings and when we are in top, we're happy and calm. When we left that top and fall to the bottom, we have that impact that make us bad and feeling down. So I think that love hurts, but in same time love is incredible and make us happy and stronger.
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
So Love is like roller coaster, that's wonderful pin... so when we are down, we wish to reach the top again... that is why even we are hurt, we are still coming back for love...
• Brazil
22 Mar 10
Yeahh! You got it! :D
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Hi Prime, Good day! I've been in this situation before. We were separated by someone I love by distance. Along the way someone else near came. He was so sweet, caring and charming. He seemed to fill the emptiness I feel. I got so confused so I decided to stay away from that someone. My boyfriend and I were no longer in good terms during that time. We always end up fighting over small things and I always end up frustrated after each phone call. I lost both of them. However, I found a new love along the way of moving on and forgetting that sad story of my life. My new love is now my husband and we already have a 5 month old son. Whenever, I go back to that part of my life it no longer brings pain but it makes me think of the what ifs. But everything ends there. Hope you can sort out what's best for all of you. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Hi ladyslipper, wonderful day too... Wow, that is a fairy tale my friend... you light up my day today... thank you for the sharing... I love her I know, I do not want to loose her... but I am confused now... but I should take a long time to think of this...
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Yes. You really need a lot of time to think about it. However, sometimes thinking about it does not help and even makes the situation worse. That was based from my experience. Sometimes we already knew the answer and what is the best thing to do. However, most of the time we choose to ignore it because we want something else or we keep our self busy thinking a lot that we fail to see that the answer is just right in front of us and all we need to do is to act or do it. Take care! :) I'm glad I was able to ligh up your day.
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Oh, thank you again ladyslipper... you really light up my day... perhaps you are right... maybe the answer is already knocking at my door... but I juts overlooked at it... now I will always consider that my friend... have a nice day...
@umit_umit (1986)
• India
21 Mar 10
well its true,sometimes there is adjustment and the other live with you as adjustment may the other deeply loves you!then it hurts as in the future the adjustment part comes on the surface and the heart is broken!then love dosent comes back but when there is equal from both then it comes back!
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Well said umit... yes, and it is hard during the adjustment period... I am missing to person now...
@yugasini (12816)
• Anantapur, India
22 Mar 10
hi umit_umit and primeaque, if there is no adjustment in love,it is not at all true love,you can explain the thing to the other person,braking heart i will not agree for this,if you have true love,you have understand the situation and conditions of that person,why she/he done like that,think your self and dicide,have a nice day both of you
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Thank you again yuga... True love always understand... if we love a person we are ready to sacrifice... and that's what I am doing right now...
@phoenix8606 (4978)
21 Mar 10
hell0! well, i guess we always come back for it, no matter how hurt we were, because it is something greater than the hurt it causes, or maybe it isn't, but it definitely makes us feel better and it is the power that makes us feel alive, that thing which shows us that we are human beings and that there is a heart inside us, which beats every second, and it is thirsty for some love, for some caresses and it wants more and more. There are also some people, who never come back for it after they got hurt, because they feel too insulted, feel too much pain in their hearts and are afraid that it could happens again, and they think that they won't go through it once again!
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Hi phoenix... than you my friend... as long as our heart beats, we would never stop wanting for more... there is still one out there, right????
21 Mar 10
yep, we never stop waiting, well maybe when we find the right person, then we jsut stop searching for another, knowing that she/he is the right one and our heart tells it to us too!
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
You are right phoenix... no one should give up...
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Hi there Prime! Love is love is everything we need. Without love our life would be worthless. When one is in love, he feels it is the happiest time in his life. But somewhere along the way, there will be trials and pains. Did you missed someone but felt confused at the same time because a new love emerged? That will be a very hard thing to decide. I can say it's really important to weigh things carefully. Who do you think is the person you can't live without. Distance, time difference, and circumstances may hinder a love so sweet but if you really love that person you would do everything to surpass the situation. I don't think you would give up on someone if you really love her. It takes two to tango. So you need to meet halfway if you want your relationship to work out right. I still believe in happy endings. I wish yours will be like a fairy tale with happy ending too. Happy mylotting!
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Thank you my friend... Yes, I am afraid that I am loving again... like a corm... a fresh sucker grows again... it emerge unexpectedly... oh thank so much for the advice my friend... I would remember them always along the process... with the distance now, I am afraid that the bond would break and time would come there is nothing to hold...
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Sometimes we think that when someone comes along, she will fill the emptiness of the other but it doesn't always appear that way. Sometimes, you just feel her presence because of the absence of the other. So I guess you should really think about it a million times so as not to hurt them both. Whoever you choose between the two of them, it's important that you will not regret it and you will be happy with your decision. Good luck prime! If you wish to ask for more advices, don't hesitate to message me. Thanks!
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Oh, you are so kind meticulo... I am confuse now. And thank you for helping me sort out his thing... yes, I have to think about this over and over again... I do not want to hurt the two of them too... it's better that I am hurt, not them...
@nehmer (609)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
primeaque86 I feel the same way like you. I have also lost the one i love. i thought God has given me another chance to love someone. I tried to courted her letting her feel the atmosphere of love. I want to tell her that i love her but i was afraid of rejection. i was afraid that she would deny me. everything was a test... I dont know how to tell her until such time that she gone to a far away place not even telling me she only informed me when she was there and that she failed a subject. i dont know what to say. time passed by. and im starting to feel that i miss her. i want to love her more.. i cant deny it. so i told her that i love her in the phone.. i was so stupid. she did not answer my question. she told me that she could only give me her friendship. and that the end for me. but she keeps comming back to my mind i don't know why. hehe i hope u understand my story.
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
I understand your story bro... I got it... it also happened to me before, but that is allright... if you really love her , do not surrender, keep telling her that you love her... be always positive...
@hexeduser22 (5854)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Love hurts yes but love can also make you head over heels. From time to time it's natural that we miss the people that we have shared love with. Whenever I feel so alone I pray and thank God that he gave me a chance to experience the beauty of that past love. We are humans and we are all destined to feel hurt from time to time and no matter how much we hurt we cannot deny the fact that loving or feeling loved is so wonderful a feeling
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Oh, that's great hex... thank you so much...
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
hi prime! if you don't hurt, it means you don't have love! love and hurts is partner. they are connected to each other. if you love, then you are ready to be hurt.. it's just like a spicy foods, the more its hot, the more delicious you taste. as their was a saying that "it's better to have love and to be hurt than nothing at all! if you hurt it means your are human being, your are normal my friend..ha..ha.. Good luck for your next steep of Love!
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
Balls eye cherwin... yes you are right... to be hurt is part of our being human... yes, if we love then we are ready to be hurt anytime... and all people need love... we are created by the power of love then our mission here is to find for it... it's better to loved and beloved and hurt than never love at all... no man is in island... from that means that all people needs someone to be with, to love with... not only those people we long to be our husband and wife---but all people around us... our family, our relatives, our friends... have a nice day ahead cherwin...
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Because it makes us happy. I think no matter how hurtful the last relationship is, you would still try again and again because the feeling of happiness and the feeling of being loved is really more weight than being hurt and crushed and all those sad stuffs. And I think that we all believe that one of these days, we will eventually find that perfect person for us that won't hurt us. So try and try, and get hurt while trying, but in the end you'll be happy.
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Great my friend... so I got from you---love hurts but why we are still coming back fro love because it makes us happy!!!! No matter how hurtful we have felt right now, but the reward of loving and to beloved with the right the right one worth all the pain...
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Yes!! Love truly HURTS.... it really sucks if when we feel the pain of a broken heart.. Maybe we are always coming back for love because maybe deep inside we are still searching true love that could give us true happiness... :P
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
That's right al, even we are hurt but we are still searching back for love because no matter how hard it is we could not live happy without having the true love... it's our mission though...
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
22 Mar 10
Love is great. What makes it hurt is when people have high expectations of it lasting forever. It doesn't usually last that long. You have to enjoy it while it lasts and know when to call it quits. When one love ends then don't be so fearful and bitter that you stop looking all together because then you will never have love in your life. It is best to go into it with the hopes that it will last forever and yet knowing that it may not and just enjoy it while you can. Every once in a while someone gets lucky and it does last. If you give up just because you get hurt then you'll just never know. it's kind of like the lottery.
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
It's like playing in the lottery, perhaps love is like that my friend... like winning and losing it... so we have to enjoy it while the fate favors us... yes, I agree, we are hurts so badly sometimes when we expect to much to it---when we expect it would last forever... so it's not the true love... but we have to enjoy it too as long as it is there... and finally we are seeking the true love... maybe it has so trials to face but the said love will last long...so its worth it... its worth our sacrifice...