Being liked by someone you don't like...

There was a time that a girl liked me but i didnt. But instead of rejecting her i just give it a try. I hang out with her for a few days then turned into weeks, suddenly I started to like her and eventually love her. We are still together and it happened like 5 years ago, you know what..? Almost everyone out there is searching for the one they like thats why we get hurt at times because most of the time they don't like you back. If someone likes you dont reject them right away.. give them a chance to express there feelings for you.. Who knows may be he or she is the one for you :)

It has happened to me many times to be liked by someone I didn't like. It's hard when you have to reject someone, as you know you're hurting that person's feelings, but it often happens that love is only one sided. It has happened to me the opposite too, but fortunately it was less times.

There's worse - being liked by someone you DESPISE! In my case, there were guys that I just wouldn't imagine in a million years to develop feelings for me, or me to them. Another is when I only consider him as a very close buddy or brother. I've had this kind of experience when a very close neighbor of mine was already spreading the news that he was going to court me like he was very certain I'd go screaming my "YES, OH YES!" in an instant. That time, I was already setting my eyes on another guy (who loved me fortunately) to whom I was mutually madly in love with. It hurts having to hurt that person because I did have a sisterly love for him. And sad to say, we haven't spoken for some time because I just feel awkward when he's around so I kind of avoided him before.

Well, I think that has happened to me a lot of times before. There are some guys that would tell me they like me, but I don't really like them, and there are some whom I really like but unfortunately they like other people. It's a crazy world, and it's just really the way it is. I guess the idea is, never give up, cause there would be a time when the one you really like would like you back.

for me, its difficult to be liked by someone that i don't like rather than liking someone who doesn't like me. sometimes it hurts that no matter how hard you try to be polite in saying "no" to someone you are still causing pain.

This always happen to my sister. There's always somebody she doesnt like who likes her. She doesnt handle it well. It always end up that the guy is really gonna be hurt. She's really not so into guys. She tells the guy directly that she's not interested of him. I dont know how she do it but its kinda funny sometimes if she acts like that.

I often experience that especially on school, that's disappointing because friends are just meant to be friends and some boys couldn't understand that. Whenever I turn down a boy telling me that he likes me and he wants more than friendship, everything changes afterwards and we couldn't be friends anymore. That's hurting me because I loved them as friends and I could see them as just brothers. I also experienced liking someone, that's disappointing too when he wants just friendship. And then after that, it's awkward to me since he already know I like him, everything's different now.

I think everyone goes through that situation. I could remember when I was younger, then this guy was supposedly my friend. We talked if he wanted to talk, but it was always him that initiated the conversation, I was just there as a friend hearing him out, until one day he asked me if we could go out - as partners and not friends anymore. I told him I didn't see him as someone I would be romantically inclined to be with, but he insisted that I was just being shy. After I told him bluntly that I don't want him to be something to me other than a friend he said that I was just in denial because it's obvious that I liked him too! What a jerk! I didn't want to lose a friend, but someone who is thinking absurdly as that needed to be brushed off - so I told him that the main reason why I didn't want him to be my boyfriend was because I don't find him attractive at all, and I thought that he was someone who needed better hygiene. Whew, I know that was pretty harsh, but there are just guys who can't seem to get it. I had to resort to something a bit rude but at least he would no longer waste his time thinking that I'm going to be 'the one' for him. As for the other way round, I did fall into that several times. But I never insisted on the guy to go out with me or liked me. It was simply a secret. My friends knew about my fancy for the guy(s) but they never really knew that I liked them so much. I just waited for the infatuation to wear off, and it's good that after a while it does wear off.

It has happened to me as well both times around. I am currently in the same situation for both. I currently like someone that only thinks of me as a "friend" even though it seems like it is deeper than that. Also, I have someone I barely hung out with like obsessed with me. He begs me all the time to be with him and it just gets annoying. I am not the type who can just someone for their own need but every other day I get bothered by him..

Hi wigima5, i think i like your post, like your questions, which are very close to my life. I have also ever been liked by someone that i really didn't like, because she was not beautiful, not pretty, not cute, i don't had any feelings to her. however, i have also ever rejected by several girls that i really liked, maybe they thought i was not a handsome man. Anyway, i don't think this is an unfortunate thing, at least i have experienced loving and being loved, right?

I once tried being liked by my bestfriend. He was like a brother to me. After 3 years of being bestfriends, he told me he loved me and he wants me to be his girlfriend.He even said that he loved me since we met. After he popped the question, our friendship was ruined and we never saw each other ever again.

It happened to me so many times already it breaks my heart whenever someone i like dont feel the way i do. But for some reason i dont feel any at all when i know that someone like me but in return i dont like that person. What i mean is im not flattered at all its just that i dont want to waste my time thinking about someone that i really dont like. Im not being rude at anybody i just want to be honest with what i feel ;)

Oh yes! I have been in this situation more than once in the past. There have been guys who've asked me out, and i'll go with them on a date, but that doesn't mean i would like the relationship to go any further. Often times, they would get the wrong idea. I'd think of them as a friend, and they were looking for something more. After a few of these experiences I realized that if a guy likes me in that way, but i don't have the same feelings it is best to stop most contact with them. It will just lead them on and they'll assume you're still interested. I've had guys who wouldn't give up! They would keep calling, and i found it rude to just come out and say "i don't like you". So it is a hard situation to be in, especially if you really like hanging out with the person as a frienss, but don't want nothing more than that.