Who are your regular hang-out buddies right now?

@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
March 24, 2010 11:12pm CST
It's pretty amazing how lately my hang-out buddies are not the guys I knew from college, or people that I work with, or cousins, or close relatives but my batchmates from elementary. Except for my 3 bestfriends, the others were never really close to me when we were kids, 12 years ago. In fact one of them was such a bully that my fist landed on his chin in retaliation. Well, I know it may sound ordinary to you, but to me it's special in a kind of way because I have found friendship in the people I least expected. How about you? When you have time to just chill and unwind, or party with friends, who are the ones you usually hang out with?
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
27 Mar 10
Hi Theresaaiza! How are you? Buddies? My only buddy right now is my boyfriend. I have acquaintances. Some see me as there friend. But they only see me that way when they need something. I have one so called friend, that only comes to me to complain about her life. When I want to say something she either does not listen or judges me! I can't call that a real friend. Maybe I am my own best friend. I love to be alone and do things I like to do. Play my guitar, write songs, be in My Lot, read, work on the computer, learn my German, do my sports (Training, Exercises, Yoga, Pilatus, Swimming.) I always have something to do. I don't even have time to watch a movie. I love watching movies. Then with the little time I have left, I don't want to spend it with people that are so negative. She is 15 years older than me and only complaining. Oh I forgot, my best buddy is my BF. I need time for him too. hahaha! Well have a great weekend!
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
30 Mar 10
Sounds like your Mother was a great person. Isn't it normal, that when people can use you, you automatically have lots of friends. When I had good money, good job, I had lots of friends too. Where are they today??? Gone of course,
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
19 Apr 10
Yes they may be real. But, even then you have to be careful. Some of them need you to clean there house or walk the dog. hahaha! Thanks for BR! Have a great day!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
5 Apr 10
They are there when the weather is up! Somehow it's a great thing that I don't have lots of money. In that sense I'm assured that these people who are around me are real.
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@ghurl5384 (121)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Hahaha... Isn't it amazing? Me either Sang, I never thought we would be hanging out with Ken, Michael and Arnold. We know them since elementary years but they were like strangers to us back then, we were classmates but we never hang out with them. Ken was such a bully and no one could really get near him except for the other bullies in school. And now, here we are, you and them are the very first ones I call when I needed to get out of the house. It turned out, they're the coolest and funniest friends aside from our original "barkada". I'm glad I have you guys in my life, and I just know our friendship will last long even when our hair will turn to gray (or white). :D
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
15 Apr 10
Talk about brushing aside now the phrase "Birds of the same feather...." because if I were to look at our crowd, we are definitely not of the same feathers at all. In fact, not all of us are even birds. Well, Ken is the crocodile, for sure! And Arnold is the Polar Bear. Michael is the....ummm....he could be What is he anyway? (wag ka na, ger, alam ka na nakin!) Hahaha
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
26 Mar 10
I still know 1, yes, 1 person that I EVER see from elementary school. I know another one from high school, besides the friend from elementary. That friend is now living with the ONLY friend I have left from college - they are roommates. I met my roommate when she called into a PBS "beg-a-thon" for a Doctor Who pledge drive. I met Maggiepie at a science fiction convention. I met most of my friends via science fiction. I hang with people who have similar interests, in this case, the only interest that matters. I'm guessing that your and these friends have the most in common now with you.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Mar 10
Mind if I ask what PBS is? Sorry. Maggiepie? As in the mylotter, Maggiepie? So you were friends before myLot? Or after? Yeah, I do remember you being fond of science fiction. Some of them have similar interests as I have, but some just don't. At a glance, we're a very odd-looking group but we get along really well.
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
The only person I usually hang out with when I want to chill and unwind would be my hubby. He's the best person to be with. We sit and watch people and just relax whenever we can. I've married the every-guy! :D
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Mar 10
Hmmmm...."every-guy". Seems more like "perfect" guy!
@zashimi (148)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
I have several groups that I hang out with. Those from elementary/high school, those from college, those from my past work, those from my current ones and those whom I met throughout the years. But my best friends are the girls I went to elementary and high school with. Knowing each other for over 20 years has made us in tune with one another. Most are married and have families but nothing much has changed between us. That is as it should be with sisters, right?
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
29 Mar 10
Friends can even be better than sisters. Most of the time, siblings argue and fight over very petty things although they usually kiss and make up later. OTher become lifelong conflicts. That is sad. I'm glad you have longtime friends. You should treasure them!
26 Mar 10
Exactly right! It's funny how our lifestyle affects who we hangout with. But it is funnier when you become friends with someone who you never even liked in your elementary days. It just goes to show how "small this world " is and how future can be so vague. :)
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Mar 10
We really find it easier to hang out with people who have a lot in common with us. What surprises me is that way back, that was never the case. You are right about the future being truly vague.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
25 Mar 10
I don't hang out with a lot of people. It's sad, but I don't have many actual visitors. I think part of this is because I live in a very remote area far from the bus system. If you want to take a bus to my house, it normally involves at least an hour out of your life. When I move to a more central area (which I'm working on), I'm sure I'll have more visitors and do more things in real life. I regularly go to certain meetings such as the Florence Poets Society. I see the same people there and consider them my friends. I hang out with my best friend a lot but that's mostly online because we don't live conveniently close to each other and neither of us has a car. This post actually made me think that my life really needs a change. Thanks for that.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Mar 10
There was a point in my life too where I felt that I lost all my close friends, especially my college buddies. After college, we all just went separate ways. Some flew to other countries, some got married and got busy, others pursued some long-distance careers. But my elementary batchmates are quite a blessing. They popped out when I best needed them. As for you, it must be really sad to feel like there's not much people around to hang out with, but I'm sure you'll find a remedy for that. I really hope that for you.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
25 Mar 10
Hi Theresaaiza! Great to see you're still here! Sounds cool that you've found "old friends" to hang out with! I have a girlfriend that I have known since we were ten! We are best friends, although our friendship is quite trying at times! We are both very stubborn and opinionated and have gone without speaking for a few years at a time on and off! Right now we're "talking"lol I have a next door neighbor that I hang out with alot! She lives next door and comes over a few times a week and we sit and chat or sometimes go shopping or walking. And then I have my across the street neighbor who I also hang out with, but not as often. And then there's the boyfriend who lives here so we get to hang out too (when he's not working)!
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
25 Mar 10
And isn't it great that we seem to be the only ones here hanging around! My discussion's not the most bestseller today so it seems. hehe. But that's okay. So wait, I am not sure if I remember it exactly, but is this the same BF whom you had conflicts with which you mentioned in your past discussion? The one who was giving the relationship up? I may be wrong. I probably was in another planet that time.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
25 Mar 10
It's always a very nice surprise to find that the children you knew when you were young have matured into adults worth knowing now that you are grown. I don't know anyone from my school years, we all just moved away from each other and are naot in touch. My Hubby knows people he started school with, it was a very small school and he is able through the Internet to keep in contact with them. I think when he graduated from grade school there were 8 in his class. They find so much to chat about and remember together it amazes me.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Mar 10
It's always a very nice surprise to find that the children you knew when you were young have matured into adults worth knowing now that you are grown. - Yeah, just like the bully. I think I remembered swearing that I will never wanna see him again! And it is fun reminiscing childhood memories just like the ones your husband share with his classmates.
@dknkyle (446)
• Singapore
25 Mar 10
For me, I'm a fashion designer/stylist, so I would always like to hand out with people who are also in this line, be it designers, stylists, editors, models... The reason as to why I enjoys hanging out with them during my free time is because I can get to know more people who are in the same line as I'm in and from there I can build up some good relations, which will be a great benefit to my future career prospect. Furthermore, we share the same interest and there will always be common topics we can talk about and share our opinions. But then, I don't just restrict myself to only hanging out and knowing people in the fashion line because I'm someone who will never desert or neglect my other close friends or buddy because of not having similar interest or of different career path. Once a friend will always be a friend, true and caring all the way till the end!
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Mar 10
You really have a very cool career! And yes, it's nice to know that you share common interests with your present friends. I do hope you could build long-lasting friendship with them. In my experience,friendship with people that I am temporarily with because of work, or school tend to deteriorate as time goes by and distances grow wider. Just when you thought closeness like that would last, you're suddenly wrong. Then the next time you see them, they're a totally different person.
• United States
25 Mar 10
hang out buddies? man, i used to have those. now i'm married. my hang out buddies are my wife and my new puppy and the tv and my bed haha. we are starting to hang out with other couples now, but its way different than just a bunch of dudes lounging around playing video games or whatever
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Mar 10
YOu miss those times, don't you? Well, things always change along with priorities but it's a good thing you've had your share of hanging out when you were younger. Other people don't get that chance, you know. And they end up frustrated in life.
@threatt (60)
• United States
25 Mar 10
more with sports people cause i hate being the only one knowing the stats and stuff about players
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Mar 10
That's great! People to share the same hobbies. More power to your friendship. Sports can really bring a lot of people together.