Been crying a lot lately.
By emzymemzy
@emzymemzy (89)
Philippines
March 27, 2010 2:48pm CST
Hi mylotters. I've been crying a lot lately. It's so hard loving someone and realize that you have to let him go. You see, he is not my boyfriend/lover. But I'm close to his whole family except the sister. Well, I've been close to the sister at first but ever since she found out that I've got special feelings for his brother, she started telling me words that were so hurtful. Like she doesn't want me to be his brother's girl. Worst of all she makes me feel that I'm not the right girl for his brother. Because of too much hurt that I feel, I wasn't able to control myself but cried in front of her. His brtoher and his whole family were not aware of what's going on between the two of us. Because we're both a good actress in front of them, we pretended and acted as if there's nothing going on between us and that in their eyes we're so close as a sister. Lately I've started to disconnect myself to them. Before if there's a special occasion in his family, I'm always invited and always there. You name it, christmas, birthdays, etc... It's so hard to let go of them all at once. Especially when i love them all. But because of what happened I have to let go. But I'm confused. Should I? If you were in my moccasins, what should you do? Do you continue loving the brother and his whole family or let them all go?
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7 responses
@hollowheart (1572)
• India
28 Mar 10
Dear friend. Plz dont cry. Remember u r not lonely. We all are with u.
I agree its very painful to have to let go the person u love so much.
Now listen to me carefully...u r not leaving him and the family.
See u love them, u care for them. Just for one person u cant loose everything, specially the person who means so much to u.
The girl (sister) is not a bad person and is not ur enemy. But yes she is jealous of u, and to some extent insecured, because she feels, she will not get the full love and affection she gets from her brother. I feel she does not have a lover yet and she considers her brother as the closest to her with whom she can share everything of her life. Thats the only reason why she is hurting u.
Just cool off and understand the siutuation. U will feel better and i believe u r a very very sensible girl. Arn't u?
Now give a smile and dont even think of loosing him.
All the best.
Incase if there is anything feel free to tell me my dear friend.
Stop crying now....
@hollowheart (1572)
• India
29 Mar 10
dear Ezymemzy next time u remember what she said and u r about to shed tears, remember what i am telling u now.
Your tears are very precious, so u cannot afford to waste it just because someone tried to hurt u. You are strong and u can brave it. Just think will tears help. The answer is NO. So be brave, give a smile and go ahead.
All the best.God bless u.
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
thank you hollowheart. I only cry everytime I remember her hurtful words. I'll try to be brave this time. thanks so much
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
I think that. You shouldn't worry about it. You just like the guy. He's not even your boyfriend. I think that yoU got close with his family. Just don't care what the sister says. Your not even doing anything that could make her mad.( or are You)
That's what I think.. hope you can solve this one out... have a good one!
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
I didn't do anthing bad at all except loving his brother. I've been good to her family. We'll I think she got jealous because of the attention I got from her whole family. She's not around all the time because she lives abroad. When she's home and she'd seen how I've gotten close to her family especially her mother and brothers, she got jealous. That's what I thought.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
Maybe she did get jealous. Don't worry about it. I think that it will really pass.Just tell her, how you feel and ask her what she really feels.. A girl to girl talk might actually help... You need to understand why she's feeling that way and You need to know you feel that way..It's better that not doing at all.. 
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
1 Apr 10
hi Emzymemzy,
I don't think you should break away from all of them just because of something the sister said that just might not hold a grain of truth in it. You don't say how old this sister is but she sounds really young. Could it be that she is simply jealous of how well you get along with her brother and parents? That's what it sounds like to me. If I were you, I would either try to just ignore what she said which I'm sure would be difficult or I would have a talk with the brother or the mother to clear up any bad feelings. You don't have to say that the sister is the one that told you all this but just say you heard a rumor.
@blademaiden (734)
• Romania
28 Mar 10
I think you should tell him what you feel about him and find out if he wants to get romantically involved with you. As for his sister's jealousy, I think she will get over it, eventually.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 10
if you think it is worth to fight it, then fight it. times will dry the hatred from his siter. good luck.
@greyz7 (859)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
hi,
i'm kinda confused with the reaction of the sister. maybe she likes you for her than for her brother..
well, sometimes you have to let go just so to give peace to both parties. It's hard to love on a difficult situation..loving equates happiness and freedom. how can you love freely if there are person/s being hurt and for sure you would not be totally happy.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
You need to move on specially if the guy dont feel anything about you. What i mean is its not wise to invest your feelings for someone whose not willing to do the same thing for you . I dont get why the sister dont like you that much? are you that bad for them? Learn how to move on with what your feeling and try to bend it to someone else much more deserving indeed ;)
