if your parents are getting separated

Philippines
March 28, 2010 8:24am CST
what's your initial reaction if your parents are getting separated (actually not getting divorced but will live away from each other) because of conflicts and whatever ... i can't tell 'coz parents don't usually tell their children about these things ... but these are the typical reasons of divorce and so and so ... duh ... how would you deal with it?? what would you feel?? who would you choose to live with??
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
My parents are in their 50's and should they decide this for themselves, who are we to stop them, right? I have always thought that they have paid their dues as parents and are now free to decide what would make them happy. If they should see that they'd like to spend their remaining years separated, then so be it. But of course, I would not blurt our this decision to them. I would just keep quiet. I used to think about forever and have seen how sweet they are. They'd hold hands, dad would still go to the danger side for my mother. Kissed every morning and before going to work etc. But things changed now that they're older. They keep on bickering, to the point of not speaking to each other (though it doesn't last very long for now). Should they decide to separate now, I would not do a thing to keep them from doing so, they're old enough, and we the children are also old enough to understand. I would intervene though if they'd start intentionally hurting each other, or should I still have siblings that are young. I for one would not want my children to intervene if we, the couple, should decide to separate. Not out of lust, not out of hatred, but perhaps out of boredom. Should me and my partner decide to leave each other, it should be according to proper reasons. Reasons that we both grew tired of each other and are done with our responsibility as parents. But still, should my parents decide to separate, it's their call. If they wish to get to know other people and start now then it's up to them. But if I were them, I'd probably just go along with it, and try to spice the marriage and finally grow old cherishing moments and stories of how they were when they're younger - that the best way to live life. Being in love with someone even though how wrinkled and forgetful both are.
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
well ... i'm still 17 ... i am the elest ... i have 2 other siblings ... and my parents are not yet in their 40's i... think... it's sad to think about how powerless are the children to their parents' decisions when in fact the children are the most affected when it comes to things like this ... idk why most parents ignore their children ... thinking they are the most wise ... most experienced ... and making things happen the way they wanted it to be ... not our way ... ... ... whatever ... ... ...
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
Wow divorced 4 times!!! and here I was thinking that once is too traumatic. Anyhow, I do agree that somehow kids who are from a divorced family tend to be divorced as well. Not that it's generally the case, but mostly it's is indeed true.