long distance love

United States
April 8, 2010 7:13am CST
Hi everyone so i was presented with a question that made me think pretty seriously about it and that was "If you knew that you couldn't find someone to love where you lived would you consider a friend / relation (ship) with someone from another state if in the US or from another country if overseas" I didn't know what to say to that but anyway... I just thought i might present the same question to all of you to see what you thought..?
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18 responses
@pierone (1894)
• Italy
8 Apr 10
About me, I trust long distance relationship. In my case (I'm from Italy), after 3 years of long distance relationship with a chinese girl, we married. Is a bit hard relocate myself in China, but things are going well. So, by personal experience, I should say, yes, a long distance relationship can work well. I guess it depends about the persons involved, more than about the distance ;)
@drkraven (521)
• Romania
8 Apr 10
oki long distance now means abit more than it meant before. We have more ways to keep in touch with ppl due to the technologies available today but it does not apply to anyone. It s just a matter of someones way of beeing. I for one would not go for such a thing. I don t like the feeling of missing someone and i would never bring that on me on purpose. Ofc different situations bring different people to do different things :) But do not confuse online relationships with long distance relationships :)
@caliya (1170)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
I have a friend who's currently in a long distance relationship for 3 years now and it's working although they have challenges. If you truly love and trust each other then there is a chance that it might also work out for you.
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@pratheep87 (1227)
• India
9 Apr 10
Now a days this internet has made the globe a village. So i think overseas love has no hurdle in communication
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
8 Apr 10
it depends on the circumstances that could be leading to have such a making decision. it is difficult to consider the consequences of long distance relationship..but i guess it depends on the overall circumstances...
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• Philippines
8 Apr 10
I have been in a long distance relationship for about three years now. It was hard at first, actually it is still hard until now. we have had our share of struggles and problems but I am happy to say that we just got married. currently still maintaining a long distance relationship, but we have plans of me moving to where he is currently working.
@khalida (1126)
• India
9 Apr 10
wow! that is really cool! :) you guys must be really in "love" awesome! its nice to see couples being serious about each other in this world where cheating upon one another is more common!
• Indonesia
9 Apr 10
hay gardenstategreg trust me, distance no barrier in a relationship. my father and mother different country for four years to work...my father in indonesia and my mother in arab saudi but they fine...distance samotimes add value in relationship...with distance pair couple can nostalgic
@Naisan (215)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
sure, its really not the distance that counts--in this kind of relationship trust is really essential
• United States
9 Apr 10
well gardenstategreg if you know and trust that person you wanna be with in the long distance relationship you got to be willing to spend time apart for quiet some time and then one day meeting up again in person and the number one rule is has trust in each other and always keep in touch if that doesn't happen bye bye relationship moving on xD
@khalida (1126)
• India
9 Apr 10
well starting a long distance relationship without seeing the person and knowing him is a complete no-no for me! its okay if i've been dating the guy here in my country and then him going abroad. by the way, if you can't find someone in your country. . .. i think u should look beyond your locality and stuff. you can't obviously get to know everyone in your country right!??
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
9 Apr 10
well long distance love means love only and lucky are the ones who can love each other truly!
• United States
8 Apr 10
"love moves in mysterious way" been with LDR and now we are happily married with 2 kids... It's two to tango to makes it work. Trust the first key to Long distance relationship.
@dhablue (122)
• Indonesia
9 Apr 10
I didn't have it..but I think it's very hard loving long distance!
• United States
8 Apr 10
they said: love always find a way. Yeah long distance love worked with me, I got married on my late 30's. well for me, if you find that guy you think he fits on what you are looking for a person, then that's the start for you to know him so well even if he is in another planet.Trust and honesty is always the foundation if you would like to know better the person you think he /she is the one you are looking for. clear and proper communication the bridge to find if you are having long distance love.
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
I have nothing against long distance relationships but personally. I will not recommend it to a friend. People can say or write things about themselves which may be true or not, but you wouldn't really know it until you spend some time with him/her. It's hard to judge someone whom you haven't really been with merely by the way he/she talks on the phone or by the way he/she writes. It's also very easy to compose your words when you know you are talking to a person who is miles away and who would't be able to validate what you say. It's harder because you don't really get to see how the other person reacts in actual situations. It's even more scary when it's time for you to actually meet in person. Questions like- Will he/she really like me the way he/she does on the phone or on the net? Why not try to look around some more? It's really sweeter to have the person you love beside you. Being there to give you a tight hug or a kiss when you're down. Or to cheer for you when you're at your best. Someone who can go out and watch a movie with you, eat out, cry with you, laugh with you. Give you moments you'd never forget for the rest of your life! :)
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
I am with my boyfriend and he is leaving for Dubai soon, for a very long time. I hope that we would last forever even if he would be away from me.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
Long distance love is work for me because I married a man for this situation of trust and loyalty. We're already one year married and happy.
@phynx15 (248)
• India
8 Apr 10
I think loving someone is a unique feeling, be it near or far, it doesn't matter. It's your heart and mind that will always be where your lover belongs. I don't thing it will be easy to find a love somewhere far or foreign just because you didn't find someone in your locality. Love is not a feeling you will easily find because you want it, it is different from lust. It justs happens.
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
The quote goes something like this " Love knows no distance". I personally, don't think long distance love is good. A reason behind this is the component and needs of love: a) togetherness b) contact c) trust d) loyalty. I know many people have had success stories behind this, but, please I don't think it is practical nowadays. These long distant relationships may end up in another divorce for someone and I don't like that idea. So in summary here is my version of the quote " Love knows no distance, but reality says otherwise"