My Daughter has been robbed by a Friend
By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48686)
United Kingdom
April 8, 2010 2:22pm CST
As most of my Friends here know I moved down the South 3 years ago, my Children decided to stay up North where they where brought up and had all their Friends and their Job, it was a hard thing for me to do but the air is much better down here for my Lungs and also I am close to my Man
Both my Children and I talked a long time about this and decided that I should do what I need to do and that I deserved to be happy
We live 3 hours apart but I go to see them quite a lot
Anyway, middle of last Year my Daughter and a Friend of hers decided to share a House, as soon as they moved in her Friend changed, she did nothing in the Place at all
She was not respecting my Daughters privacy by bringing People home late letting them make a mess and not clean up
When I was there at Christmas this girl promised to start pulling her weight but she never did, so my Daughter informed her last week that she was moving out
Since then she has been nasty to my Girl
Yesterday my Girl got home to find all the furniture gone including the Washer and also found big Damage to the wall
She confronted the Girl who asked why she is getting on her high Horse she will sort it
Today my Daughter checked the Joint account they have for all the Bills only to see that the Girl has removed all the money that where there for the Bills for the end of the Month
My Daughter rang me in tears as the Bills are on both their Names and if they do not get paid my Daughter will also be on the bad Credit which means now to keep her Name clear she has to pay these Bills at the end of the Month out of her Money
The Money that was there for the Bills was half my Daughters Money, she has tried to contact the Girl and getting no reply
I am absolutely Fuming as you can imagine and hearing my Girl cry like that makes me mad, I wanted to go up there but both my Son and Daughter and my 'adopted' Daughter9 my Daughters best Friend who I have known for 12 years) have told me to stay down here as they know I will get so mad that I will end up in Hospital because I will cause myself a seizure, they told me not to worry they will sort this
My Daughter works hard and she is saving up for her Holiday, now this has happened
The only Reason I am staying here is because I know my Girl has 4 People to help her with this Situation even my ' adopted' Daughters Mum is helping my Girl on this one
How would you deal with it if someone did this to one of your Children
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30 responses
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
8 Apr 10
You daughter needs to go to the police and charge her with theft!
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
8 Apr 10
Hi, gabs8513. That is very mean for her friend to do this to her!
Her friend needs to grow up and act like an adult! Your daughter is so much better off without her, believe me she is. Your daughter can take actions out on her as far as the court is concerned. She will need to tell her side of the story and have proof of them having accounts that they were adjoined. It is so dirty how she just took all of the money that your daughter and her shared out of the account. She wiped your daughter cleaned. I would have this girl into court because she can't just walk away leaving me hanging to clean up her mess that she created in the first place! I am so sorry that your daughter had to go through this. It is a shame that she trusted this friend but only to have her turn her back on your daughter. Let the law handle her and punish her. Don't get yourself so upset because I know that you are very angry. As a mother, I would be furious too, but still, I would have to support my daughter and give her the best advice as to how to handle this situation the right ethical way. I hope that this all gets straighten out. Your daughter's so called friend was no friend at all. She was very conniving.
Her friend needs to grow up and act like an adult! Your daughter is so much better off without her, believe me she is. Your daughter can take actions out on her as far as the court is concerned. She will need to tell her side of the story and have proof of them having accounts that they were adjoined. It is so dirty how she just took all of the money that your daughter and her shared out of the account. She wiped your daughter cleaned. I would have this girl into court because she can't just walk away leaving me hanging to clean up her mess that she created in the first place! I am so sorry that your daughter had to go through this. It is a shame that she trusted this friend but only to have her turn her back on your daughter. Let the law handle her and punish her. Don't get yourself so upset because I know that you are very angry. As a mother, I would be furious too, but still, I would have to support my daughter and give her the best advice as to how to handle this situation the right ethical way. I hope that this all gets straighten out. Your daughter's so called friend was no friend at all. She was very conniving.3 people like this
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
13 Apr 10
Hi Cream and Ideal
I am still very angry, but my Daughter has her Brother and her Friends help her with this
My Daughter has also written a Letter to the Girls work, as this Girl works in the Prison and someone who works there has told her to write to them
It is very sad when you can not trust good Friends or relatives
I am just hoping this will sort out for my Girl, I am still very mad at this Person and I hope that next time I go to visit my Son and Daughter our Paths will not cross as I will not hold back and give her a piece of my mind
@Idealisticgirl (392)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Oh my! That's so terrible! I felt sorry for your daughter. Hope that friend of her would be guilty and help her pay the bills. This thing only shows that you can really never trust anyone when it comes to money because even your relative has the capability of betraying you. All we can do is to be aware!
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
I am so sorry for your daughter. Its so hard when you trust someone then they end up betraying you. Money is easier to earn back but to recover from betrayal is a lot harder. I do hope that she will be able to settle their obligations soon and that she will be able to trace that friend of hers and get back what she owes from your daughter.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
13 Apr 10
Hi Silverglint
Things are in action now so I am hoping that this will sort out soon, a Work Colleague of my Daughters has offered to repair the Damage so that my Daughter does not have to pay for it and gets her Bond Money back
Thank you for taking the time to care
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
8 Apr 10
Here in America, we would tell the daughter to call the police, make a police report as to the damage to the apartment and theft of property, money and then let the police arrest the girl. I don't know what you have there in regards to police and such. but your daughter should report this girl to the authorities so she can not do this to someone else.
I will pray for your daughter as I know what it feels like to be so upset. I will pray she finds comfort with true friends.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
8 Apr 10
I would want to sdtomp the living daylights out of them. I'm sorry this happened to your daughter. It's so sad that u can't trust people to not act ugly.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
8 Apr 10
I would be fuming and wanting to kick some butt. But with your health, you have to be smart and listen to the kids, they will be able to handle it. It won't help if you go down and get yourself all worked up and in the hospital. That would make the situaion much worse.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
13 Apr 10
Polly is sill hanging in there. The cats have been mothering her, I think she thinks its more like smothering. They rub up on her, proect her and watch out for her. Its so cute to watch, one of the cats will sometimes go outside with her, and walk next to her. Polly stops, the cat stops and waits for her to move again. Then the cat will walk Polly back into the house. Animals are so much more aware of stuff then we realise, they know she is old and her time is limited. Awwww.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
13 Apr 10
Hi Polly
I have stayed here lol as I knew I would be in trouble if I didn't, but only because I know my Daughter is getting help and support from her Friends in sorting this out
So I have been good and listened to my Children lol I am just so mad about it all
How is Polly doing
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@nannacroc (4049)
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8 Apr 10
I know I would be very angry and want to go and confront the person who had upset my daughter. I can imagine how you are feeling but the good thing is that she has a very good friend and the mum of that friend is helping as will her brother if he can.
Try to keep calm and let the people surrounding your daughter help her. The girl who has robbed your daughter will never have the type of supportive friends and family your daughter has and, one day, she may have need of them.
From what I've heard of your children you have mad a great job of bringing them up and they are a credit to you. Don't add to their worries by making yourself ill.
Take care.
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@nannacroc (4049)
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8 Apr 10
The girl obviously has no morals or sense of loyalty. I think your daughter has come to the right decision and you should be proud of her, as I know you are.
Take care.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
8 Apr 10
Hi Nannacroc, I have just spoke to my Daughter and she is feeling a bit better as everyone has already rallied round and getting their Head together to what they can do
My Daughter will pay half of the Bills and then give the Companies the Girls Work address which believe it or not she works in the D Prison
I have calmed myself down as I know I will upset everyone if I make myself Ill
I just can not understand how someone can do this
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
8 Apr 10
Aw your poor daughter. I have 3 daughters of my own and I to like most mothers do get very defensive when something bad happens. We as mothers go through life trying to protect our children from the harm and cruelty that this world has to offer. It is just to bad that we can't prevent everything. I sure hope that she can work things out I am thinking that maybe if she goes to the bank where the joint account was set up and inform them of what has happened and your situation. There maybe something that they can do for your daughter. Good Luck and God bless.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
13 Apr 10
Hi Ronita
My Daughter has written to the Girls work and is waiting for an Reply, as she was told to do this because another Person made some enquiries for my Daughter as they work where this Girl works which is in a Prison
So she is waiting to hear back from them
My Girl has got a lot of her Friends and her Brother helping her so I know she will be ok
Thank you Ronita
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
9 Apr 10
Oh no! Good grief, is there ever any sunshine with you? Yeah Yeah, I know, there is but doesn't seem like it lately. I do understand your wanting to go up there and help your daughter out but with your health, it's best you stay where you are and like you said, she has a number of people helping her so she should be ok. Please keep us posted, Ok? Hugs!!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
13 Apr 10
Hi Sweetie
lol you should know by now when it hits me it hits all at once just like it does you, we are a right pair lol, but my Girl is getting help from her Brother and Friends to get this matter sorted so I am being good and staying here at home at the moment I would not be able to the Drive to be honest as I am not to good but I would have done if I had to believe me
I will keep you posted Sweet Hugs
@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
8 Apr 10
Dirty little theiving immature biatch! 
Surely she knows where this girl works. Hit her there. Go there and cause a big scene at a loud volume informing her that if the money is NOT back in the account before the bills come out, that she will be suing her for THEFT!
She could call the police and charge her with theft, since she had no right to remove the money, as it was for joint bills. Even if she isn't charged, there WILL be a record of it that she can ask be provided.
Surely she knows where this girl works. Hit her there. Go there and cause a big scene at a loud volume informing her that if the money is NOT back in the account before the bills come out, that she will be suing her for THEFT!
She could call the police and charge her with theft, since she had no right to remove the money, as it was for joint bills. Even if she isn't charged, there WILL be a record of it that she can ask be provided.2 people like this
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
8 Apr 10
Hi Annie oh yes we know where she works and Mel can not go there and hit her lol as this Girl works in the Prison but it is ok between my Son, my Daughter and her friends they are sorting things at the moment, they have already phoned the Police and they can not do anything as the account was in joint names
I have been told to calm down and leave them to deal with it lol so I guess I better listen
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@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
8 Apr 10
Sorry, I didn't mean to physically hit her, I meant to 'get' her where she works to embarrass her into doing the right thing.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
8 Apr 10
That is terrible what a horrible thing to do to a person! I hope that your daughter sues the girl for all she's worth and then some. To think, your daughter has done so much (well she's pulling the chores and that in itself is enough) and now your daughter has to deal with an immature room-mate!
I hope she gets all of this sorted out but don't you worry, she's got a lot of people on here side!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
8 Apr 10
Hi Cowgirl
I have just spoke to my Girl, she now has the Address of where the B works and my Daughter will send half the Bill money to the Companies and then send them the Address for them to get the rest from her
My main worry is that she can find someone to repair the wall that she damaged so badly or my Daughter will loose her Bond money to
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
8 Apr 10
Did you say she was renting the house or apartment? I'd take that up with the landlord, after all your daughter wasn't home she had nothing to do with it and it shouldn't be her responsibility to pay for it. I'd document that wall to, taking pictures and measurements (if need be)....
Good Luck to her, glad she's got the B's work address, that definitely won't look good on the girl.
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
9 Apr 10
Hi Gaby..Thats a really tough break for your girl..I guess it dosen't matter where in the world you live, it is very hard to find a good room mate. I have been ripped off by people I took into my home too. Its not a very good feeling and when it involves money its really bad. I have had clothes stolen and been left holding the bag with all the bills too so I know how she feels. It must be hard for you as her Mum to not go up there and ring her neck. Unfortunately, you cant and the only thing you really can do is be there her when she needs to talk etc. The problem with a joint account is that she can't even take legal action. Like I always say, what goes around, comes around and believe me it does. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but the girl will get hers in due time. You just don't treat people that way. Here in the states, the economy is soooo bad that rooming in with others is almost a necessity. I do it. Not because I want to but because I have to. Luckily, I have a guy that shares this house who is a hard worker and has never done anything do disrespect me but like I said, over the years I've had my share of losers too..Hope she gets past this and can move on to better days soon.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
13 Apr 10
Hi Sulsi
I can't go up there no because the Children will not let me, but I know that she is getting help and support from her Brother and friends
We talk every Day anyway so she knows I am here and she will phone and talk to me and I soothe her as much as I can and try to keep her calm which I normally can
She is a strong Girl but she stresses a lot but that is like me I do to that is why both of my Children will not let me go up there
Hugs Sulsi
@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
10 Apr 10
This is terrible! How can someone do this? I feel really sorry for your daughter. This is so unfortunate that a friend change like that and make all that trouble. This kind of people will never be able to live a happy life. I believe in karma.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
8 Apr 10
Hey Gaby,
I'm really proud of you for staying home instead of running back all stressed out. That is one of the hardest things that any Mother can do. Don't worry, it sounds like the kids are more than capable of taking care of the situation. It seems as if you taught them well.
Love Ya,
Leenie
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
8 Apr 10
Hi Leenie
It is hard but I know I would get there in a state and then I would find the Girl and I know where to find her and have a go at her and I mean I would have a right go
But I respect my Children's wishes and know they are doing this for my own good as they do not want Mum sick and yes it sounds like they have got it hand now between the 4 of them and help from others to at Mel's work
I am so proud of my Children, because no matter how much they argue when something like this happens they stick together, that includes my Daughters best Friend
Love you Sweetie and hope you are keeping well
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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8 Apr 10
Hi gabs,
I am so sorry to hear what happened to your daughter, on top of everything, this has hve to happen, I would feel the same as you and if it was my daughter, I would glad go up there and kick that ono good friend, should I say ex friend's butt to kingdom come, oh!!! that makes me so angry.love and hugs.
Tamara
xxxx
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
8 Apr 10
Hi Sweetie
It is hard for me not to go but I am respecting my Children's wishes and staying here
My Daughter has rang me just now she sounds a lot better and they have already discussed what to do from here and one Girl at Mel's work phoned her Boyfriend who is a Policeman and he said there is nothing Mel can do as the account is joint names
But it is ok there is 4 of them discussing it all
But I am so mad, I have calmed down though as my breathing was not steady with the anger I felt, when I am really angry and feel helpless I cry but I am ok now as the Kid's including my 'adoptive' Daughter told me to calm down xxx
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
11 Apr 10
I would feel enraged like you probably did. There are some nasty people in the world who have no qualms about hurting another who they used to call a friend. I am glad to hear she has folks helping her and you must keep that in mind; the fact that there is nothing you can do except send her a few prayers and her friends will do all that can be done, if you know what I mean. I know you are hurting for her…I hope she will retrieve her stuff somehow along with the money...I really do…You are better off staying where you are instead of running to her and possibly making yourself sick...
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@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
I'm sorry for what happen. But I think our daughter is also partly to blame. She spoiled her friend so much that it grows horns. Son next time if she has a friend like that before anything get worse she must make action to prevent does to happen again.
