Are there comparison between you and your siblings?

We all go through this scenario, I for one found it difficult to keep myself from being jealous over the attention given by my parents to my brother. It took me a whole while and even up to now to truly understand why they are that way. I am the only daughter and I have two other brothers (younger), we always seem to notice that huge favors are always given to our eldest brother as compared to us. Perhaps it's because he is the first, or perhaps it's because their bond with him is tighter because he is the first son. Perhaps I'm right about that because talking to my friends we do realize that the first born (most especially if he is male) is usually the parents' favorite. But my mom did tell me that it's all about having kids. She said that we all each have uniqueness and she needs to adjust to all of our moods. It's not intentional that she gives him more attention than all of us, she claims. She says she's just giving us what we need and that my eldest brother just needs more attention right now. I think I do get what she means, and I'm pretty sure she strives to give us the same attention. But I did understand this further one Sunday when the Priest in our Church explained to us the story of the "Prodigal Son". (here's the link for the whole story http://matneywoodard.home.att.net/prodigal_son.htm ) Anyhow, the Priest explained that there were two people involved in this story but though the main focus would be the son that squanders all the father's money and property, it's the Eldest Son's mistake to not understand the other son and felt envious of him. It made me see that I'm really human, and I am envious at times but it should not be because though I am not as likened to my brother, my parents will always see that I am their daughter and they could entrust their lives to me. Further, I was also taken a back about 'fairness' when the Priest also explained another Bible Parable about the workers in the fields and that the last batch of workers who worked late was given the same wages as those who worked in the fields earlier. I for one felt it was 'unfair' that their master gave those 'late comers' the same wages as those who came in first. But I understood that those who were not picked to work first felt really depressed when before sunset they still didn't find jobs. In short, there is an inner explanation to things, and if our Loving Father would have been overly tough on us with regards to justice, then it would really tough on us because we are all not alike. In the same way, I don't blame my mom for not treating us the same, because I know I am stronger as a person as compared to my brother. He may be the eldest, but his life is really quite difficult compared to ours. Which is why my parents need to support him more emotionally than us.

I have a brother who is 8 years younger than me and we have a close relationship. We have spent a lot of time together and I often looked after him when he was a child. I was an only child till I was 8, and it was a big change for me when my brother was born, because I had been used to getting my parents attention all the time. When I got my brother I suddenly had to share my parents with someone else, and I was jealous at first. Today I am not jealous at my brother, I love him very much I am very happy that I am not an only child.

Hi, there. Yes, of course, people like to compare. It is neither a good thing nor a bad thing. Well, it depends on your thoughts, who you would like to be. Sometimes I feel upset, but I know, I'd rather be myself.