Do you prefer to be in a relationship or single?

@wigima5 (908)
United States
April 16, 2010 11:07pm CST
I have been single all my life, and so I can't really compare it to a relationship only imagine. But from what I've heard, relationships are a lot of work, stress and time and can start problems. And often people prefer to be single to be able to flirt with anyone, or feel free and have more time for friends and school. I guess it's good not to get distracted by having a relationship while in school, but at the same time there are pluses to having a relationship. And I don't really flirt with anyone so there's no plus at that. But what about you? Do you prefer to be single or in a relationship?
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25 responses
• United States
18 Apr 10
Hi wigima, You are doing just great. Believe me it is not worth trying a relationship just because of the society's sake. I have lived both a single's and girlfriend's life. Yes, some people say being single gives them the chance to flirt with many people. But from my experience, I can say that at the end of the day they will still stay alone and feel that a lot is missing in their lives. The best is to just concentrate on studies. Relationship is best when it suddenly happens. So it is better not to look for anyone. But I know there are some who are just desperate to be in relationships, but such thing only brings disappointment.
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
24 Apr 10
Hey, thx 4 all ur advice, u have a lot of good points. Yea, like I said im not the flirting type of person n id much rather have someone there with me. n yea, i SHOULD concentrate on studies. but yea i guess i am slightly desperate. i dont like saying it but eehh there i said it. its just kinda hard when u see so many of ur friends n ppl in school walking with their bf and holding hands and then im STILL alone. n yea, ive heard tat too, tat its best when it just happens. Idk. im hoping for that. :) i just dont kno how itll happen...
• United States
24 Apr 10
Don't feel about yourself dear. Once even I was desperate. Unfortunately, it made me look and go for all the wrong guys. Only when I stopped looking my ultimate man came around. Now in our relationship there is nothing called breakup. So all I can tell is that if the universe picks someone for you you will be totally unaware of it.
@bestylish (923)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
I prefer myself to be single right now... I can't have a boyfriend since I have to study. Mylot isn't disturbing me in my studies since I can balance my time for it.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
By the way, I am single and never had a boyfriend.
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
24 Apr 10
how old ru?
• India
11 Aug 10
I can't be in relationship right now 'cause i don't have a proper job. Its hard to be in relation, if you are not good enough to stand by your own feet.I have been single till now, and its good to be single. When you are in relation you have got to sacrifice lot of our good times. Where you get less time to spent days with our own family and friends. You have to go when ever your b/f call you for date, i really don't enjoy going for date with same person now and again. I am single and i prefer to be single till my late breath.
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
12 Aug 10
That IS true, you can't expect to be in a relationship if you can't take care of urself even. Plus relationships take some money too. And yes, they do take some time and effort too, which takes away from other things. But I think if you find the right person, you won't even mind spending that extra time with that certain special person. And u can always take them along with ur family and friends. :)
@Tangeryne (413)
• India
18 Apr 10
hey wigima..i'm currently single but i so wanna be in a relationship..i've been in 3 relationships so far, the last one i was really serious about but i had my heart broken over it over and over again..being in a relationship has its plus points as well as negative..the feeling of being wanted an cared for,loved, someone to always be there for you is great but when you break up or fight, all that heartache and pain you go through is difficult to handle, i would know. finding the right one also matters, if someone is fooling around with you and your serious, again more heartache. as for you, if your still in school, my advise would be not to get into a relationship but mingle around and off course flirt! and then when your ready and you find that special someone, go for it girl! just wish i meet my prince charming soon, been single and lonely for too long now . anyways, wish you luck
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
24 Apr 10
haha thx. :) :P yeaaa...kinda too bad i dont really kno how 2 flirt. or anyone to flirt with anyways. :P but thxx.
@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
17 Apr 10
I prefer to be in a relationship. When I was younger liked my single life. I travelled a lot, I lived abroad for several months and I loved the freedom that I had. Now I am married and I have a home and many pets, I can't travel the way I did in the past, but I don't mind at all, because I love my husband and I love the life that I have today. When you are in a relationship you don't have the same kind of freedom that you have when you are single, but I think that there are lots of other advantages about being in a relationship, and I don't want to go back to my single life.
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
24 Apr 10
tats nice. :) good tat you found you love.
@fryloc (62)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Oooh interesting question... I have been in several relationships, but to me, I prefer to be single! If your in a relationship, it's going to END sometime, it may be tomorrow, next week, or next year. You will still have your heart broken when your in a relationship. So that's why I prefer to be single! Happy Mylotting Everyone! - Fry
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
24 Apr 10
interesting idea. kinda pessimistic, but true. so i guess u dont agree with the famous quote "it is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all"
@rumshie (186)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
i only had 1 realtionship in my whole life and it lasted 2 years and 2 months. Nov 2006 (and I am 13 years old that time) until february 2009 (im 16 years old). For me it's good to have someone you love and someone who'll loved you. You'll find a shoulder to lean on with them (not the same as you friends' shoulders). You can confide your problems with them and you'll be sure that they wont tell it to anyone (that's if HE/SHE REALLY LOVES YOU) and you'll find your supporter/fan/partner. : IT'S REALLY GOOD. AS of now, I'm already 1 year single after that. : and i guess it's better this way since there's less problems (minus your boyfriend problems) and less things to worry/doubt. Thoug I know being single is still better (in terms of lesser worries), I still want to find a MAN for me. Since it's a good feeling to know that you have someone special. :
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
24 Apr 10
yea, i hear tat all the time. :/ its confusing. so wat kind of problems are "boyfriend problems"? How exactly does it cause problems?
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 10
I have been single for 3 years, and oohhhh....it is toooo looooonnnggg!!!I want to be in a relationship, but rather than being too pushy to have relationship because you`re ashamed of being single and you are not really into that person or vice versa, I prefer to be single. If i am not sure he is the one, why should i force my heart?Being single is not a sin, being married is not an achievement either. There are some people who decide to get married because of their family pressure/status, then they`re not happy with their marriage. I don`t want it to happen
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
24 Apr 10
yea, i kno wat u mean. i WANT to be in a relationship sumtimes, but i dont want 2 be in a relationship with sum randommm person. especially since it goes both ways n if they end up getting attached to me it cud really cause problems n i could break his heart.
• India
17 Apr 10
To remain single requires hell of confidence and innate mental strength avoiding all the biological stimulation because the whole society and learning triggers your mind to look for someone compatible person who reciprocates love.Hence you can't avoid the inner war between two minds which has divided at the time of raising the question or even when the question has popped up in your mind.It's like becoming a saint for the rest of your life with the confession of the permanent abstaining from the social activity in general.But all it comes from the horrible imagining of the negative consequences that a relation begets.If you can manage the relationship to be all right all along the time,you can take the risk which is our innate curious nature,I'd say.Hence the ultimate thing is your confidence to embrace all the good or bad consequences in a relationship.And you know,you'd really learn for life even a relationship fails to exist after some time.Learning and to become matured is the motif of our earthly activities and that can't be achieved without taking risks.Once if you think you've learned enough about relationship,you stop.Who can say that your next relationship is not going to be the much anticipated one? thanks, Happy MyLotting!!
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Thx. :) n tat seems like a very interesting approach. I guess it is a learning experience. Happy Mylotting as well!
@rhan04 (309)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Well, experience is the best teacher. It's easy to be single...but to be in a relationship is something that not everybody is fortunate enough to experience. Yes, it's hard to be in a relationship. You'll have commitments, obligations and so on..but then again, it's a big loss if you won't experience it. Sometimes, all the hardships of a relationship is worth if you feel that you are being loved.. Though some people prefer to be single, there will always come a time that they will start thinking about having someone beside them..
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
17 Apr 10
true, tat is just how i feel sometimes. You want to experience it, even tho the risks can be big. like shakespeare said "its better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all". but then again shakespeare was a little man-wh#re so...:P
• India
17 Apr 10
Hi, There are advantages and disadvantages in both options. I mean if you are in a relationship, you will always find someone who will have the highest priority for you whenever you need her. The interdependence is what makes a relationship a motivating factor in one's life. When an immature person gets involved, he doesn't really get much out of his relationship. A wise man, though, if gets into a relationship will always get the best out of it. Immature persons only come up with disturbing situations and complications. When you are single, you have to worry less about things. You live for yourself and without the burden of obligations. You decide for your own. Staying single is the best option for those who are both mentally and physically independent. Financial independence may take you to a certain distance, but not all the way. You can always get the best of it if you sincerely feel happy for it and know perfectly well how to enjoy your condition. Its lucrative, yet very difficult task for most of the people. I personally prefer to remain single. Thanks. God bless you
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Aww thank you. You too. And thx for ur insight on the matter.
@Simon1223 (904)
• China
25 Apr 10
Currently I prefer to be single for I wanna concentrate myself on my work. Preserving a relationship will take me a lot of time and energy, which will affect my work. I know money doesn't mean everything. But if a man couldn't earn enough money, a lot of problems would occur in the relationship between his partner and him. So in my opinion, it would be better to start a relationship after several years of hard working.
@magtibaygom (4865)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
I always wanted to enter a relationship, but since I am still building my business and very busy with it, I prefer to be single for now. It gives me more freedom. Soon, I will enter again in a relationship.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I guess it depends on what stage you are in in your life, and your personal goals or dreams. I used to be fine being single and not have a boyfriend because boyfriends usually disrupt my career. But since I am past that (trying to climb the corporate ladder, been there, done that) I am looking forward to setting down with my partner and enjoy each others' company. I am nearing forty so my priorities have changed a lot.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
18 Apr 10
Relationships are hard work.They are full of stress. It takes alot of time,also! I can't trust a man not to take advantage of me! I rather be single and prety much aloner then in a relationship! I have been relationships but all went south for all different reasons! I don't dare try one again! I do get lonely but I rather be lonely then not happy! I also prefer the independence. You don't get that all the time in relationships!
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I am currently in a satisfactory relationship with somebody I really cared. She is five years younger than me but she is a lot matured in terms of thinking. We got along fine and we seemed happy and contented in our relationship. So I am much more at home with a relationship right now. Before when I have this not so good relationship with a woman who is nagger and we always quarrel with each other. there's always conflict arising every time we are together. There's no peace with her so I kind of dream of being single again.
@Acirem (55)
• United States
17 Apr 10
I prefer to be single at the moment. I want to enjoy my free time and do what I want to do. Eventually I will have to settle down and try to get into a relationship.
• United States
17 Apr 10
well its not bad to want to be single, but there is nothing like having a man to cuddle with at night or having somone to do and say special things to you. Yes sometimes you be stressed and stuff but thats what a relationships is about but if u love your partner than none of that will matter.
@iamster (123)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Me either is single until now (I am already 22 :)) But of course I still wanted to be committed in the future because I want to grow old with someone just like my grandparents who is almost 52 years happily married :) And I think it's so lonely if you are not in a relationship. At least there is someone who you know will really care for you. It's a good feeling that you know that someone is thinking and loving you back.
@BlueGoblin (1833)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Both. I enjoy the personal freedom of being single. However, I usually miss having someone there.