True friends stab you in the front.

@lyzabelle (1670)
Philippines
April 19, 2010 5:37pm CST
That quotes your read above is written by Oscar Wilde. What can you say about it? Does it mean that enemy and the not so true friends always stab you in the back and that can be labeled as betrayal,sneaky and treacherous. I believed that true friends always criticize you and reprimand you in the front where you knew it...their only main concern it to tell you your fault not behind you but but they do it directly in to your face...now that is what i call true friends. The not so true friends always do things behind your back and it always hurt because we don't know when it's coming and what degree the damage could hurt us. Do you agree or contradict the quotes above? Please have your say...everybody is welcome. Thanks for participating.
4 people like this
20 responses
• Philippines
4 May 10
There are friends who do the two way. In order for me not to be betrayed of my friend, I tel her frankly that I confide something to her because I trust her. Whatever I said to you don't spread it to anybody. Respect to each other is the key to keep friendship. If she can't make it so it means , she is not a real friend... It is so hard to friendship anymore if one hurts with betrayal.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
Yes I believe this also... A friend even sent me a message saying "True friends slap you on the face and tell you it's not alright when you do something wrong. Fake friends smile and tell you it's alright but laugh at you from behind." Your real friends can look directly into your eyes and tell you how important you are to them that's why they tell you straight when you're going the wrong direction. Fake friends on the other hand don't care even if anything bad happens to you as you go along the wrong path so they just say it's ok when it actuall is IS NOT! I treasure my true friends and try to just stay away from those who don't care for me anyway. :)
• Hong Kong
21 Apr 10
The saying stabbing you in the back means they are talking behind your back. Maybe stabbing you in front means that they are going directly to you and addressing an issue rather than talking behind your back. And if that is the case, I would think that might make a true friend.
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
this is so really true. Friends take for granted that being a friend means protecting your friend and is not a license that you can just say anything to others eventhough your friend is present. There are things in life worth keeping quite about and friendships worth keeping.
@dawnald (84060)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Apr 10
meaning that true friends tell you what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear?
@megamatt (14338)
• United States
20 Apr 10
I interpreted this as people being upfront about their actions instead of being deceitful. Maybe not necessarily betrayal or anything to that level but most certainly not pretending that something is wrong. People being pretty much up front with you, instead of playing games behind your back. That to me is the mark of a true friend, there is not any double talk that you have to decipher. People who stab you in the back are not your friends. They are not up front about their action. They will ambush you when you least expect it. I really think that these people will not be honest about anything. Especially the fact that they are being dishonest and deceitful to you. Therefore there dishonesty should not be surprising but they somehow are in many ways.
@avri1212 (35)
• Israel
20 Apr 10
Some friends are mean and frontstabbing you in very bad situations which can break a person heart.
• United States
20 Apr 10
I think what he's talking about here is that many people get fooled easily by what's in front of them and its usually by what's happening behind there backs and they find out about that they start to see others true colors. I've had people try to con me and them say they were my friend afterwards. I have a friend of mine that for the past 6 years hasn't respected me the same way I have her. In other words i would be there when she needed something but when it came time for me to need something from her she was no where to be found. Some excuse would always come up in her head for her to tell me. Like one time she tried to say that her mom had to come get her because she got stopped by the cops and they gave her a ticket for something and took her car when they didn't take her car she was just trying to get out of coming up there. When all she had to do was tell me the truth. It's things like that over the years that is happening right in front of peoples faces that it takes for something to go on behind there back and it be revealed for them to see that it was happening right in front of them from the beginning.
• Hong Kong
20 Apr 10
Yeah thank you then too, so hard to say something not normal, unconscious way, reversing truth, leading anyone even though not sure if it works. A friend is a type of person that leaves you or me happy memories, gives us or anyone a truthful respect, a friend which you can be proud of her, me, you or anyone. But a friend that do bad things behind your back and not in-front of you is a traitor and still a friend.
@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2298627.aspx?p=1#2_21044764 hello my dear, Just my own simple analysis I guess it means that whatever she sees and find that you need to be scolded or corrected that is what I understand from the sentence or quotes.Meaning she cannot take it to see that she cannot help you by saying the truth that is really good for you. She will try her best to say something even if it is so delicate enough in case of some personal problems but she will insist it just for you to show her sympathy and reality for your friendship. That is not literally mean for me to stab by a knife or any thing no.
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I'm reminded of a quote that I happened to read from a magazine: "There are only two people who can tell you the truth about yourself - an enemy who has lost his temper and a friend who loves you dearly." I agree that true friends are frank and are very truthful about you. I'm a witness to that because I can tell that my friends, especially the ones I met in college, are true ones. One of them was my roommate and we were like sisters as time went by. We give advice and help each other, through thick and thin. I guess that's the beauty of having true friends.
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I agree. Real friends will tell what's up. They will not try to do anything behind your back that they know would hurt you. They will tell you straight what's going on, what's wrong, and not make you believe that everything's okay when everything's not. I've been with people that tell me straight up what's going on, and I appreciate them for that. They've always told me what's happening. Of course I try not to go over the line, but when I do, I appreciate (and get hurt a lot, believe me!) when they tell me they don't like what I've done, or what I've done was wrong. In terms of relationships, they don't really push much for that. They respect my feelings and at the same time look out for my welfare. I would say I'm pretty lucky in that department!
@aisa62379 (150)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Well i think i agree ...Truth does hurt like when your close friend say to your face that you used to be a pig now you are an elefant so need to lost some weight. I know its kinda hurtful but you know she's just concern about you. True friend say the hurtful things and fake friends doesnt.
@eLsMarie (4135)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I always believe in that saying but we should be very cautious also about the things that we utter whenever we wanted to disprove or criticize towards our friends. I don't consider a somebody a friend if he/she would be so good whenever I'm around and worst whenever I'm not around. I had this experience before and it really irks me because things habitually flashes through my mind that I was betrayed. I don't find any reason to disprove the quote because for me, it's true. Things will work out naturally if all are honest.
@salonga (25989)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
True friends are those who tell all your faults on your face and not at your back. I am not offended if my faults are revealed to me by my friends because that helps me change for the better. True friends never slander and if they did they can never qualify to be true friends. I hate people who speak behind my back but I hate even more those who pretend to be my friends but speaks ill of me when I am not around.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I also believe in that quote. My true friends always tells me the things that nobody else will tell me cause they are afraid to hurt my feelings. My real friends will tell the truth to my face cause they know that it will only make me better.
@greyz7 (861)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
hi there, very much true. true friends stab us in front. and i am one of the persons who stab my friend in front...it's a form of honesty, concern and above all,,,,...LOVE!
@JoyfulOne (6243)
• United States
20 Apr 10
I kind of agree with Oscar's philosophy there lol. A true friend doesn't talk about you behind your back, nor do they try and sabbotage you or your life, if they do that, then they are not a true friend. I think what he means by 'stabbing you in the front' means that a true friend would be able to bring up things in front of you and be honest with you, rather than going behind your back. Only a true friend can bring up touchy subjects and be brutally honest (yet kind). While both stab-in-the-back friends and stab-in-the-front friends comments still hurt, a 'front stabber' is probably telling you something for your own ears, and your own good. One is betrayal of friendship, and one is helpful friendship that is not meant to purposely hurt, but to help you.
@EvrWonder (3580)
• Canada
20 Apr 10
I agree that a true friend will stab you in the front, every time. Meaning that a true friend will have your back and will look you in the end and tell you that you are screwing up. A true friend with be looking out for your best interest because they care for you as a fellow human being. True friends are not back stabbing and know that they don't have to be. A true friendship should be as transparent that they are not worried about or reluctant to say it as it is. To call it as they see it. If they have to criticize a friend so to help the friend avoid bad behavior, a foreseen big mistake, then they know it is okay to do so. A true friend will thank one who does point out the obvious and the most intimate of details in a friends bad choices, behavior and such!
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Hey lyzabelle! I'm not so sure about true friends only stabbling you in the front and if you believe this you may be in for a rude awakening! True friends sometimes are the worst when it comes to backstabbing! And if you are suprised at this then you don't really know what a "true friend" can do! I have had my supposed "truest and closest friends" backstab me the worst than some of my not so close friends! You should never be so sure of your friends that you don't watch your back ever! I don't care what this quote says, I am talking from real life experiences! Never be blind to what a person that knows "your business" and professes to be "your good friend" can do! Always watch your back no matter how close you thing a friend is! Take my word for it! Always be wary when it comes to any friend, close or not!