who take care of your babies?
By viviya
@viviya (88)
China
May 8, 2010 9:24am CST
I notice that most of yuang moms would rather take care of their little babies by themselves here.Because they don't believe in others.some even get rid of their jobs and stay at home,to look after their children. Do you have little chidren?who do look after them for you?In your country,in your city,who do the job for the young couples?
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4 responses
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
8 May 10
When we adopted, my mother-in-law did not think because I did not give birth, that I was a natural mother so she always asked to let me hold them. I had a niece=in=law who was not that bright and because it is always assumed that they are better at loving children than others. So I really wanted to take care of my own babies. I would not mind someone holding them for a little while if I were going to do something, but only for a couple of hours.
i find with women who bore children, that once a woman is middle aged and did not have more then one child they will not call on her to babysit. They would rather go to the young mums.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 May 10
It is a problem, but there is a world of difference between a young mother who married young, and her husband was killed either in an accident or serving his country, or by a disease like cancer and a young mother who never married. In the first case, they have their mother-in-laws, and other relatives, but in the second case, they sort of thing that they can do it on their own, they loved their child more, etc.
So the latter are more likely to raise the babies themselves unless they let the grandparents do, but then even if they let the grandmother raise the baby, they act as if they are making this great sacrifice. Actually it was the grandmother making the sacrifice not her.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
9 May 10
Hi, viviya. I take care of my own kids when my husband is at work. I am a full time stay at home mother of three kids. My son is in school while my two girls stay with me during day the daytime. I don't work outside of the home at all. I do most of the taking care of my children. When my husband is home, he takes care of them too. I don't have a babysitter whom I let keep my kids whenever. It is me that takes care of my children. I prefer it to be this way.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
24 Feb 11
I have four children who are grown. Three of them are now married. My oldest daughter has three children herself. The youngest will be a year old next week (Oh godness, it doesn't seem possible!)
Tyra and Adam work different shifts in their jobs so that one of them is always at home with the babies who are (as I said) almost 1 years old, four years old and 6 years old.
If something happens that one has to work, then either my mother (the children's great grandmother) or my daughter in law will keep them. Rarely does someone outside the family keep the kids. It has nothing to do with trust, just that the kids would rather stay with Nanny and Aunt Whitney than anyone else. Also, it is a matter of money. Many day care centers charge way so much
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
28 May 10
My mother-in-law takes care of the kid, my kid is so attached to her and she takes care of her well.
