can you fall in love more than once?

United States
May 8, 2010 7:35pm CST
With my present partner, we say "I love you" to each other very often which got me thinking about the meaning of those three words. We both been in other relationships before and we both said "I love you" to our significant other at the time but now it seems like it didn't have any meaning. So, I wonder...are we really that insecure about ourselves that we need the assurance that someone have those feelings for us? or if in fact those feelings are real, why is it that in every new relationship we convinced ourselves that the last time we said "I love you" in another relationship it doesn't count?Tell me what u think...
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
11 May 10
hell0 there! well, I guess that I can fall in love more than once, just because I have already felt in love, but my ex left me and if I find the new one and fall in love with her, then I will fall in love for the second time. so that's why I think and I am also sure that I can fall in love twice or more and not only me, all the people can, or at least many of them!
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
9 May 10
i think if the relation is true then there is no need to say that i love u.. you shou;d say it sometimes. but not every times.. because words loose importance gradually.. but the feelings dont loose importance..
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 May 10
I think it is absolutely possible to fall in love more than once. We all search for that special romance to come along. We are so blessed when it can happen to us once, We have to believe that this joy can be ours again.
@elvira1 (101)
• Philippines
9 May 10
I could say that we fall in love more than once. I can also say that we fall in love at different degree in every person/relationship. Just as we fall in love with a person after we have fallen out of love with him/her.
@gfeef01 (537)
9 May 10
I would have to answer a huge resounding yes, just from personal experience if nothing else. I fell in love when i was younger, a huge yearing black hole in my stomach when we were apart love. i would have happily married him and to be honest if he had aproached me a year ago and told me he split from him wife i would still have taken him to be my husband. it's not that i've not loved since but it's been a weaker love, a less consuming one. It took me a long time to recover after him and in some ways i will always love him. but it was an unhealthy love and drove us apart ultimatly. Then last summer i met a different man, one who i felt completely myself with, who didn't consume me and yet i fell in love with him. a love that again causes a black hole, but doesn't tear my soul apart or make me deny who i am. it's a different love and one i hope to hold for the rest of our lives as we marry this year. Love is an emotion of the moment and should be expressed, but to deny love was real before is to call yourself a lier and deny you have learnt of love and so know of what you speak.
• Malaysia
9 May 10
Yes, i think our felling toward someone will changed base on how well or how kind he treat at us. If I realised that he somewhat likes start not love me and the signs he got a new relationship with other girl friend...or want to break out How many times that he used to said "I LOVE YOU " will not counted
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
9 May 10
I have only fallen in love once, and still inlove until now. He had ex girlfriends, but he was my first. It is very awkward for me to say i love you and even i miss you to other people because for me those words are special for him only.
• Philippines
9 May 10
that is the essence of loving...
• India
9 May 10
Hello and welcome to myLot, Oscar Wilde once said, People who love only once in their lives are really the shallow people. By saying this he actually didn't encourage frequent making and breaking of relationships. The inherent meaning of the sentence is that our strength to forget things is the most wonderful bliss we ever had as human beings. If we wouldn't be able to forget it, it would be really difficult to live. Time heals even the most fatal wounds. It is not true that the last time we said "I love you" didn't mean anything. When we did that, we meant that. That relationship didn't come into any fulfillment. So we decided to move on. Human beings are actually inclined to love and peace, by virtue of which we start renew our relationships as soon as we get over our past. Thanks God bless you
@champan (513)
• Argentina
9 May 10
Its difficult. Actaully, i had 2 relevant relationships, in both i said those words. But now, i think and realise the difference, and i know that the first one was REAL love. But that doesnt mean that if you broke up and,after some time, you are with someone new you arent allowed to say that. Its really nice to have the oportunity of falling in love again, or just to try it again. And of course you say those words in magic times, where all seems to be perfect, but maybe then with some time, you realize that that love you feel is not real love. Ok im saying too many things and i wont be able to reach a conclusion , i dont know really. At the moment i think there is one REAL love. But who knows...
@evepin (721)
• Philippines
9 May 10
in my case, i dont say i love you to a person unless i really mean them. so even when looking back at my past relationships, i cannot say that i didnt really love them because i did that time, even when it had to end.
@raj917 (66)
• India
9 May 10
can you fall in love more than once? good question.. We can change the girl firends/boy friends at any time. Now-a-days the thing is going on in this way only. I think its not a true love. If we really love some one, we can't fall in love again with some other one. If we love some one, we can leave him or we can miss them. But we cant forget the days and moments taht we were spended with him/her. Happy Mylotting :)
@keval32 (1096)
• India
9 May 10
Very thoughtful discussion I would say. As of me, there's no need to say " I Love You" very often, actually it doesn't need to be said at all. If we are loving someone our eyes say it automatically, actually eyes say it more effectively. It can not be kept hidden from someone if we love him or her. I would say when we keep saying I Love You to someone very often, our love to him or her get deteriorates. No need to say I Love You very often, it transpires what faithfulness we are having at our relationship. When we say it very often it just comes to prattle there's no actually meaning of it. That's my view on this topic, yours may be different.