May 8, 2010 10:31pm CST
When you're young, you dream of a big puffy white dress with the biggest cake and tons of guest and the whole shabang. I know some parents would tell their kids, wait til you are ready and when you have the money and all that such. But some can't really afford their dream wedding or can't always save enough money for it. So i was told that I should be married in front of God, in a church. Thing is my religion don't allow marrying in a church and I doubt I can afford such grand wedding. Is it weird to just want a max of 50 people or 100 max at the reception and marry in front of the judge? I keep getting negatives opinions about me not wanting a big wedding in a church and it's getting old.
3 people like this
• United States
9 May 10
there isn't anything wrong with wanting a small wedding. you can have any kind of wedding you want to have. who cares what other people think. I am engaged to get married, and i don't want a big wedding. i want just our four children, his mother and brother, and my sister and brother. that's it. and it will be in city hall. when you are ready to get married you do it any way you want to.
• United States
9 May 10
Go tell people to fly a kite. That day will belong to you and your other half, so anyone else should butt out. Whatever you all want and however way you all want it, then that's the way it should be. This is why some people just say forget it and keep to themselves and elope. If the pressure is really getting to you and you just can't be mean to them, by putting your foot down, then tell them that you and your other half will do everything that they want, at their expense. Everything from A to Z. Tell them to just set the time and date and you all will be there, at their convience, only. They'll probably call you a smart butt, for acting like this, but hey, in situations like this, there's no in between.---What kind of religion are you worshipping that won't allow you in a church? That's not a religion, that's a cult. You don't need to be dealing with anyone or anything that won't accept you, for who you are.
9 May 10
well of course you shouldn't marry in a church unless it's part of your religion. I never for one second considered marrying in a church, as I am not a Christian. I wasn't one of those children that dreamed of my wedding day as a child. I wasn't even sure if I would get married or not. when I did occasionally think about what sort of wedding I would have, I imagined that I would wear a red dress and marry in a stone circle. well, I was wrong about the dress, no one was more surprised than me when I chose an ivory dress. but it was still very me, it had lots of detailed beading and lace, and looked very vintagey and elegant. but we did marry in a stone circle. and then we had the legal ceremony in a cave. beside a subterranean lake, surrounded by hundreds and hundreds of candles. it was beautiful. the important thing is that your wedding day should reflect who you both are as a couple. it doesn't have to be expensive to have a wonderful wedding day. our day probably cost less than half of the average cost of a wedding in the UK, but it was really grand and glamourous and special.